my boyfriend and i have been dating for over a year...we are eighteen. I love him very much and he says he loves me and sure acts like it. The problem is he has very immature friends. THey like drinking (not legal yet) and smoking pot and hookah (which i have heard from med sites has tiny slivers of glass in it that give you a natural high...its like breathing insulation) and going to hookah bars which i have seen and are basically full of drunken whorish girls. My bf has been loyal except for once long long ago and it was very minor...we brok up for a few days and he was the one wha was honest about it so i forgave him. The reason im asking for tips in trusting him is that whenever he is with his friends they do dtupid things like that and he just sits there...i always worry he is going to give in and make a mistake and hurt my feelings. I dont want to ask him to never hang out alone with his friends, its just too mean. help please.....he is such a good bf im just so skeptical.
2007-02-04 06:00:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry i just wanted to make sure the part where i said when he is with his friends they do stupid things...he doesnt. he doesnt beleive in smoking or drinking he thinks its f****d up. but he around it constantly with them.
2007-02-04 06:09:59 · update #1
No one can help you trust him... either you do or you don't. Plan more things to do with him so that he is spending more time with you and less with them. When he does do stupid things with his friends, make sure he knows you don't approve.
2007-02-04 06:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you want a magic wand? If his behaviors concern you then your instinct is telling you something. You can force your feelings to change.
He may not have messed up in a long time but he still needs to prove to you he is trustworthy with ACTIONS and not words. Don't be accusatory but be aware. Let him be himself because you can't change him. You are young and you don't want to marry or get pregnant from the wrong guy. No guy is mature and responsible until at least 25 so you have a long time to watch him and see how he becomes a man before you know if hes really the right one.
2007-02-04 14:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if he's hanging with those folks, then you need to protect your heart because the old saying that "birds of a feather flock together" is true. He may not be "partaking" now, he probably will eventually. You can't choose his friends for him, you already know that - but where are YOU in his priorities? I'm not doubting that he loves you, but it's a possibility that he loves other people/things more. Don't get into a committed relationship with this guy until he grow up enough to say "no, I don't want that stuff in my life".
2007-02-04 14:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by nana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait... did I miss something? It has been years but if I remember correctly hookah is not a drug, it is a pipe that you smoke pot out of... actually it is like a giant bong that several people can smoke out of at once.
My apparent drug ignorance aside...
You are being ridiculous, if you love him and trust him then you love him and trust him... if you don't, you don't.
It sounds like you don't, maybe you should reexamine your feelings for him. If you were worried because you were concerned about his drug use and alcohol consumption from a health and safety point I could understand.
But it sounds to me like you really don't want him to be around his friends but are afraid to admit it... that is controlling and you are acting like a princess.
2007-02-04 14:13:23 · answer #4 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no one can help you trust him its something u have to do on ur own. if he loves u he will be faithful to u and u have to remember he is humen my gf did a similer thng and she told me about it and like u i have forgiven her. becouse she was honest enough to tell me it should be similer for u he doesnt hide anything from you so there u go. he is honest and trustworthy
2007-02-04 14:06:47 · answer #5 · answered by Deshawn M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have good reason for concern. He has bad friends. Sorry I cant help you. Follow your inner voice and you will be OK.
2007-02-04 14:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by Tom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He does not sound like a very trust worthy guy. So you should not even think about trusting him
2007-02-04 14:05:13 · answer #7 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he is cheater
2007-02-04 14:03:59 · answer #8 · answered by Udit D 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋