My daughter tells me to shut up at times,
other times she'll call be stupid or idiot.
I don't know how to handle this, I've been
trying to ignore it but it's starting to get to me.
What should I do?
2007-02-04 07:45:35 · 8 answers · asked by lynda 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
That's the problem: you've ignored it, rather than pre-emptively nipping in the bud before it got out of hand.
On the few times I tried that with my mom, she gave me a well-deserved slap across the face. Try it with your kid, it might work wonders!
If you are the kind who refuses to discipline your kid for fear of bruising his or her ego, or only gives the kid a "time out" then frankly, it's your own fault the kid is like this. Kids require firm discipline, and you're his mom, not his "friend." Sometimes being a parent means being "the bad guy," and there's nothing you can do about it.
2007-02-04 07:51:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
well the fact that uve ignored her is not good, cuz in her mind because ur not doing anything she thinks its ok and that she is the one in control but its the oppasite in reality. first, when she sais it tell her that its disgusting and u will not accept that type of sttitude from her an remimd her that u r the one in charge and then take away privleges like watching tv, video games, friends ect.. and if that doesnt work then ur daughter need mental help.. or if all else fails i crowbar to the head should fix things.. lol hahaha lol jks, no crowbar.. but everything else is good.
2007-02-04 16:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by tyler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first off the entire problem exists because you ignored it..
I would have been slapped accross the mouth if I had ever said those things to my parents.It is very disrespectful and her telling you your an idiot and stupid is also psychological abuse.
I dont know why she is doing this - if its a reaction to an action or if shes just wanting attention,but shes right at those teen years so you better sit on her now,and not let it go any further or you will have even bigger problems.
Here are a few suggestions -
1) Make out a chore chart,and on the cchart put consaquences for the negative behavior.ok, like if she washes the dishes she earns $1,but then if she calls you a name the $1 is gone...be imaginative,and include her in the making of the chart.
2) you could try time out,but I dont think it would work very well at this point.but how about taking away privladges - if you do this - this will happen .
3)how about family counceling for the two of you,and ask for her to also see a psychologist
hope this helps
2007-02-04 16:40:54 · answer #3 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. Sit down with her and talk to her as an equal. she's testing the water and she needs to know that you are a strong parent - not a friend. Let her know you will not tolerate that from her....there is most likely something else going on. TALKING is the best thing.
2007-02-04 16:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignoring is ok to do sometimes with little children who are testing their limits with you or making noises to bug you, etc.., but with a 12 year old since she does it and you ignore it, she thinks she can get away with it. She knows she isnt going to get into trouble for it. Everytime she calls you a name, you should go get whatever it is that she likes best and take it away from her. When she can come to you and tell you sorry, or you see that she is not calling you names any longer, then you can give it back to her. If she does it again, take it away, or dont allow her to go do anything with any friends. She will learn then, that its not okay to be disrespectful to her mom.
2007-02-04 16:12:34 · answer #5 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing is you need to stop ignoring it. That just makes things worse. Discipline her for it and stay at it. Let her know it is not acceptable.
2007-02-04 16:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by elizabethma2k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PUNISH PUNISH and PUNISH! take away the television privelages, take away computer, video games, music player, and anything else she likes. If it is too out of hand, come get dad to spank her. She should feel embarrassed that she is being treated like a child with spanking. Tell her that she is acting like a child. It's unacceptable for ur kid to talk to you like this.
2007-02-04 17:15:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take away priveledges. If she wants a new outfit, say you're too stupid to write the check or drive her to the mall.
Punish her bad behavior.
2007-02-04 15:54:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋