im a uni student and a female...and want my dad to stay happy and i dont wanna fight with him
2007-02-04 07:52:44 · 15 answers · asked by Betty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Be respectful and listen to his advice as only wants the best for you. If you disagree with what he says to do, tell him you love him and are thankful for his advice but politely remind him that your now an adult and need to find your own path in life, this includes making and learning from your own mistakes...
Make your dad happy by being happy yourself and by making a success of your own life...
2007-02-04 08:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by brownsuga 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He needs to have his own motivation for this, maybe he has things he needs to get over etc.
Sounds like spending time with him would be good anyway - perhaps you're now living away from home. Focus on your shared values, the bigger picture, rather than getting embroiled with arguments about petty stuff? Maybe the fights are just illustrating that there's some other hidden stresses there, that may be better resolved in an open fashion. It can be hard for parents, as kids mature and they're left alone with empty homes. Perhaps it highlights things like their being single.
If you can get him to open up, assuming he wants to, maybe there are things he would be happy to share with you - and vice versa. If you're living away, consider inviting him over to stay nearby in a b&b or something, so that you can have a weekend together regularly, without you having to go back home all the time. The break from his home may do him some good too.
Good luck! Rob
2007-02-04 08:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by Rob E 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not your dad who lives your life, it is supposed to be you. You're giving up a lot of things because he wants you to; however, if you don't want to do those things, then you're just setting yourself up to be miserable. Also, his hypocrisy is stunning. He may regret getting tattoos and smoking, but threatening to kick you out of the house is going very far. Sounds like he is holding a lot of things against you and wants to mould you into a model daughter, someone he can brag about. As for studying, do you think you will ever go into law or politics? If so, then you're fine, but if not, then you've wasted years of study. Stop trying to make him happy all the time and start living your own life. You've been making compromises for years, and now it's time for him to compromise as well, and realise you're not his little girl anymore, but you are a grown woman who has to start making her own decisions, and be allowed to do so. If he refuses, he's only setting himself and you up for heartbreak in the long term, because you may grow to resent his influence later in life.
2016-05-24 05:12:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Y'can't make another person happy. They themselves choose whether they're happy or not. Don't fight with him; just do your own thing. You have quite enough to occupy your time and attention at university. I'm not saying ignore him, but there are ways to make him think you're listening to him and trying to go along with what he asks without actually doing it. Dishonest? Yes, a little - but it's also about self-preservation. Go ahead and get your degree and go on into your chosen field. I'd be willing to bet that eventually, your daddy will come around.
2007-02-04 08:10:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Arrange to see or meet you dad where you will have an interest, a nice meal or whatever. If you know there are issues that will start you off fighting make a pact say on he phone or the minute you meet up that certain things are not going to be discussed.
2007-02-04 10:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe spend a day with him, maybe to a movie, or if you can cook , make a nice dinner, and went a movie, you two both like to watch, Hope this helps.Talking is the beat thing there is.
2007-02-04 14:51:07 · answer #6 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bring home a nice boyfriend and tell your dad if he carries on making you miserable you'll go and live with the fella.
2007-02-04 08:03:04 · answer #7 · answered by the Jamster 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your dad should be proud of you no matter what you do because your not on drugs and not a dead head you are at university what more could he ask for
2007-02-08 05:23:27 · answer #8 · answered by top cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats tough, what r u fighting about?
Maybe what is bothering him has nothing to do with you, he is just taking it out on you.
2007-02-04 07:58:09 · answer #9 · answered by thickchick 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you love him try to prevent the arguements he might just need someone to talk to ask him. tell him you will always be there for him and that your love is unconditional. just be his daughter that should make him happy
2007-02-04 09:49:05 · answer #10 · answered by samantha l 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋