the problem is she is sweet as can be to my bf(we are getting married next mon)as long as he does what she wants.but can't stand me and goes out of her way to let me know she has a child with my bf so shes more "family " to him then i am.she allways trys to come between my bf and i by not allowing me to share in thier sons life.for example i'm not allowed at any school function.my bf has joint custody so he and his ex have daily contact so its not possible for me to just ignore her as shes in our life so much .when ever we see her which is often shes all chaty smiling sweetly to my bf then looks at me and glares.the funny thing is he left her and cheated on her(not with me) how can i learn to deal with on my own as my bf will not stand up for me as he feels it will only make problems for his son.
2007-02-04 07:23:35 · 5 answers · asked by suemac502 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This woman is obviously very jealous and resentful of you. Just remember that you can't do anything to change her so why bother wasting your time and energy. You have just as much right to be at your future stepson's events as your b/f and her making a fuss about it will just let others see her true colours. You will be the innocent victim trying to get along with you new family member and she will look like the shrew.
When you are around her just smile at her and don't engage in any verbal confrontations. She will get tired of baiting and trying to upset you when she realizes it is impossible.
What I don't understand is why women with children wouldn't want the step parent to have a good relationship with the child. I would be ecstatic if my ex had a nice gf who took time to care about and make my childs time spent with that parent more enjoyable.
The trouble with mean spirited people like her is that her son will probably want o bail out and come and live with you two when he is old enough to realize how sick her jealousy really is. Good luck to you. I experienced much the same thing and today I realize that she is the one that was sick and unhappy. I am glad that I was able to just let it go and get on with my relationship with my now husband. We have a great marriage the children are all grown and moved out and we just have each other to worry about. This will happen with her as well and her last little bit of control over your bf will be gone. Best of luck.
2007-02-04 07:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as your boyfriend will not stick up for your rights then you will continue to have no rights, and you will always be an outsider, this is why I tell my friends not to get involved with divorced women with kids, and I guess the same is true the other way around, talk to your bf and tell him how your feeling and if nothing changes the I think you really need to think about if you can live ther rest of your life being the outsider and in your own home yet!! get the hell out, and find a guy without all the strings, but you do have to give your bf credit, a lot of guys walk out on their first family, and have no contact and then go out and have a second family, I never understand that one!! good luck.
2007-02-04 07:44:58 · answer #2 · answered by Sir Hard & Thick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your bf to get a backbone and show you some respect. If he isn't going to do anything about it then he obviously doesn't have any respect for you and isn't over his ex-wife yet. If he really want your relationship to work then he will do what ever it takes to make things right with you. He left his wife for a reason and maybe you should remind him of that. If he continues to treat you like a doormat then I say move on, there are plenty of men out there.
2007-02-04 08:11:13 · answer #3 · answered by truckerman96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf's ex comparable way. She cheated. He tries to be amblicable. she would be able to't stand how the divorce got here out, he have been given 50/50 and moved on with out her (we've a eye-catching abode and he or she is in a tiny residence). it is been 2 years and he or she nonetheless is as impolite, and a screaming maniac as she grew to become into the 1st time I met her. only wait till you have a modern-day female chum - it gets worse! Get a humorousness, and allow her words roll off your lower back. . . stroll away.
2016-09-28 10:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until she finds a new love interest she will continue to act this way, maybe even then. You have to decide right now if you want to live with her for the rest of your life. Your boyfriend isn't going to help and there's nothing you can do to make her change. Because of the child they share they will have a connection for the rest of their lives.
2007-02-04 07:33:46 · answer #5 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋