My mom's new boyfriend?

Question

I'm 15 and when I was 4 my parents got divorced. It didn't bother me for a long time, because I saw him very very often. 3 years ago me and my mom moved to USA and she found a guy she wants to be married with. It was OK when he came once a week and went home then and stuff but it bothers me now that he comes every night after work!! He only sleeps, watches some TV or eats. My mom spends her time with im and I'm sitting alone in my bedroom. I can'tget used to a new way of life. I know my mom is happy wit him and she gets mad everytime I tell he how I feel about him, but she says that no matter what she'll be with him forever. Sometimes I feel like coming back to my father or runing away from home. Her new guy doesnt speak english and I cant even talk to him. I just dont like him WAT SHOULD I DO??:(((((

Answer 1

Your mum definitely needs to spend some time with u. U could either just wait for the novelty to wear off or move in with your dad.

Answer 2

I have seen a case like that, where the son didn't like his mother's boyfriend, because they were acting like teenage couples and didn't pay much attention the son. Why dont you try talking to your mother, try taking a different approach. Instead of bad mouthing her boyfriend, why not tell her that you feel lonely and that you miss her. She will come around. She will see how much she was neglecting you and will want to spend some time with you. At the same time, find some common interests that you might share with her boyfriend, get to know him. He might not speak English, but there are other ways to communicate, like playing games. If it really bothers you, why dont you stay with your father for a while to cool down a bit.

Answer 3

Talk with an adult you trust. Be very specific about what is happening and how it affects you. Don't go on and on about how awful you feel - that's pretty much understood - but do describe your day-to-day experiences and how they affect your moods, your sleep, your eating habits, and even your performance in school.

If your mother has legal custody of you, you must be her first consideration. If she is planning on marrying this person, you will be part of the family and both adults must be ready and willing to care for you.

If all else fails, talk this over with your father. No child - and that includes teenagers - should ever have to feel left out in a family.

Just do not give up; you're worth all this time and effort!

Answer 4

Is there a family relative aunt, or grandparent. Even your Dad to talk too. Tell them everything you said here to us. See if they will speak to your Mom for you? That way she might see just how serious and upset this is making you. Make sure they realize you do not want her not to see this fella - you just want her to acknowledge your exsistence and spend more time with you.

If that doesn't work - I know it might sound cheesy at 15 - but grab say a board game - and ask them both to play with you. Show that you support their relationship and just want to be part of it.

Chin up girl!

Answer 5

i am in the same situation hun im 16 turning 17 in july and im getting married in about 4 weeks or 5 weeks and me and my mom moved in with her boyfriend a year ago and im always on the computer or sleeping i cant go out with my friends my mom wont even let me see my boyfriend i know how you feel i dont even get my support money from my dad NONE OF IT i know how you feel but if your mom will let you go out and make friends and/or talk to your mom just u 2 by yourself and if that doesnt work maybe you should live with your dad but i know how you feel my moms boyfriend hates me and as soon as my mom signs those papers im out of this house and i told her im not coming back she has what she wants she neglects me so im going to do the same to her

Answer 6

You should think about making friends and getting out of the house and doing something. Find something that interest you and do it. You are not a little child any more. Mom has her life to live and so do you. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and do something. I know this is a new life for you and it may be hard; but you have to take the first step toward Independence. Go to the movies, go bowling, go shopping, go out and make friends. Just try., for your Mom sake.

Answer 7

You are being neglected emotionally by your mother... you may be better off to live with your father. You mom is being imature. No one should choose a mate over a child like in your situation.

Answer 8

there is a lot of things going on here. Your mother wants to be with someone. She is neglecting you. You need to speak with her. Choosing some you can't speak with is difficult. How does she speak with him. If you go to school go to your counselor to see if you can get some help there.

Answer 9

Have a heart and heart conservation with your mother how you really feel, Tell her that you want to spend more time with her. Talk to her about your feeling and not start with every conservation about her bf.