My brother was evicted from his house about six months ago. I felt sorry for him and his teenage son and let them come stay with me. That was suppose to be for only 2 weeks, 2 months later they were still here. If it hadn't been for my apartment manager telling me to make them leave or I'd be evicted they would have never left. (He got very angry with me over this. Like it was my fault.) Now they are at my mother's home showing no signs of wanting to leave. He has a job, but never gave me any money to help with the bills; he doesn't help my mother either. He thinks he will come back here when my mother kicks him out. How do we get him out and take care of himself and his kid on his own?
By the way he's 43 years old and has a good paying job.
2007-02-04 08:47:50 · 7 answers · asked by treetopteresa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When you ask him for money to help out with the bills he gets all defensive. He has no bills other than gas for his car and cigarettes. But for some reason he's always broke. And no he doesn't drink or do drugs.
2007-02-04 13:28:21 · update #1
Wow, I understand your condition. I had a cousin live with me for two years until he seriously went over the line in misusing our house. When that happened, we talked to him seriously and told him what he was doing wrong. Talk to your brother and explain that a man his age with a teenage son should be living on his own instead of leeching off of his own family. If he insists on living there still, then sternly ask him to pay rent. Ask your mother to do the same. If he thinks you are ridiculous, over time he should understand. Make him understand that he should be ashamed and that what he is doing is wrong. Good luck!
2007-02-04 09:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by snowthump 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He now has a job so your mom needs to tell him there is no reason for him to continue to stay with her. Give him a deadline. Tell him he has to be out by the first of the month or something. Be blunt and strong then stand by what you say. Then offer no help in the beginning, you help him start a bad habit, thinking that you and your mom will take care of him and his responsibilities. It won't be easy but it will be necessary to be able to have a healthy and happy relationship with them in the future.
2007-02-04 16:59:53 · answer #2 · answered by w2kaad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH WOW,,,,,,,,,,You have a full blown Leech on your hands. The sad fact is that he is being a poor example for his teenage son. Monkey SEE Monkey DO. Stand strong when he comes BEGGING at your door. If you give an inch he will take a mile. 43 YEARS OLD,,,,,,,,,that is just plain despicable !!!!! Stay close to your Mom when the time comes to stand up for her. Sadly it will have to be her decision .
2007-02-04 17:07:41 · answer #3 · answered by iambettyboop 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pass this on to your mother...ask him to start paying rent and utilities and have him sign a lease to give him a set amount of time to find other housing arrangements...treat the fact that he lives with you as a business arrangement.
he needs to grow up and set a better example for his kid...
2007-02-04 19:11:43 · answer #4 · answered by skittle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to deal with a sponge...wring it out.
2007-02-04 17:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by J D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is out and u simply dont let him back in.
2007-02-04 16:58:48 · answer #6 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give him anything to soak up.
2007-02-04 17:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by Nico 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋