Cause I saw him kissing my best friend!Normally I have to say no,but I love him,and he tells me that he loves me more than anything,I don't know what to believe please help me!This is serious!
2007-02-04 08:36:51 · 16 answers · asked by romance_girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know in your heart that you should say 'no'. Otherwise you wouldn't need to ask. Any man who would smooch on another girl, especially his girlfriend's best friend, is not worth marrying. No matter what he says--anyone can say they love you, but their actions prove their words. His actions prove otherwise!
Marriage is such a throwaway thing nowadays, I think that is very sad. I've been married for 7 years, and sure there's times that I wanted to throw in the towel, but I love my husband and we make a great team. We were married when I was almost 25 and he was 30. I think that helped--we were each old enough to have had previous relationships and know what we were looking for, and mature enough to know that marriage was a permanent thing! We have good communication, we work together on problems, and have common goals. Not to say we're perfect, but just to say that sometimes it's good to wait and be sure that you really make a good pair, and that you are prepared to spend your lives together! Why throw away years of your life on someone who doesn't measure up.
2007-02-04 08:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmm! You saw him kissing your friend... and he is asking to marry you... First answer this questions;
1] Have you been friends for long?
2] Do you think he is unfaithful... I mean does he hang around with other ladies a lot and act in ways that suggests he doesn' care about how you feel?
3] Is he really your companion and someone you trust?
Now if he's been your friend for long and faithful then all you have to do is watch him for a while to see what he is really upto with your friend before confronting him about it and demand that he gives you a proper explanation for his actions.
But if he has not been your friend for long (at least a year) and he is exibiting this traits, then he is not worth it, for in that case he is proving to be incapable of a lasting commitment, which is what marriage is all about.
The important thing is,if he has been your friend for quite a while and he has been straight most of the time, then you should not nurse any fears, no man is perfect, maybe if you talk things over with him, he might let you into things, even those you never knew were there, explain things to you and reconvince you, so that the trust you once had in him, that makes you even want to consider him, rekindle.
A good man is a good man, even though he might show some signs of imperfection once in a while, it still doesn't change him. So also is a bad man, even though sometimes, they may appear like saints, do not fall for their whims.
Ultimately, you know him best, so take your time, all you have to do now is to observe him more closely and you will eventually answer all the arising questions, and when you must, interogate him, if he truelly loves you he will not leave you in the dark... at least not for long... so take your time... for to say "yes" is to give him your future.
2007-02-04 09:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by agboola f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him still (I don't know why) then put him on the spot and make him squirm. Ask him why he kissed her, what he got out of it. Get it out of your system and make him so uncomfortable that he rues the day that he ever kissed her. Also you have an issue with your suppose to be best friend. Do not let either one of them off the hook. My belief is once a dog always dog at least with the same person. I say send him off to someone new. Throughout your whole relationship every time you looked at him or your best friend the situation would be remembered.
2007-02-04 08:49:03 · answer #3 · answered by w2kaad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you he wouldn't be kissing another girl. if you think marrying him is the right thing to do. Then listen to your heart girl because your heart is always right because it is your gut feeling. If this guy is kissing some other girl then I am sorry I would ditch him even if you love him. He is cheating on you of all things he has to do that. No No No. That is wrong. I other words. When you go to bed just think for a minute what should I do.
2007-02-04 08:42:36 · answer #4 · answered by angelgril@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not enough info-Did you talk to him about kissing your best friend? Is she still your best friend? How old are you? How long have you been together? Has he ever cheated on you besides the friend?
If you are under 21 thenyou say no. If you are too intimidated to confront him or the best friend you should say no. If you have been together less the 2 years you should say no. If he has cheated on you with others you should say no. About the only way you should say yes is if your best friend and him were not kissing-he was giving her mouth to mouth because she was drownding
2007-02-04 08:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by dab1121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you believe he will be faithful? Tell him you want a prenup that states that if he cheats you get everything, the house the kids alimony and child support, plus a very generous settlement. If he hesitates then he thinks there is a chance he will cheat. And if he does agree readily get the prenup it is a good idea in all marriages either between the wealthy or the poor or just in between.
2007-02-04 08:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa I 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that this a big decision, tell your boyfriend that you need some time to think about this not because you don't love him but you want to think about it, plus you want to see if he has any more close interaction with other women. If he honestly loves you then go for it but give yourself sometime to think. Good luck and I hope either way that you are happy.
2007-02-04 08:42:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! and you are asking if he is the right guy for you-
he was kissing your best friend-enough said..
You love him, but marriage is commitment!
For a boyfriend kissing your best friend it doesn't sound like commitment to me????
2007-02-04 08:40:38 · answer #8 · answered by worldtrotter4112 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would you want to marry someone that kissed your BFF. Why is your BFF kissing your BF. You need to get rid of both of them and move on. If he loved you he wouldn't kissed your BFF.. thats crazy, Y r u even considering it. Move on.
2007-02-04 08:42:50 · answer #9 · answered by *sexy mocha* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u might want to find out y he was kissing ur best freind ?but if he tells u then u no u can trust him.relationships are based of trust. u should also see if ur best friend tells u.
2007-02-04 08:41:42 · answer #10 · answered by MeganElizabeth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋