I had a one night stand (well 4 actually) with my boyfriends best friend. I love my boyfriend but I cant get his friend out of my head! He is amazing and and so passionate. I think im falling for him.
What should I do?
2007-02-04 05:16:51 · 24 answers · asked by *Tara* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should decide what you are falling for. Cheating is fun, lets be honest. It feels wrong yet so good and maybe he is better in bed than ur bf, but he is being a terrible best friends and you are being dishonest with your bf. Do you really want his best bud because you like him the same way you like your bf? I think you are probably in to his beast friend because he is most likely alot like ur bf only you feel a rush when ur with him. Tell your bf you need a break to be just friends for a while and tell his best friend you need to stop having relations for a while. You can decide later if this will be your little secret or weather you should do what is hard but right and tell ur bf. While you are on a break you will see them both from the same view; you have been with each of them. you like each of them. but you cant currently have either of them. it will make his friend less of a fantasy and you boyfriend more of one. If you do decide you wish to date his friend instead then you owe your bf a sincere apology and a date where you take him out somewhere you can be alone and discuss whats going on. If you go back to your bf (you might find you miss him) then you need to talk to his friend and tell him it was just an infatutation. ur sorry. Its over. And he can find another great girl without betraying two people he cares about. what ever you decide just STOP CHEATING! you may fall for one of them hard and get your feelings hurt.
2007-02-04 05:28:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
You obviously don't love your boyfriend, at least as much as you say you do, because you don't see a problem in having sexual relations with someone other than him. If he's into that sort of thing, then I stand corrected; for the sake of the argument, I'll assume he's not.
Having a boyfriend or girlfriend is all about committment. It's about trust, and loyalty in all aspects, and by disregarding your physical relationship with your boyfriend, you're not in a position to deserve trust from him. Nobody likes to hear that they're the bad guy, but in my honest opinion, I think you need to realize that you've made a mistake.
You have a couple options, and you have a requirement as well. Let me give you the options first.
A. You can break up with your boyfriend. This is probably the best choice in the long scheme of things. You really shouldn't be in a relationship unless you can honestly commit 100% to whoever you're in a relationship with. As I said before, it's all about deserving trust.
B. You can stop having sexual relations with his friend, and ask him not to encourage such activities anymore. If you feel that you love your boyfriend enough to stay with him, you have no choice but to eliminate his friend as anything intimate. Being friends with him is no problem, but it's unethical to engage in anything that falls outside that boundary.
In either case, you owe it to your boyfriend to tell him the truth. Yes, he'll be hurt; but doesn't he deserve to know? If he were cheating on you, wouldn't you want to know about it, even though it would hurt?
One thing's for sure -- if you keep it up, your boyfriend WILL eventually find out. Be the bigger person, take account for what you did, and tell him before someone else does.
2007-02-04 05:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
When you love someone you don't cheat on them!! It's the excitement you love not the person.You should let your b/f go. Sooner or later he will find out , you can bet on that ...so how do you think he will feel then? Being cheated on by both his girlfriend and his buddy .His friend is a jerk and if you choose to pursue a relationship with him .... well , what do you think ? He's already cheating on a friend as are you. What goes around comes around. This is a slimy situation! You should gather up some personal integrity and get your act together. Take responsibility for your poor judgments and uncaring attitude.
2007-02-04 05:33:44 · answer #3 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you need to stop any activity with the friend until you settle matters with the bf. Is there any hope for a relationship with the friendf? He has to consider what it will mean to his friendship and both of you need to think about the bf. I don't think you care enough for him to stay w/him regardless of what may happen w/ the friend. Has the friend done this in the past? You may want to consider the possibility that it is the "forbidden" aspect that is making it so great for you. If you were able to be with the friend with no restrictions and no sneaking would it feel the same? Try to be kind but you have to be honest.
2007-02-04 05:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by paula0005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave your bofriend and then you will see the grass is not always greener on the otherside. But you never know it could be. Does the boyfriends freind fell the same about you?
If you really loved your boyfriend then you should not be doing this at all. Its not very nice and you are only hurting. Plus his frined is not a friend in my eyes. Maybe you to are suit but hey who an i to say.
2007-02-04 05:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is terrible. You both betrayed someone that you should care more about. You betrayed your boyfriend, and he betrayed his best friend. You two deserve each other because you are both untrustable. Imagine how your boyfriend will feel if he finds out. You dug yourself a deep hole! Just put yourself in that position. How would you feel if your boyfriend was having sex with your best friend? Wow.
2007-02-04 05:37:54 · answer #6 · answered by aero 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend that you no longer have feelings for him but do not mention his best friend's name because after the breakup when he realises that you are in love with his friend,he is going to accuse his friend for taking you away from him eventhough it wasn't the case. Stop cheating yourself and your boyfriend,do what is best for you and in the appropriate manner.
2007-02-04 05:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by peedee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a young guy I would have been happy if girls like you would just jump under a bus,,,
now however I understand how it goes a bit more,,,
but still, tell the poor sap your destroying, get it over with and sleep with your obsession till you find some other fancy or better still grow up a bit,, how old are you twelve,,,,
tell him, move on and grow up
2007-02-04 05:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by farshadowman 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Spare your boyfriend from a cheating girlfriend and a dishonest friend and tell him the truth!
2007-02-04 05:20:41 · answer #9 · answered by Flipp 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
then at least have the decency to break it off with your boyfriend because you don't deserve him, and as for his mate....he's a slime...by the way....this WILL happen to you, then you'll know what it's like to be betrayed by ones who love you....not a very nice feeling, so prepare yourself....you won't have the last laugh.....they'll stay mates and you'll be dumped
2007-02-04 05:53:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋