I'm 24yrs & his 30yrs.i ve never been interested in white guys,but i seem to be a magnet for them,so i gave into this guy i'm seeing now.He has turned out to be great.I think i'm falling for him.I don't want to admit,my family will not accept him.I'm fighting my feelings.He is educated,has a good job& he is really good looking & i'm in college.He always has time for me.I don't understand why i can't completely let him in my life.We ve been seeing eachother for 9 months now.He makes the best love to me& makes me feel beautiful.Last week he introduced me to his Boss as his G/friend & later that day i flipped out.He apologised,he thought we were in a relationship.I told him,we re just having sex.i don't mean it.i'm in love with him.i think about him a lot.He has said"i love you" a number of times but i don't respond.i don't want to lose him but i keep hurting him.i'm confused & i think my family and friends have something to do with it. They don't like him just because he is white.help
2007-02-04 06:51:06 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not only that my family and friends don't accept him, i need help with myself. i don't know why i tell him i love him.
2007-02-04 07:55:12 · update #1
You gonna love with your heart or you gonna love with your skin color? Hey, I'm sure when you settle down with that nice young black man that your family accepts, you won't ever think about your 9 month trist with a white lover.
2007-02-04 06:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by penhead72 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Serious relationships are scary. Only you can decide if this is the right man for you. He sounds like a good guy. It also sounds like you are very close with your family and they want what they think is best for you. Please sit down with your family members and discuss how you feel--that you are in love with this man, but that they mean the world to you and you want their support. These things take time--my grandfather disowned my mother when she married my father, and they are of the same color/education level/economic background/etc. He came around eventually and accepted my father and was a strong presence in my life.
Also sit down with the man you are dating and be open about how you feel. He sounds like someone who will listen. Search yourself and see if there is anything else other than his being white that is holding you back. Please be kind to him, because it sounds like he has only been kind to you.
Honestly, I hate to see skin color be such an issue. Things like trust and compatibility are what's important in a relationship. When two people find love it should be celebrated. I wish you the best, whatever you decide.
2007-02-04 15:14:16 · answer #2 · answered by M L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you let your family decide who you should be with, then your not being true to yourself. The is a lot of predjudice out there you cant help that, but dont play yourself, if what you got with him is real then everything else is just pretend. No relationship is easy there will always be roadblocks, so either mount up or cut him loose, its not fair to play with others emotions while you figure out wich side your on. Good luck
2007-02-04 14:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by william v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only will the family not accept him but alot of the public will not either, but who cares why I say that, because if you could of found what you were looking for in a black man he would be there not a white guy. Good Luck and be very thankful that you found Mister Right, because alot of people never do
2007-02-04 14:57:01 · answer #4 · answered by sodgirl6763 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONESTLY!!! Your family doesn't have to accept him! YOU ARE THE ONE WHO HAS TO BE HAPPY IN THE RELATIONSHIP NOT THEM! My Boyfriend is Black and Phillipina, and I am white. Certain family memebers of mine wouldn't except the fact that I LOVE HIM, and ya know I DON'T CARE because I AM HAPPY! Tell him your true feelings! If you hide them then you may loose a good thing! Go with your gut not your heart, because the heart can lead to heartbreak! Your gut tells you that you LOVE HIM, and he makes you feel special so DON'T LET HIM GO! Tell him how you really feel! You got brains! So your family doesn't approve talk to them and tell them how amazing this guy is, and introduce them to him. Let him show them that he really likes you and is in it for the long haul and not just sex! Show your family his good qualitites, and don't GIVE UP!
2007-02-04 15:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by ♥xvioletx1882♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is just the start of your problems if you continue your relationship. You've just gotta sit down with bf and have a complete heart-to-heart with him about your family's feelings.
Second, you gotta sit down with family and discuss your feelings and listen to them . But what is really the most profound decision in this situation is you & bf realizing that your children may be subjected to comments, slurs, & other discriminatory stuff that they may not be prepared to deal with. In other words, they will have to live with your decision.
So talk to everyone, especially bf, and good luck in your decision.
2007-02-04 15:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give yourself a chance to be happy & stop being scared. honey, oppurtunities sometimes only come once. for all u know, he may be your soulmate. give him a chance & stop pushing him away. chances are, he can already tell that you're in love w/ him too b/c actions speak louder than words & maybe that's why he wont leave you alone. i think its adorable. however dont keep pushing him away b/c if he leaves, he may end up w/ the next black or white chick, & get married to them. who knows. give it a shot. live your life for you b/c you were born into this world by yourself. u dont want to look back years from now regretting your choices. good luck girl.
2007-02-04 15:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by Johnnie's cash🌴🌙☂✈ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If You like This Guy Stay With Him Sometimes They Do Work Out If You Like Him.=)Good Luck
2007-02-04 14:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by rain<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it can work. Have you ever talked to your boyfriend about any of this? As for your family, either you live to make you happy, or them happy. There is no real in-between here.
Listen to your heart. You have all the answers you need, right there. And have tried prayer?
2007-02-04 15:01:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interracial relationships are difficult. Has he told you that he loves you?
That he introduced you as his girlfriend says a lot. Obviously you mean more to him than sex. How does his family act towards you? You need to decide if you want to be with him. If so, you need to sit down with your family and let them know you love this guy and would like their support.
2007-02-04 14:56:33 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Escape 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋