i have been wit my bf for 3 months and not so shore i wana got though wit it how do i call it off without herting his feelings????
2007-02-04 05:09:59 · 15 answers · asked by princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him the turth, it may hurt but its better than lying
2007-02-04 05:12:28 · answer #1 · answered by vw chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, what is it you don't want to go through with? To know would help us answer your question.
It's tough to call "it" off and I'm assuming you just want out of the relationship.
Never lie, be honest with him and begin by making a list of things that you do like about him and a list of the traits that you can't bear.
When you have those 2 lists clear in your head, make a date to see him at a location where you can leave easily on your own... where you may not be that secluded and alone (in case he takes the news really badly). Choose a place like a coffee shop where you can speak to him quietly and tell him a few of things you do like about him. He may be gentle, kind and loves animals. It's dopey but tell him a few good things. Then explain nicely why the relationship is not working for you. Listen to anything he's got to say (you've given him 3 months of your time already). Sit quietly, listen and repeat your reasons for not wanting to continue the relationship. Sit listen and repeat your reasons nicely, but firmly... gradually using fewer and fewer words.
The end. And I mean it should be the end- do it right and plan, plan, plan what you want to say. It's nice to be concerned about hurting his feelings -so stick with your plan.
Good luck.
lgirl
2007-02-04 13:21:07 · answer #2 · answered by librarygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way of not hurting his feelings. The best you can do is just be as kind as possible and tell him you are sorry, but you weren't ready for a relationship or whatever your reason is. Break ups happen all the time. And it is never easy. Just be honest.
2007-02-04 13:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that it is not your intention to hurt his feelings, but you want to end the relationship. Of course, use your own words, and be honest with him.
No matter how you tell him, he may still be hurt, but he may be a little less so if you are honest and respectful of his feelings.
It's better to end it now than to let it go any further when you know that it is not working.
2007-02-04 13:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by Seldom Seen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth, if he cares for you he will honor this. If he's a jerk, then he'll have a bad reaction and you can move on to another guy. If your gut is saying NO, then go with that feeling, it's rarely wrong.
2007-02-04 13:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear1957 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off spell the words correct so he knows what your saying, If he likes you than there is no way to not hurt his feelings. Be thoughtful with him he will respect you for that . best of luck
2007-02-04 13:21:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are talking about sex, so if you are not ready for that and he is understanding person just ask him if he would mind giving you a bit more time. If yes, great, if no well then he is not your type at all and doesn't care. Take care Heather
2007-02-04 13:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. You will hurt his feelings. It's a part of life. People get their feelings hurt, you can't have everything your way, etc. After you dump him, consider spelling lessons and concentrate on getting a good education.
2007-02-04 13:12:37 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant...it will obviously hurt him..But if you dont want to go out with him no more then tell him the truth! : ) He will have to get over it..Becareful though...he might ask why you are dumping him!
2007-02-04 13:15:04 · answer #9 · answered by x-Kelly-x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him its not working out, and he would be better off w/ another girl
2007-02-04 13:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by Dazzle101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋