how would you feel if your partner/lover/crush...went out with a close friend on that day instead of you?...
the reason i ask is that my ex husband used to throw a tantrum about Valentines day every year...he hated it...one year after pitching a fit because i'd left a love note in his car...he stormed off to work...and i had a call from my best friend, a guy, asking me if i'd like to go and see Romeo and Juliet with him as he had a spare ticket...i said id love to and called my husband to tell him my plans...he promptly pitched another fit about the audacity of my friend wanting to take me out on Valentines day???...go figure...he wouldnt normally have been very possessive so im wondering...
how would you feel if someone else asked your partner out on Valentines day...as a platonic thing...if you think you would mind...why?...;0)
2007-02-04 06:35:57 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
people...not my husband...EX HUSBAND...and has been for 2 and a half years!!!...just wanted to make that clear...thanks...;0)
2007-02-04 06:52:24 · update #1
people...not my husband...EX HUSBAND...and has been for 2 and a half years!!!...just wanted to make that clear...thanks...;0)
2007-02-04 06:52:35 · update #2
Your ex husband is an idiot thats why hes your ex...I wouldnt want my partner going out with someone else.
2007-02-08 00:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just another day and I think that your husband would have thrown a fit on any other day about this as well.
I feel that valentines day is joke as well. People feel this is the day they have put on all the bells and whistles to impress there loved ones.
If you only do this type of thing one time a year on valentines day you really don't love the one your with. You should be doing this each and every day. People get in there ruts of daily life and they forget about the one they " love " . If they truly love them then they should treat them like they did in those first days of meeting / dating them. Having the tingle inside them and they can not wait to see them. They would talk for hours and enjoy doing the same old thing just because they are doing it with them.
Make Valentines an every day holiday and feeling.
2007-02-04 06:46:59 · answer #2 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on one question really , Was I still in love with that person . If the answer is yes then I would be as jealous as hell , if I didn't still love them I would pit it down to a possession reflex . Why did your husband hate valentines day so much ,had you ever asked him or wouldn't he talk about it . Sounds like when you where married you didn't talk about much . This raises so many questions its a bit scary . Is he a control freak , is he just lonely , I could go on, maybe you should be asking him . And if you still love him ....? why is he your EX ...
2007-02-11 06:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by vortash2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no harm in askin ... is there
If someone asked my partner out 'platonically' on valentines day...It would be a waste of time... she would have to go out with them another day .. valentines is for couples... lol
I just find it curious that he had a spare ticket for ... Romeo & Juliet ... on valentines day ... what if you said no .. does he have a little black book .. lmao ...
I agree that people in relationships spend a lot of time complaining about stuff that they shouldn't .... but I also believe that if you spend that day apart ...whether you really believe in it or not ... then you may as well go your seperate ways.
Dr Bad
Amazed how little people really know each other .. until its too late (me included)
2007-02-05 07:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a good thing that he is your ex, romantic philosopher. He seems to have wanted his cake and eaten it. I especially like the fact that your mate took you to see one of the greatest romantic stories ever told. Hehe! That must really have rubbed ex-hubs face in it.
I doubt that leaving a love note or going off with your friend would really have been the real reason why he had a fit. Probably just an excuse to let of some steam in your direction. I bet you broke up not too long after this event.
2007-02-04 06:47:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How naive do you think we are. Romeo and Juliet? On Valentines day? Maybe in your eyes it was platonic, but that dude wanted some. Valentines is strictly a woman's Hallmark day, have you ever offered a "steak and a BlowJ_B" day to repay your husband for Valentines
2007-02-04 06:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by mycatsdead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As your EX husband, it's none of his business and his loss. Whether or not it's platonic doesn't matter either! It may be now, but that could change if you and his friend decide otherwise, and there's nothing he can say about it! Oh, he can say plenty, but he IS your EX, so don't let him get to you anymore. Turn the page and be true to yourself. Go for it, if that's what you want to do, and have a blast! Good luck!
2007-02-12 06:39:08 · answer #7 · answered by Con 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can see why your ex husband is now your ex! If he didn't want to take you out then it's perfectly reasonable to go out with a platonic friend if they ask. I personally would only get narked if I wanted to do something with him. If I wasn't bothered by Valentine's Day then he could go out with friend (s). To be fair though I expect my husband to be my best friend and me to be his really.
2007-02-04 06:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by Michele 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am Sorry But I would be Pissed off! that is so uncool and no wonder why he is your ex husband!!!!! I wouldn't want to stick around if you were going out with your male friends on V Day! I am sorry but why do you have any male friends any why you were married. woman know that men can't just be friends with you they all want something more.... so sorry no sympathy for you I would hate you for a while!
2007-02-12 04:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would depend on the relationship and if both of you thought of Valentines day the same way. If you were both on the same wave length than definitely, first I think it would be nice for your friend, because than they have someone to do something with on a day when you are single just sucks plus it takes the pressure off of your relationship to do something special on a made up holiday.
Personally I would be all for it if it was ok with my partner.
2007-02-04 06:41:58 · answer #10 · answered by The time has come 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋