Been asking this girl out for months, she refuses to give me an answer. Last month she said to me If I didnt stop asking her out her answer would be NO.
2 weeks ago she asks me if I wanted to go on holiday with her, my kids, her kid and her friends etc. I said I couldn't afford it but would love to have gone.
Not heard anything from her for ages and last friday night I sent her a txt saying I think we should just be friends.
Just recieved a txt asking if I know what a horrible weekend she has had following my txt, wanting to be friends
WHAT THE HELL IS THAT ABOUT!????
But guys I do have to say that she is the most caring beautifull, sensitive woman I have ever met, who just melts my heart!!
2007-02-04 04:17:05 · 20 answers · asked by Simon M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lily29 I tell her that nearly every week I see her.
2007-02-04 06:17:57 · update #1
The reason why I txt her "we should just be friends", was to give her a "get out" in case she didn't want to be romantically involved with me.
But why tell me she loves me?
2007-02-04 06:20:13 · update #2
I'm a lady so I'll tell you what would have been goin through my mind. She most likely meant what she said about "pressuring" her to give you an answer. That doesn't mean she's not interested, it means she wasn't ready to give you an answer, yet. She wouldn't have asked you to go on holiday if she didn't like you! Then you go and screw it up by txting her with, "I think we should just be friends". What was your reason for texting that? Did you mean it or were you trying to "pressure" her again by making it look like you weren't interested? She was being honest by telling you she wasn't sure yet, and she was honest again when she told you your text messed up her weekend. Both of you sound, to me, like mature people. Why don't you tell her what you've told us about her? What you said was beautiful, honest and touching. Tell HER! If you put yourself out there(kind of cuz she knows you like her already) and she responds with something like "eeww, no way" then she's a b*#@h and you are better off without her.I'm not sure of your ages but if you are older than 22 you should just cut the crap and tell her what she means to you and that you will spend eternity proving it to her.Go for it! Good times n good luck-she'd be stupid not to like you. ;)
2007-02-04 04:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She may have not agreed to go out with you, because she wanted to take things slowly and likes having you around and the attention that you give her. But somehow I dont think its that!! I think that you are pushing buttons for a reaction, thats why you text her Friday night, perhaps it made you feel good when she told you that she had a bad weekend? Was it that bad that she couldn't bring herself to text you until Sunday? I dont know the full story, so I have to guess at this and it would appear that you really like this lady, so what I am going to say you will probably not appreciate. I think that she likes having the controlling card, she seems to have put you on a string and likes you dangling there until she wants to see or chat with you. Its not a fair relationship is it? I really hope that things work out for you.
2007-02-04 12:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by ambertottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she wants to go out with you but is not ready. Give her some time, save your moeny, and the next time she asked you out go with her. When you refused to go out with the kids and had no money she was probably thinking that you don't like her kids. the just friends txt was hurtful to her because she likes you. Sit her down alone and talk all this out and work around the times that you can go financially and make sure that you get involved with her children. That is something that very much pleases a women. If you cant accept the kids she may think that you don't want her either. Life is too shor to live with regret, work it out talk,,,Take care Heather
2007-02-04 12:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain!
This is possibly the most annoying thing about asking a woman out - when they won't give a staright answer and you are in a no-win situation.
The only thing to do is to tell her that you like her very much.
Then tell her that you do want to go out with her rather than being just friends.
Then tell her that the uncertainty surrounding her wishes or intentions is impossible for you to live with.
Then ask her to be clear and explicit about what she wants.
When you have that clarity you can either get together with her or tell her that you must be apart.
But she must give a final straight yes or no answer. Crunch time has come.
Good luck.
2007-02-04 13:01:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me as if the lady doesn't know what she wants. I think your suggestion that you just be friends may even be more than you should allow. If she is going to be upset because you said no to an invitation for a weekend (with good cause might I add), just think how upset she might get if you were actually already in a relationship with you. Spoiled brat if you ask me and sweet or not, I think you are in for trouble if you pursue her. Good luck.
2007-02-04 12:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by Poohcat1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is true then why the hell would you tell her that you only want to be friends? That was a dumb decision and you're going to end up pushing her away. So if I were you, I'd tell her that it was a mistake, and you would love to be more than friends if that's what she wants? If she still acts offended then she's playing with you and doesn't really want to be with you. Good luck hon!
2007-02-04 12:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she decided that she finally agree to be with ya on holiday and was mad with ya when ya didnt go and then she got that message and realised shes blown her chance. actually the woman sounds a bit messed up in the head and wires have being crossed btween the pair of ye. ask her to give you a straight answer on what she wants and if she cant move on.
2007-02-04 13:04:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let your feelings for this woman cloud your judgment about her. It's obvious that she knows how you feel about her and is using it to her advantage. She only asked you to go on vacation with her because that was good for her. You sent her a text discussing an issue that effected the both of you and she wrote back talking only of herself. Find yourself a woman who deserves you.
2007-02-04 12:29:33 · answer #8 · answered by Candie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's playing games. She has you convinced that she is the most caring beautifull, sensitive woman you have ever met.
She has you on the back burnner until she finds someone better. When you threatened her safety net, she got uncomfortable.
2007-02-04 12:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by Jenna T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to break it to you man, but she is TOTALLY indecisive and it seems she is just playing with you, trying to string you along. I know you see the good sides of her - when you like someone you always do. But if she can't even commit to a cup of coffee for god's sakes, how in the world can your text have ruined her weekend? Please take your love blinders off and see her for what she is - a jerk.
2007-02-04 12:25:19 · answer #10 · answered by lanibear55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋