The guy I've been seeing for about 7 months was diagnosed with testicular cancer a few months back. He's older than me and I'm away at college. We live 2 hours apart. I wanted to be there for him everyday, but I knew realistically I couldn't be in person. We talked constantly and I sent my support as well as I could that way. I just found out, however, that his ex who lives where he does visited him alot during his treatment and that they have been spending alot of time together. He never told me this, I found out through a friend. Do you think because she was there for him during the treatment that he wants to get back with her, over possibly being with me since we aren't officially boyfriend and girlfriend yet. Please help! He's very important to me and I want him in my life, and to be in his.
2007-02-04 04:08:33 · 8 answers · asked by citygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Doesn't sound like it is something you can control. Just keep trying to be supportive of him and be there for him when you can.
Don't confront him. Just be a good friend. Exes know us better than most of our best friends. It doesn't surprise me that she was there for him and he was comforted by it. But there is a reason they are exes. And so in the long run, they won't be good for each other. So, you will likely get your wish if you just hang in there.
2007-02-04 04:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you're not "officially" his girlfriend I don't think you should be worried about with this. Maybe he does love his ex, he has cancer. Let him move on. He's been with her a while and the fact that she's there for him now, may bring them together. Just ask him. Be direct. Ask him does he want to be with her or not? If he does, then I would let him go, you may want him in your life but you're not wanted. So move on. Maybe they are meant and you two aren't. At least you gave it a chance. Good luck babe!
2007-02-04 12:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Illness in a family can bring loved ones together, it makes them stop and look at their lives and see that someone needs then so they stop everything and help that person. In theory it could re kindle an old flame they was burnt out long ago, but if you really love him, he knows that, he knows that you are trying to get your education and feel that you love and support him, tell him your concerns so that you all can talk about it rather than feeling like you might loose him
2007-02-04 12:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by Kate P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him what is going on. Why would he not tell you. Is there something going on? My ex and I have a great relationship. However, it has taken over 10 years to get here. They maybe using this to resolve issues or this could be a situation where they may wish to reunite. You are going to have to ask him. Only he can tell you what is happening. Best of luck.
2007-02-04 12:15:06 · answer #4 · answered by SHAy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That type of cancer can be cured if caught early. Just be there for him and good luck. I wish him the best.
2007-02-04 12:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES it can bring you closer. BUT go on with your schooling. I PUT mine on hold 4 people. LATER i payed the price.
2007-02-04 12:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you missed out on him...sounds like you too could have had a ball together..
2007-02-04 12:13:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would of been there with him....but that is just me!!
2007-02-04 12:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋