hes so damn hot, and amazong to my lil brother. my family likes him from day one. weve known eachotehr forever. he taught my 10yrold brother how to throw a football, hes amazong. not to mentoin a goodkisser. im crussin on him, but hes not into me...
theres no way im gonna give up the benifits with him, theyre TOO AMAZiNG.
so what do i do?
2007-02-04 06:15:55 · 19 answers · asked by christi c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been in the same situation. Except, I knew in my heart that he was into me. I couldn't bring myself to tell him how I felt so I told him that I realized 'Friends with Benefits' just wasn't me and that I wanted to have a real relationship. I did NOT say with him. I told him how amazing I thought he was and that in order for me to give other guys a serious try I had to stop seeing him in that way.
It took a long lonley month before he asked me out.
You have to be strong if you really want it to work out.
2007-02-04 06:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by blndchik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why friends with fringes NEVER work. Its impossible for people to have a sustained physical relationship that is great without developing some feelings. It sounds like your family doesnt understand the friends with fringes theory. YOu guys are only supposed to be having sex and casual dates. Getting involved with your family is NOT casual. You have two choices. Let go of him and find someone who will love you back or put up and shut up. If you are feeling really brave, tell him how you feel but its likely to end the relationship anyway if you are right about him not feeling the same way.
2007-02-04 06:21:57 · answer #2 · answered by fancyname 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to be a jerk. But friends with benefits is a usless and fruitless type of relationship. Where both of you are feeding upon the flesh and that's it. There's no substance and ultimatly leads to nowhere.
My suggestion is to move on and get into a bonefide-monogomous relationship.
Now...if you end the "friends with benefits" gig, he might miss you and ultimatly want you, then you get what you want.
Trust me, when there is mutual love...it'll destroy the "benefits" part which is just physical and not mental.
You an obsess about owning a super nice car, but it's worthless with out gas. Know what I mean?
2007-02-04 06:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by matthaumschild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had this happen to me before i told him i liked him for more then just friends and benefits and he gave me up as a friend and he liked my sister but they found out they were cousins and now were dating and engaged and we been dating for 9 months today we are getting married in 4 weeks and we will be living with his family till we can move out on our own i am 16 and my mom is signing the papers for us to get married cause she doesnt want me to live her anymore she is tired of fighting with me anyway take a shot at it he might be different from the guy i had benefits with and take you right away speak up and maybe hes just to shy to tell you he likes you he might also be waiting for you to say you like him first so he wont make you feel uncomfortable
take a shot at it if you like/love him go for it
2007-02-04 06:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them!!!! I had a "friend with benifits" we know everything about each other. I know all about his sexual escapades and he knows mine. After six months of being "friends" I started having feelings for him. I told him and he told me that he started to have feelings for me as well. After just seeing each other for a month and a half, we became official. A year after that, he proposed! Funny things can happen. You never know.
Good Luck!!!!!
2007-02-04 06:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by crodriguez1010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how you feel about this situation, this has happened to me before. maybe if you just tell him you would want something more out of it, he might change his mind and be into you. Maybe he is just unsure of himself right now , i mean there has to be at least a little feeling there for you if you are friends with benefits right?
2007-02-04 06:19:33 · answer #6 · answered by Th Sparkling Diamond 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one knows him better than you. You must see whether you truly want him or if you just want sex. If you do; tell him, but don't string him on with empty promises and don't press him into something he doesn't want to do cus it won't be any good for either of you if you force him.
2007-02-04 06:22:37 · answer #7 · answered by Bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha im in this situation alot. well im not that into fwb's but there was one. i was into him but everyone who hung around hi told me hes not my type. not the type of guy to be into a girl like me. well i think you should tell him. because i made the mistake of never telling him and i let him leave to go to chicago. so dont let him go. tell him. you dont know if hes into you or not. love is risk right ?
2007-02-04 06:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by jCt //* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the good with the bad and letthings go there course maybe he will come around he might already feel the same but is waiting on you to say something
2007-02-04 06:19:59 · answer #9 · answered by rocky_troxell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just the thing, "friend-with-benefits", not a date or significant other. You are with them just for the sex and/or making out, nothing serious. I suspect he knows this and that is why he is not into you, or he may just not be into you.
2007-02-04 06:18:34 · answer #10 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋