Im 16 yrsold n from few days, my dad's friend came over. while everyone was out of sight... he appraoched and kissed me!!! i froze, didnt know wat to do, then every1 came in again. he is my dad;s friend!!! he's old enough to be my dad, im terrified, i ran away to my room and locked myself up till he was gone. i cant stand him coming inside anymore!! i dunno wat to do.. i cant tell anyone, especially my parents, i think they would kill him and i dont want them to get into trouble, what shall i do... i cant stand myself
2007-02-04 08:11:00 · 22 answers · asked by carol j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hey,
You should tell your parents about this, do not wait till he actually rapes you.
good luck!
2007-02-04 08:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by GerMel 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You gotta tell your parents.. this has to stop right now, if nothing happeneds, then he may continue his actions. I'm sure though that your parents knew there was something wrong when you since you stayed in your room. Your dad may be friends with this man but he deserves to know the truth, so that he doesn't continue to hang around with a sick person. Your dad doesn't need that sort of crap in his life and neither do you. What that man did was wrong he took advantage of you, and he should not be allowed to get away with it. Who knows maybe this has happened to other young girls who couldn't use their voice, and be heard. Be strong stand and your grown and use your voice.
2007-02-04 16:21:43 · answer #2 · answered by bulldogsr2cute 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had the same issue, but only worse. My parents were really good friends with a neighbor guy. He came over and helped in the garden and little odd jobs. They even left him to babysit me sometimes. That is where the problems started. He molested me. Never under my clothing, but he would ask me to sit on his lap and then he would grab my breast (didn't really have any at that age) and keep squeezing them. I was so scared and even more scared to tell my parents. I thought they would hate me or blame me in some way. It went on for years because I was so scared to tell them. Finally I told a friend of mine about it and she refused to spend the night at my house if he was going to be around. I finally got the nerve to tell my mom what happened and I never had to see that old man again. I don't know what they did but he was never a part of our lives again and they never made me feel like it was my fault.
Please tell your parents. You did nothing wrong. Good luck
2007-02-04 17:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by ஐ♥Gin♥ஐ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i were your father, I'd damn sure as hell want to know this, and then I'd take care of this PEDOPHILE the way men do. What you've already been put through is soooo wrong, and not your fault. I think maybe you're displacing your resentment that should be aimed at that bastard and placing it upon yourself.
Now listen up: this guy has done this to other kids, and will do it again until someone stops him. Acting now could prevent this from happening again. Surely you wouldn't want this to happen to another girl?
2007-02-04 16:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definently TELL your parents. If you don't it may signal that it was either ok for him to do that and he can do it again Or shows him that your to scared to do something and he can do it again. It wasn't ok. He knew that, thats why he did it when everyone was out of the room. If you feel like you can't go to your parents first then go to a family friend or counsoler.. He might be testing you to see how far he can take it.
2007-02-04 17:38:05 · answer #5 · answered by Jomahawk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not a trouble. He is probably just some sort of pervert, it is so rude. It happens to 80% girls, trust me. You should have pushed him away, hit him. Something a lot worse than that could happen. Don't be so passive next time. Stuff like this happened to me a lot, i just learned how to deal with such people. I am usually very aggressive now.
Tell him not to approach you or you will tell your parents. It is harassment. Trust me, he will never do it again if you say that.
2007-02-04 17:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by Lady of the Lowlands 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's crossed the line. it can only lead to worse how you feel. If you can't tell you parents directly, talk to the school couselor who will have to report it to social servies. In no way was this your fault.The guy could be doing more to some other girl. You are very brave to at least reach out on answers.
2007-02-04 16:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by nancy e 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
the only other way to handle this situation if u dont wanna tell your parents is to stand up to him and be very stern and tell him there are huge punishments for grown men trying to mess with young girls in this country and if he persist ur definately take action and make sure he gets punished for what he is doing. if say exactly what i told u, he should leave u alone.
make sure u look him in the eye and be real tough about it. u gotta be confident, if u arent it might not work
2007-02-04 16:17:18 · answer #8 · answered by GaMi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your mother now! Don't protect that pervert w/ your silence. Next time he may try something more than a kiss. Your wellbeing is more important then any friendship your parents might have.
2007-02-04 16:15:42 · answer #9 · answered by workingclasshero 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your mom at least if not both parents. They NEED to know. He needs to be stopped now.
By not saying anything you are giving him more power. Take his power away by talking. Talk to everyone and anyone. I would hate for you to be hurt by this guy.
2007-02-04 17:30:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Typical lifetime movie><
2007-02-04 16:14:36 · answer #11 · answered by looloo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋