i get nervous when i even think about confrontation with ppl.everything was fine at my old school but then i changed to a new one.i was so different there everyone was not nice.i throw up daily cuz i was so nervous and cus of all of the drama.i got home schooled and now feel REALLY lonely.i feel i need help.
2007-02-04 05:14:17 · 4 answers · asked by summer h 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
hi there, i'm sorry to hear about this. My brother suffered from social phobia very badly, so i devised a little plan to get him to go out and make new friends. Now it is hard enough for anyone to make friends - so don't worry it's not just you feeling this way. What are your hobbies? why not find a club you can join that does your hobby - that way at least you will have something in common with the people who are in that club. If you find you are being picked on by people then it is really best to stand up to yourself - they must be jealous of you to pick on you :-)
About the nerves - when you feel yourself getting nervous - take a deep breath and breathe out slowly couting backwards from 10 until you get to 1, repeat if nessecery, if you still feel no better , use a trick i use when im performing on stage, just imagine everyone is naked - although it's only you who is imagining it - it'll make u feel less nervous.
Just remember that everyone on this planet is special in there own way - don't ever let anyone let you feel any differently .
2007-02-04 05:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well being a Christian usually involves fear of going to hell if you don't do something so I think it is possible you've taken it more seriously to the point that it is affecting your public life. What you need to do is to do what you fear most about it. If you want to keep it in the church, you might volunteer to help in some of the activities. What I think might help you better is to join a group like ToastMasters where periodically, you research some subject and speak about it in front of the group. They listen and give you constructive criticism about your performance. They also have books and training classes as well. That should give you the self esteem that you need and deserve.
2016-05-24 04:08:55 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Summer,
What you are feeling is perfectly normal for many people and it has nothing to do with your surroundings. I think you should talk to your parents about seeing if you suffer from an anxiety disorder. They are very difficult to cope with and you should not cut yourself off from the world. There is help for what you are feeling and there is also medications that you can take that will help you deal with the anxiety if that is what you are suffering from.
I think you really need to talk to your parents about some counseling and maybe medications that you can take that will help you start dealing with the feelings of anxiety so that you can feel good about being involved with people.
I am not promoting medications because I really do not like meds but I think there are times when people need medications to help them deal with what is going on in their lives.
Please talk to your parents and I wish you the best.
2007-02-04 06:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by Sati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, it would be a good idea to talk to your guidance counselor. They are there to help you with all kinds of issues and they understand about adjusting to a new school. It will make you feel so much better to know that someone is at your school looking out for you and helping you. Also, talk to your parents and let them know how you are feeling. Good luck.
2007-02-04 05:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋