We have been fighting non-stop for the past 2 weeks, we have been together for 2 years but lately we havent been getting along. finally 2 days ago we settled our differences and decided we are going to stay together no matter what and we love each other so we are going to work on it. well today, i called him while i was at work to see what he was doing, he was out with his friend going to check out some new trucks at some dealerships...instead of calling and asking if i would have liked to go after i got out of work he just went without me. i would have loved to have taken the ride, and he knows i would have. we have nothing to do after i get out of work so it would have filled our afternoon. he claims "i would have complained and not wanted to go , and we are watching to game after you get out" im so fed up, i dont want to fight, but im MAD. do i have a reason to be? it seems that it is always okay for him to do what HE wants, but not for me...its like he doesnt care what i think.
2007-02-04 06:17:24 · 11 answers · asked by Ash 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, it might hurt that he didn't wait on you to go with him, but I don't think it's anything to actually fight about... what you guys need to start doing is when you feel mad and feel like yelling, just step back and think about whether it's worth fighting over or not.. you can cut out a lot of silly little arguments like that...and refuse to argue back if he picks a fight over something insignificant.
2007-02-04 06:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good thing that you are realizing this now, and not when you're married. So, you have some options. You can have a long talk with him, and see if he'll change....which I seriously doubt, or, you can put up with him since you love him so much, or, you can dump him and find someone else who will treat you right. If he doesn't start considering you first, especially in decisions, then I feel that you and him will never truly be happy, and destined to constant fighting, should you and him stay together. You should both consider each other first. I know you love him, but I'll tell you this: it's better to be single and lonely, than the be married and miserable. If things don't change soon, then they most probably never will. Think about this. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-04 06:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, both of you should give each other some space, he probably like to hang out with his friends now and then, is good to be apart now and then, like they say, "absent makes the heart grows fonder".
You should spend some time with your friends too, and if he doesn't like it, that means he's too possesive and controling, and that's not good for any relationship, i've learned, if there's too much fighting, then you two are just not meant to be together. In the long run, this relationship will just be too much work and draining, is better to end the relationship now before you're married and with kids.
Don't obsess about every little thing, unless these things are continueous. Keep in mind, you have the advantage of knowing all his bad habits now before you decide to marry him.
The chances are, he's NOT going to change much in the future, and things might even get worse. You need to decide if he's worth all this headaches and heartaches and all the fighting.
GOOD LUCK
2007-02-04 07:04:38 · answer #3 · answered by duckyng 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is human nature. no human being will ever be the proper better 1/2. no matter if that is only a small lil ingredient...everyone will continually take the different with none interest. some will take with none interest that their different 1/2 will slave over the range or be the single to convey domicile the William Maxwell Aitken. we are all accountable of it in some small degree a minimum of. Like, my hubby continually lets me watch what i pick and that i under no circumstances end to imagine that i'm taking him with none interest. yet then he denies s*x each and every from time to time, so it equals out. :P
2016-11-25 01:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That my kind of girl helping pick my new truck. Out on the boat ,kicking sand on and island .Find someone that has interest in you and enjoys have you around not just when he has a need. Trade him in on new model one with more options. What you see is what your getting.
Places change people don't . Hope this helps a little
2007-02-04 07:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ashley, Darlin', you're fighting to gain control of EACHOTHER. Since you've agreed to stop fighting. (outwardly at least) You're building up all of your frustration. You both need to take a break and see what it looks like, on the outside. Then, maybe you can appreciate eachother better. It sounds bad. But it may be best. NO! I'm not Dr. Phil Nor do I play him, on T.V.
2007-02-04 06:23:45 · answer #6 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are getting very possessive about him.Just calm down...
It shows you love him a lot and your behavior is very natural.But this
time just ignore him for some days make him feel your emptiness.If you can do it.That's it problem solved.
2007-02-04 06:49:34 · answer #7 · answered by 2424333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you have a reason to be mad go to page 3 on singles and dating and answeer my question the head line is "Is this bad"
2007-02-04 06:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Kayla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just wants time to hang out with his friends. CHILL!!!!! Go out with female friends somewhere.He'll get over it. If he breaks up over that, it's not a good relationship.
2007-02-04 06:32:47 · answer #9 · answered by kimandkaitlyn2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want to go and look at trucks???
you are just afraid that he is going to meet someone else!!! you cannot force him to sit alone at home all day waiting for you to finish work!!!
he should probably dump you!!!
2007-02-04 06:21:15 · answer #10 · answered by INC0GNIT0 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋