I have to ask this girl out, my friend, but dont know how??

Question

Well im a really shy guy and i really like this girl who is my friend. we have two classes back to back together and she waits for me at the end of the class and we walk together. She is a total bombshell and i definatly dont think i could ask her out face to face cause i would probably die. I care about her a lot and we are going to different colleges in the same city about 5 min apart. i really think we could have a great relationship and someone please tell me how i could ask her out. she's a friend of mine on facebook and should i ask her out on there. there is also another guy that i think likes her too and i def dont want to wait till valentines day because i dont want him to get her first.

Answer 1

Talk to her and ask her

Answer 2

I understand your problem. There is no one definite answer to this question, as there is also no one definite outcome. But based on my experience in a very similar situation, I can give you some advice and some things you need to consider.

First, you obviously know this girl pretty well if she's waiting for you after class. Do you know if she's had a boyfriend in the recent past? If so, you may want to hold off for a little while because alot of times girls will hang on to someone emotionally even if they're no longer around physically. But only you know whether this is an issue or not.

If the aforementioned topic is not an issue, then the next thing you need to think about is whether or not you think she looks at you as a possibility of a boyfriend. If you get the feeling that she looks at you as just a buddy, then you might want to hold off. But if you feel like she's sending a vibe that she at least thinks you're cute, then don't wait any longer.

Next, how long have you guys been friends? I'm asking this because you need to consider that before asking her out. If you've been friends for a short time and you might think it will affect your friendship, you'll have to decide for yourself if it's worth the risk. But if you've been friends for a relatively long period of time (a year or more), then even if she isn't interested, your friendship will most likely survive.

Here's my advice: I know you said asking her out face to face would make you die, but you're going to have to risk it, because unless you're in 3rd grade, sending her a note or asking a friend to do the talking for you won't work. Most women want to be with someone who can at least show that they can work up the confidence to ask them out, even if you're still shy the rest of the year after that.

I know it's hard, it's always hard when you don't know how the other person feels about you, and it's doublely hard if the person is a good friend. But believe me, it's no worse than the first time you jump off of a 130 ft cliff into deep water, or the first time you go skiing down a huge slope, because I've done
both of those, and asking a woman out can be just as scary if you're not used to doing it. But that shouldn't stop you from doing it.

The only other thing I can say is don't ask her out on a date outright. What I mean is don't qualify it as a date. Be very cool about it, very light-hearted, and just ask her to do something as friends, like a movie or a concert or roller skating or ice skating, or whatever you think she might want to do. Then you can find out if she has a good time with you away from school, and if she does, hang out with her a few more times.

And then, if everything seems to be going well, then be brave, take a deep breath, and tell her how you feel. Believe me, women are extremely insightful, and even if you're only asking her initially to do something as friends, she'll know that there's a possibility that you want more than that, and if she says yes, that means she's willing to at least test the waters with you.

Answer 3

Well it's difficult to ask a girl out unless you do it face to face, you want her to see that you really like her and that you really want to be with her, the only other thing I can think of is to physically take a pen and paper and write her a letter(you want her to see that you've put effort into it), explaining that you are very shy when it comes to asking her out and ask her out through the letter, but give her the letter and stick around while she reads it. That way she can still see you blush and see that you really do have feelings for her, if you can't formulate the words with your mouth let your pen do it, but don't let it do all the talking.

Answer 4

Bombshell........i suggest the method that wont cost you is to be ur real self.for both of you to be walking together shows that she can trust you.you people are still young;i mean still have long ways to go.if you know the best way to her better tomorow,pls encourage her.dont be too possesive or dominant.free ur mind and be real nice to her.at least let her know you are from a home and not from a house...you are responsible.our heart is so tender to get,not with millions.competiting to tell her first might spoil the existing relationship so far.love grows with mutual understanding and it has no ills.it comes with easy.i wish u all d best.

Answer 5

just get her alone and say "theres something i'v been wanting to ask you. will you go out with me". Maybe get her a rose or something then give it to her when you ask her.