There is a boy that i have recently had a relationship with. It wasnt official but we both felt really strongly about eachother. He and i each got out of a bad relationship and turned to eachother for help and support and a friend. Our feelings kept growing for eachother and we were building a relationship. Last April , him and I were boyfriend and girlfriend and then we broke up, so we have had some history together, and it is really unlike him to just call everything off without an explanation. He is having a lot of problems right now, but he had trust in me to help him. and i was , and now he wont talk to me anymore , he wont answer my messages or anything. He isnt the type of guy to do that, and i want to know what i have to do to win him back. any help, please, im desperate.
2007-02-04 06:01:56 · 6 answers · asked by Th Sparkling Diamond 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
give up on him and move on, quit waisting your time dwelling on someone who does not care about you
2007-02-04 06:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by RUSSELLL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you answered the problem with you own words; I am desperate.
Men much more than women like to avoid confrontations with emotions and maybe he is avoiding you for a good reason? He has found another woman or he does think he has found another woman. Now if you get him back you will be the second choice if this real romance does not work out so well, is this what you want? I would hope not.
Men like to conquer or win, and this is no longer necessary with you, to him you are like a little sister maybe and now he wants a real woman, not someone who is desperate, needy and clings to him like a little sister.
Do not confuse sex with caring, he may even have sex with you and care nothing about you except to say to his friends - Hey I had sex last night.
Also why get involved with a man with lots of problems you are asking for more trouble, to deal with your own emotions and his too. Face it your problem is you like bad men and you need to change this behavior about yourself.
2007-02-04 06:13:59 · answer #2 · answered by sirromo4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing you can do is just leave him alone for a while, he may just need time to be alone and sort his head out. Just let him know that you are still open to talking whenever he is ready, and go and get on with your own life, it may be really hard to do but sometimes time is all that is needed to let things settle down. If he knows that you are there for him and not putting on any pressure, he may be more willing to talk to you when he is feeling up to it.
If it is meant to be, it will happen, If not, at least you will know that you gave things your best shot, and that you can then go and find someone who will see how special you are. Good luck.
2007-02-04 06:09:13 · answer #3 · answered by Pauline N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know in your heart & gut that you havent intentionally done anything wrong or even cheated on him secretly, then your best bet is to let go. you dont want to appear desperate. you can't say you havent tried either. i mean what are you going to do if a year down the line he's still not speaking? then you've wasted time on someone that doesnt have enough love or regards for you to even tell you what you've done. i say give him a a couple more weeks 2-3 tops) to come around, if he doesnt, i'd consider it HIS loss & move on. easier said than done though, but hey, what can you do when someone won't let you love them? if you ask me, i think he left the relationship a long time ago. he's probably hoping you'll take a hint & stop calling.
2007-02-04 06:09:09 · answer #4 · answered by Johnnie's cash🌴🌙☂✈ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your comment about being deperate is absured. If you want my honest opinion what you need to do is step off. Better that you find someone new, a new lover, friend. Cut your losses now, and find someone that you can be with without all the headaches. You will be happier that way. Further more it's not supposed to be hard.
2007-02-04 06:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He broke up with you, He don't answer your messages, It is quite clear. Don't fool yourself. It is over. It is call a rebound relation; doomed from the beginning. It served its purpose comfort each other while readjusting. Move on; Be happy
2007-02-04 06:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by ALIBUGS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋