What is the best way to discipline my children, and still show them I love them?

Question

I am constantly yelling at my child for not listening or trying to get him to do what I say. How can I get him to listen and still show him I love him?

Answer 1

I do believe in spanking because the Bible says "Spare the rod, spoil the child". But spanking isnt always the best option. Often its best to take away a privilage or a favorite activity. As for yelling, its only teaching your child that yelling is the best way to deal with a problem. My wife and I do yell at times but we arent perfect nor are you. Just dont beat yourself up over it, make a change! We have 2 young boys and they either fight and yell at eachother in anger or they fight and yell in play time...LOL! Make sure before punishing that they know why they are in trouble and after the punishment do the same. Thats the MOST important thing!

Answer 2

Depending on how long this behavior has been going on. I don't know why parents think that if u discipline your child that there is no love. U can't let something go on for a long time and then decide to change it. It should have been done in the beginning. So now it is time to sit everybody down and introduce some rules. Stick to them so that they will know that U R not playing and always let them know why this is the way it is. Letting my child do what they want is not good all the time because there is no boundaries or limitations. Therefore when they get to the real world they r going think that they can do whatever and they r going to get in trouble or hurt. Tough love is proven to work and letting people do what they want to do to me is a sign of not caring when u know the fire is hot and will burn and u do nothing to stop them from hurting themselves. What kind of love is that. Be the parent that God wants u to b and b strong in your decisions and practice it and in the long run they will respect and honor u for u have tried to teach and love them and show them the way of peace, love and happiness. God Bless and good luck.

Answer 3

Never yell, hit, or be force full to a child...I find that working with or explaining why I would like them to do a certain thing works some of the time....DEPENDING on the age group If they are still young by doing some of this will work if you end up working beside them as you both pick up things explain that the reason why you like the room,toys picked up...Little ones are eager to try and please their parents..Do not get me wrong they are not always willing to do things..For time outs goes by the age one minute for each year...By yelling at them all they will do is shut down and not even know why it is that you are yelling...It takes a lot of saying the same thing over,and over again as well as showing where things are to go..Just remember that they are young and are learning new things...

If your talking about teens..I like to refer to them as teen monsters...I have a 17 yr old who is AWESOME in the ways of NOT doing drugs,drinking,and no sex Witch I might add I am very grateful about...Now the down side Yes sometimes she and her dad as well as myself yell..I can tell you that we each get SO mad that I say hold up I will not argue with you...I find that taking what they love best away from them for a week or so sometimes not always works..How ever if you have a child that no matter what you say or do "witch we had one of those" is not good enough and they want to still want to yell..The best thing I ever did for that child was to bring them into the bathroom and have her look into the mirror and argue with the person you are looking at when you feel your done come on out and be with the rest of us

Answer 4

I have started to spank. With love. Let them know why they are going to recieve the punishment and let them think about it for 5 minutes. Pull down the pants, lay over yor knee or chair if to big, and administer 6 to 10 slaps on the bottom. Then it is very important to maybe give a litle hug after and explain that it really hurts you to do this. believe me, I have just started doing this after chosing not to spank originally, and it does work. But yelling at a child or spanking through anger will have negative effects.

Answer 5

If he is under 13 then u are expecting to much.Plus if u yell instead of talking calmy then they will shut down.When u yell at a young child they get very upset so they really don't hear u. You need to tell them in short sentences what u want from them.Doing this calmy.I don't know the age so I can't tell u what to expect from the child. If they are not doing what u ask on purpose then u need to take something away from them.Good luck

Answer 6

Disciplining your children is loving them. You need to respond to your child based on his/her age. Remember that at different levels children understand different things....and each child is different. But ultimately children need rules, and discipline. And by teaching them to pay attention to, adhere to, and find a way to live with rules (through disciplining) you are in turn loving them and teaching them life lessons. Yelling doesn't really do anything but teach fear.

Answer 7

say what you mean and mean what you say.
if you tell him no more tv if he acts up then turn off the television.
if you tell him to pick-up his toys and he dosnt, do a room sweep put the toys in a bag and give them back in a few days. make sure there are little or no distractions when you are talking to him to make sure he gets it.
it may be tough at first but he'll get it. he'll know that what mommy says he better do because you mean business.
no hitting no yelling needed! when you yell they just tune you out. i learned the to change my parenting style. it has worked wonders!

Answer 8

love and disiplin are separate make sure he has lots of love time from you but if hes acting up make it clear hes going to be disiplined ie:if you dont pick up your toys you will have to spend 5 minutes in time out and when you come out youll have to pick them up any ways or if you dont come inside right now you wont be able to watch blues clues today and make sure your consistent other wise your kids will think daddy doesnt like me some days as oposed to i didnt follw the rules so i had to go to time out

Answer 9

Try using a rewards chart and let him pick a reasonable prize.

Answer 10

children are what we make them. well they will learn what you show them. the tregedy of ppl living in US or UK is that they dont live with grand parents.... if they were living with grand parentes and they will show the good behaviour to them automatically their childern will learn to obey. thats the key point.....