You ask for feedback from a job as to why you aren't suitable. Why not a relationship? Obviously I'm talking about relationships that you don't know why they ended.
2007-02-04 05:05:01 · 5 answers · asked by Hel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's fair to ask why a relationship ended if the reason hasn't been clear - but where your ex-boss has to be nice to you out of respect and fear of being sued - your ex doesn't!
Only ask if you think you can hear some harsh words which may or may not be true or fair... I would only bother if you were together for a substantial amount of time. If not, it just means you didn't mesh well and weren't meant to be.
Don't worry about the past too much; think toward the future. Decide what you feel wasn't quite right (you must have some thoughts, even if they're just ideas) and think of ways to fix or avoid such situations in the future.
Good luck!
2007-02-04 05:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by Extra_Sweetcorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually highly recommend it. its def. a good thing to know what went wrong and how...this is how we all grow up and learn for the better, that way your next realtionship will be better off and you will have a better idea as to what to do and what not to do. we are all human, we all make mistakes, and i think that you should give your ex some feedback too...he wasnt perfect either and you can both learn from each other. just make sure that this feedback session doesnt turn into an argument..the relationship is over with, no point in crying over spilled milk. whats done is done...just use this time as a learning experience. im sure you will both find it very helpful and benefial
2007-02-04 13:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by SassyGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's entirely reasonable, and in fact, mature. Not that you're going to change for the next relationship, but they may give you insight into yourself to help you grow as a person and as a potential relationship partner.
I think the asker, to get good feedback, would have to communicate that this is not an attempt to get back together, because the other person would probably keep that in the back of their mind, possibly affecting the honesty of their answer.
2007-02-04 13:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't ask anything
people have stupid idea of why they break up at first place and by knowing it will might effect you in the future when it comes to dating b/c u will think about the things the other people said and think that the new person will see the some thing in you, which is false.
IT OVER IT OVER, he wouldn't ask u why u break up with him, he would just move on with his live and i suggest u do the samething.
LIVE IS TOO SHORT TO WORRY ABOUT WHY PEOPLE DON'T UNDERSTAND U OR LIKE U.
enjoy being single again and look around if u like.
u can do better
2007-02-04 13:16:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good idea ONLY if you're really, really prepared to listen and react in an adult manner. Be prepared to hear some bad things about yourself. I'd try sending an email or something. I don't know if I could sit face to face and listen. Especially if I still wanted the guy.
Good thought though!
2007-02-04 13:10:26 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋