im 15. i dated this boy and i dumped him and now WE ARE NOT TOGETHER AT THIS MOMENT but yet he wants to have sex and wants me to do oral on him(and i do it thinking that it will make him want us to be together) he doesn't want to go out though. I still have sex with him and give him money. he knows that i care about him and that i want to be with him but he says let time take its course. he tells me that he likes me and that he cares and that soon we will be together but not to rush things. he doesn't call until he wants something. other than that i always call him thinking that we actually have a good conversation we will until he asks for money. he makes me feel like im not good enough. he uses me so bad.I give him money too because i see it as being there for him seeing that his parents wont give him money. im always chasing after him.he'll be charming and then ask me for money and then wont talk to me again until he needs something.with him i feel pretty and then i dont.
2007-02-04 04:36:41 · 15 answers · asked by smfan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is using you. Did you ever see the series "South Of Nowhere"? This girl sleeps with a boy and makesout with him because she really likes him and thinks that they should get back together. He is using her. She doesn't know it, but he really is. This is the same case. He knows you want him and that you'll do anything to be with him so he uses it against you. You can't do this. If he'll let you and treat you this way, you need to get away from him. He is worth nothing. He is a selfish jerk who doesn't deserve anything from you. You seem like a nice, pretty girl. Get yourself a RESPECTFUL boy!
Raine Nicole.
2007-02-04 04:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by Rain Nicole S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's obvious that he's using you especially when someone only comes around when they want something from you. You may have low self esteem but the fact that you're still allowing him to do this is not only stupid, but it's telling me that you don't know any better. He's not good enough for you. You shouldn't be giving him money, and you shouldn't be having sex with him. What in the world would make you want to give away you're virginity to someone who broke your heart? You're still allowing him to do that. You're giving him control over you and he's talking about you like a dog behind your back. That's how these people are. Don't let him call you, don't let him do anything because you deserve more than someone who only wants you because you can do something for them. That's not love. You don't care about him either. You only like him because he makes you feel special whenever you need it, for a small fee of course. I would like for you to IM me so we can talk one on one. I would love to help you. Hopefully, I'll talk to you soon.
2007-02-04 10:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even as a guy who on the surface thinks this is an ideal arrangement (hell, he's a got a girl who will please him horizontally AND give him money? Who without a conscience WOUDN'T want an arrangement like that?) I have to agree with Sheila and say break it off.
We've all heard about glasses being half empty or half full. It was said once that the level of the glass relates to if you are drinking from or pouring into one's glass. You are pouring and he is drinking -- that is you are benefitting his life but he is doing nothing but taking from yours.
Based on your age and what I remember from High School, reputations start flying furiously and he is likely to talk about "that ho who sucks me off whenever I want her to" and that will just make everything difficult for the next few years. Take a stand, move on, and wait a week... I bet you have another cute guy asking for your number.
2007-02-04 04:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by The Jeep Pilot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just from experience..it really sounds like he is using you for two things....money and sex!! You are too young and I'm sure too beautiful to tolerate this kind of abuse. I know it is hard but do yourself a favor and cut all ties with this boy. Men never change for anyone!!! And don't ever let any boy make you feel unimportant. Don't allow yourself for this to happen. Leaving him and moving on will make you feel better about yourself eventually. Not immediatly because I'm sure you will second guess your decision, but the best thing is to leave him. Don't be a sucker. You have your whole life ahead of you to meet someone that treats you like you deserve. Keep your chin up and move on. Your beautiful!!
2007-02-04 04:45:30 · answer #4 · answered by tweety24311@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon he is using you, go out and find someone who really cares for you. He is just getting more and more money out of you and will he pay it back probably not. find someone who loves you not used you. If feel so much better being loved. As for oral sex that is up to you and if you are confortable do it but do you want to do this just to get used again? Take care Heather
2007-02-04 04:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a BASTARD! Girl, stand up for yourself and dump his ***. Is this the kind of relationship you want to be engaged with? Move on. You deserve better than this. Importantly, ask God for forgiveness. Sex is to be kept pure for marriage. Premarital sex is an abomination to the Lord and often results in unwanted pregnancies, diseases, heartbreaks, and in this case abuse. You are breaking yourself apart.
2007-02-04 04:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so her is some guy advise: first of all guys want what they cant have. So stop giving him what he wants. no sex, no money, dont call him, and when he calls you say your busy and you'll call him back and then dont. this guy is using you like **** and he doesnt plan to ever get with you. just wait when he finds a girl he likes he'll never speak to you. so first just take everything away from him and then second find yourself a better guy who will treat you better, your young youll have some many more guys to date. take my advice and ditch that asshole
2007-02-04 04:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by Mac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy may make you feel pretty, but he is using you. Dump him! There are many guys out there that will make you feel pretty without asking you for money or sexual favors. Those are the ones you want to spend time with. Be picky!! This guy is a loser.
2007-02-04 04:44:35 · answer #8 · answered by Busy Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't belive you are for real. This sounds more like one of those fake childish postings we get from people with tons of free time.
If you were for real just by postin it shows that you know what the problem is and what you are suposed to do. So stop playing games and do something useful with your life.
2007-02-04 04:56:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your doing is not healthy for you. You are trying to make a relationship that is not going to happen. I think you need to realize what he wants is a mommy. He wants you to give and him take without having to give anything himself.
While you are playing mommy to him, a real relationship can't be found.
Best advice: save unconditional love for your children.
2007-02-04 04:52:17 · answer #10 · answered by monroe_dunbar1957 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋