I recently got engaged to my fiance and we have no problems whatsoever but his brothers and daughter hate me for some reason... There is a age difference I am in my fourties and he is in his late fifties but that does not seem to bother me at all.. We get along great but this situation is starting to really make me mad... Any suggestions... Oh and to top it off they have never even met me..
2007-02-04 06:48:39 · 9 answers · asked by suhnflowah121 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Patience. Go slowly. Time will take its course naturally.
2007-02-04 06:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by Freddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering you are not children, the age difference probably is not the issue. The daughter could feel threatened that you are replacing her mother. Perhaps his brothers are the type of people who do not like change. Sometimes people have a hard time adjusting to changes, give them time. Once they meet you it could make all the difference. They may never warm up to you, you have to decide if you are okay with that. Good luck to you and your fiance.
2007-02-04 15:26:51 · answer #2 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not make them change, so do not even bother, Assure you new fiance that you are there for him and his brothers and daughter had better get used to having you around because you are not going anywhere, as for meeting them if they feel this way before you have met, I would suggest that you not push the first meeting, There is more to this story than is being told, and you may have to prove your worth to one and all
2007-02-04 15:01:37 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don,t let it get to you . you are not engaged to his daughter or his bother . don,t let them cause you trouble.first the man you are going to marry should say some thing to them and if he don,t .do it stand your ground let them know your not going no were .like it or not.but hey it does sound to me youare going to have trouble with his daughter so you better stop it be for it be gains.there are people like this in every family and you said some thing a bout the age driffent be tween you too don,t dont matter as long as it don,t bother you andyou love him who cares what other people think any way it is your life not theirsany way good luck to you and your new husband .
2007-02-04 16:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't like you because they haven't even met you, and you are already engaged to marry someone in their family. They can't understand why he would want to marry someone he hasn't introduced to the family yet. So meet them! But dont force yourself on them.
2007-02-04 14:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by besitos2610 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they do not know you just take it real slow and they will come around once they realize you are a nice person do not get mad just keep smiling and show them it not bothering you at all good luck
2007-02-04 15:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by Summer G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because you just jumped into their family and they might of wanted their bro to theirselves. And they dont know you yet. So be patient. And it will all work out, i promise.
2007-02-04 15:14:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't like anyone who dates him ask him to find out why they do not like you,I'm sure they will good luck
2007-02-04 15:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by peg42857 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if I were you I would not worry aout it,you are marry him not his family...I would just pray for them if you belive in God
I love my in-laws it because i am the one who showed them love and tolerance,if you start naging about that with your man trust me blood is thicker thatn watter.
2007-02-04 15:24:33 · answer #9 · answered by Dove4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋