He called my mama bi*ch?

Question

my brother called my mama that in her face like a million times and tried to fight my stepdaddy and jacked my little sister up against tha wall and he's on parol and no matter how many times we call tha cops they say they cant keep him because he's only 14 and they need a court order and my stepdaddy said he cant live in the house with him what can we do when he cant even put him out since he is underaged

Answer 1

What is Juvenile Delinquency?
Children often test the limits and boundaries set by their parents and other authority figures. Among adolescents some rebelliousness and experimentation is common. However a few children consistently participate in problematic behaviors that negatively affect their family academic social and personal functioning. These children present great concern to parents and the community at large.

Delinquency a legal term for criminal behavior carried out by a juvenile is often the result of escalating problematic behavior. Definitions of delinquency vary among different groups. To alleviate confusion we describe four perspectives on delinquency:

A Parental View:
Parents may define disruptive and delinquent behavior as disobedience fighting with siblings destroying or damaging property stealing money from family members or threatening parents with violence.

An Educational View:
School staff members often regard delinquent behavior as that which interrupts or disturbs classroom learning violates the school code of conduct and threatens the safety of faculty and students.

A Mental Health View:
Mental health professionals consider delinquency to include a wide range of disruptive behaviors that may involve aggression toward others or animals destruction of property deceitfulness theft and violations of curfew and school attendance.

A Legal System View:
The majority of states and the federal government consider persons under the age of 18 to be juveniles. However when children under this age commit serious crimes (for example murder) they may be prosecuted as adults.

From a juvenile justice perspective delinquent behavior is divided into two categories: "status" offenses and "delinquency" offenses. Status offenses are those acts which would not be considered offenses if committed by an adult; they include acts such as truancy (skipping school) running away alcohol possession or use and curfew violations. Delinquency offenses involve destruction or theft of property commission of violent crimes against persons illegal weapon possession and possession or sale of illegal drugs.

Prevalence
Many may think that juvenile crime is on the rise but it may actually be declining. According to a 1999 report by the Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI) violent juvenile crimes fell steadily from 1995 to 1998 after peaking in 1994 and the arrest rate for violent juvenile crimes declined 30% from 1994 through 1998. (For more information call the Juvenile Justice Clearinghouse 1-800-638-8736 or log onto http://www.ojjdp.ncjrs.org.)

Examples of Juvenile Delinquency Crimes
According to the FBI crimes committed by juvenile delinquents include the following categories:

Breaking Curfew
Underage drinking
Running away
Vandalism
Motor vehicle theft
Larceny / theft
Burglary
Robbery
Arson
Juvenile Delinquents: Who Are They?
There are no definite predictors that indicate exactly which children will engage in delinquent behavior and activities. However some statistics indicate that girls are arrested less frequently than boys and children from lower socioeconomic levels perpetrate delinquent acts at a higher rate than children from other socioeconomic classes. Nonetheless although social conditions are linked to higher rates of delinquency many youngsters growing up in disadvantaged environments manage to avoid delinquent behavior while some youngsters growing up in advantaged environments engage in delinquent activities.

Age of Onset: Does It Make a Difference?
There are two types of adolescent delinquents: early onset and late onset. Here are lists of characteristics for the two groups:

Early Onset Late Onset
Symptoms occur early in childhood Symptoms occur in adolescence
Usually affects males Affects both males and females
Less effective socialization skills Greater understanding of norms and standards
Poor peer relationships Very influential peer group
Families in crisis Permissive families
Commit more serious and violent crimes Commit less serious crimes
Later become chronic adult offenders Unlikely to violate laws as an adult
(Source: Steinberg L. Adolescence. 1996)


Early-onset delinquents are usually males who have a history of aggression and violent behavior beginning as early as elementary school age. There may be a link to Attention Disorders which are characterized by several symptoms including impulsiveness and to Oppositional & Defiant Behavior which is characterized by aggression and rule-breaking. A significant number of early-onset delinquents have an exaggerated tendency to believe that others have hostile intentions towards them. This belief along with the impulsiveness characteristic of attention disorders may make it extremely difficult for the child or adolescent to appropriately evaluate perceived threats in the environment. This combination frequently leads to conflicts with family members and peers as well as problems adjusting to different school situations.

Early offenders often come from families from low socioeconomic levels in which parents are experiencing crises. Adolescents who begin to exhibit delinquent behavior at an early age may be more likely to go on to commit more serious crimes and become chronic adult offenders.

Late-onset delinquents (that is those who become involved in delinquent behavior during their teenage years) rarely continue this behavior into adulthood. For these juveniles peer pressure is likely to be the biggest factor in their decision to engage in problematic behavior. These adolescents often come from permissive families in which they are given a lot of freedom and are not very closely monitored by the adults who are responsible for them.

Contributing Factors
According to a 1992 journal article by E. M. Scholte there are three main influences on the development of delinquent behavior in adolescents: family peers and school.

Family:
Family factors which may affect the development of juvenile delinquency include intense and relentless family conflict. Such conflict could be characterized by domestic violence dysfunctional family cohesiveness child abuse and neglect parental inability to express appropriate affection toward a child lack of adequate supervision of a child and rigid and non-democratic child rearing practices.

Peers:
Adolescence is a stage of development in which acceptance by one's peers becomes extremely important to the juvenile's sense of self-worth. Associating with a circle of friends who exhibit delinquent behaviors and perform delinquent acts increases the risk of non-conformity to social norms as well as deviant and delinquent behaviors.

School:
Poor academic performance and classroom conduct problems may be predictors of later delinquency. Lack of academic competency creates feelings of alienation worthlessness and low self-esteem. Truancy is often a child's way of dealing with school-related failures.

Delinquent Behavior: Signs and Symptoms
The emergence of behavior problems can be detected as early as age two. Opposition to parents and aggressive behavior with other children are natural developmental pathways for toddlers. These oppositional behaviors typically decline between the ages of 3 and 6 as children acquire the ability to use appropriate speech; this ability facilitates the expression of needs and feelings as well as the resolution of conflict. However failure to develop complementary behaviors such as honesty non-aggression and respect for authority figures may lead to problematic behaviors such as the following:

Authority Conflict- Stubborn and defiant behavior disobedience to parents and other authority figures skipping classes or not attending school at all and running away from home as a means of avoiding rules and regulations.
Covert Acts- Lying shoplifting property damage (including vandalism and fire-setting) or more serious forms of property damage such as burglary.
Overt Acts- Annoying and bullying others physical fighting gang fighting and other violent behaviors such as attacking others with a weapon and sexual assault. If you fear that your child may be heading down a path towards delinquency or is at a high risk for developing these behaviors then keep in mind that prevention is the best solution
Prevention Methods
The prevention of delinquency requires identifying at-risk individuals and their environments before delinquent activity and behavior occur and then removing such risk factors or strengthening resistance to the risk factors already present. The most logical starting place for prevention efforts is the family.

Build family cohesiveness and parent-child relationships by taking time each week to have fun as a family spending 10-15 minutes alone with your child at least once a week and listening attentively to your child.
Monitor your child's activities: always ask where your child is going with whom and when your child will be back.
Set logical rules for behavior according to your child's age and then apply age-appropriate consequences fairly and consistently when the rules are broken.
Get to know your child's friends and their families.
Adopt a democratic parenting style by allowing your child's voice to be heard: listen respectfully when your child is talking and make good eye contact at all times.
Offer to help with academic problems and show concern about your child's studies and behavior in school. At the end of each day ask what went well in school and what problems occurred.
Talk to your child about peer pressure and the physical and emotional changes expected during the teen years. Calmly explain what you expect from your child in the way of appropriate behavior.
Assist your child in making good decisions by being a good role model: make good decisions yourself and show your child how to evaluate the consequences of planned and completed behaviors.
Use natural or logical consequences (rather than punishment) in applying discipline. For example if a child writes on the wall a logical consequence would be for her to scrub the wall clean and paint it.
Enroll your child in youth recreational activities such as Boys' and Girls' Clubs extra-curricular sports clubs at school and athletic programs run by the YMCA and other well-known non-profit agencies. If the methods stated above are already in place but are not working as effectively as you would like then it may be time to consult a professional. Treatment is the next step.
Treatment Methods
Individual family and group counseling. Job training programs for adolescents such as vocational training. Probation Remember prevention of delinquent behavior is the best way to avoid having to consider methods of treatment! However if your child chooses to engage in delinquent behavior then he must also accept the consequences of those actions. Be firm and consistent.

Answer 2

It sounds like to me this brother needs a dose of TOUGH LOVE! I know this must be a hard time for everyone in the house.He needs the the same thing my mom done to my brother, which means your mom and stepdad are going to have to get a backbone. First, she changed all the locks on the house. Told him he was not welcome at her house, and to get all of his stuff out of the house. It sounds like your brother is mad about something! Like your mom and Dad's divorce. See if his real dad will let him live with him. Next, if he is on parole and he wants to be tough. Let him find his own way to see his parole officer. It may mean you will need to do some things that are tough.If he has to live in God knows were. Thats his problem. If he still refuses to leave, the next day, go to the Police Depardment and set a warrent out on him. Yes, I know that hes your brother and you don't want to do this, but you have to! It's the only way that you and your family can make things better. The thing is, the warrent might work because it is a court order. He probably don't know that! I hope things go well with this advice. I'm sure that if oyu let your mom and stepdad read this, I bet they will use it. I'm positive!!! Hope everything goes well!!!

Answer 3

Call DSS or the Juvenile Court and see what your alternatives are. If your brother is physically abusing his family members I would well imagine that the police could do something about it if only arrest him and have him summonsed to court and let the justice system take over. Also check w/ his school guidance counselor - the boy is out of line and there's got to be a recourse other that letting it fly.
Family counseling is another fine idea.

Answer 4

This is why i quit teaching he needs to be put in his place physically. He is behaving like an animal so give him a dose of his own medicine.

Its jnhumane? what do you think will happen if he behaves like that in prison?

But thats ok because we wont see it! It needs sorting out now before it gets out of hand. There is millions of these little shits all over america and the UK thats the next generation hope you are ready for it.

Answer 5

take him and get him a phcological evaluation, ususaly a doctor can do more about getting him locked up than police i know that sounds backwards but my parents are going threw the same thing with my brother, police dont really care unless hes an adult. the'll probly try and put him on meds and set guild lines for him, a docter can have him locked up before he breakes the law, you cant stop him but you can slow him down

Answer 6

All u can do is take everything away from him.Plus make his life a living hell like he is making your families. No t.v,pc,telephone,and the list goes on.Maybe he'll get a hint.Plus he can't go anywhere.Thats the best advise I can give u. Plus u and your parents lock your bedroom door.Good luck hon. I just want u to know I work with children and u really need to lock your bedrooms when u are sleeping...

Answer 7

Wow. You poor thing. You are being abused by a family member. Does the state you live in have PINS ( Persons in need of services) or cant you take him to family court to be put on probation? This would make him a ward of the court and they could put him in an institution and get him the help he needs. Good luck!!

Answer 8

Sounds like a tough situation. Get some counseling for yourselves. Remember you can not change someone else's behavior, but you can change your own.

Answer 9

Put him up in boys home or juvenille's prison. Pack up his stuff and throw it out the door. It may seem cruel but it's the last resort. He's out of control.

Answer 10

Honey, you married a jerk. And once a jerk, always one. Surely you know you deserve better than this. If you were my sista, this is what our mother would have begun to hammer into your head too, beginning at age 13. 1. The most important decision you will ever make is who you marry. Choose with your head as well as your heart. 2. Have no children until your bond is strong, and have no more than you yourself can support. You may just have to 3. At any and all costs finish your education to qualify for those high paying jobs. It is likely that you will work sometime during your marriage, probably for decades…. Get paid for it. And remember, your kids and your education are forever…. Husbands, lovers and promises are not!! 4. Have a stash of cash no one knows about even if you are sure you will never need it. You absolutely will, and the more the better. Stay with this guy? What ARE you thinking. Get yourself and your life back on track. ... get back in school, and get this dude gone.... Marriage is Respect, Admiration, Passion and Trust. The trust is in the toilet with the visual of this dude pronging another woman, and for sure you have no Admiration or Respect for him.... You have no marriage, sweetie, you have an occasional boinking buddy who has sired a few of your children..... flush him, hon, and find yourself a nice guy.... you are being kept as the Jerk in Reserve if you stay, and no one needs a piece of tail that bad. And if you like the abuse, you have no self respect... And that's the truth, hon, and you know it...and your children deserve a better role model. All that they will learn from him is that it is okay to treat women like sh(h) it and okay as a woman to be treated this way.... wake up hon, before another generation grows up and gets treated this way... Be a real mom to your children.... they have no father. They had a sperm donor.

Answer 11

for starts you need to get your little sister out of there. shes probably scared as hell and she cant do anything especially if you stepdad cant do anything. thats the only thing i can recomend. you and her are in danger. so get out of there. but yes find a way to punish him. send him to a military school or something thats not illegal. and its not putting him out.