my son wets his bed and pants i took your advise and took him to a doctor there is nothing wrong is diapers ok

Question

my son is 13 he wets his bed, and pants during the day and night. i took him to the doctors last night. he is ok. the doctors did alot of testes on him. and they could find nothing wrong. i am sick of wet clothes and bed sheets.since there is nothing wrong would it be ok to put him in diapers. the doctor said he is acting out by wetting on purpous. since he does that i want to put him in diapers and treat him like a baby. i figure if he wants to actlike a baby then he most defenatly can be treated like one. thats fine right. i figured why put pull ups on a 13 year old if he wets his pants on purpous. why not diapers and rubber pants.

Answer 1

Make him go pee every 15 minutes and before he goes to bed then in the morning when he wakes up.

Answer 2

Putting a diaper on him is retaliation. There are so many things I agree with from others who have answered this question. I would go with the Psychiatrist, make him go to the toilet every 1/2 hour, put a plastic mattress cover on his bed, make HIM wash his own sheets and peed on items. My son has been able to do laundry since he was 10 years old. He doesn't have to, but he knows how. There is a reason he is doing this and maybe even HE doesn't know why. Get him some mental help. I would not go the depends route for a few reasons--One, they are expensive!! Two, they will make him more comfortable in his mess. One of the reasons kids learn to stop this is because it is uncomfortable in their wet and stinky pants. And three, you putting diapers on him could make the reason he is doing this in the first place worse. Also this is one of the many signs that a child is being sexually abused, they are trying to make themselves repulsive to their abuser.

Answer 3

I think the diapers and rubber pants would make the problem worse there has to be something at school or home that is making him act out this way. Call your sons Doctors office maybe they can recommend something to try. Diapers and rubber pants are not the way to go for a 13 year old.

Answer 4

You need a different doctor... many children have small or under developed bladders that make night time control impossible. even at 13. As for the day time wetting that is a whole different matter.....this boy obviously has some serious issues and your ridiculous punishments might be part of the problem. Get family counseling before you totally mess up that child or get your self in trouble with the law for child abuse. You need someone to help you cope.

Answer 5

Okay-so no medical reason found by a doctor-he is doing this on purpose. The next step-is NOT diapers/ it is counseling. Why is he doing ths? Probably for attention. From whom? Probably someone in your family-you or the dad. Or both. So, please as soon as you can, find a counselor for him to talk with. If you don't know where to start, please ask the doctor-they should be able to reccommend someone-or a clinic with counselors your son can go to. Please----DO NOT use diapers-all that will do is cause more problems. He is not a baby-please don't treat him as such. Meanwhile, show him how to use the washer/dryer/laundry soap, fabric softner sheets, etc. Also, is he feeling highly stressed at schol? Take care.l

Answer 6

Have you taken him to more than one Dr.? Take him to a Urologist, please.
No 13 year old wants to wet his bed and pants. There is a problem here. Do you really think he needs more humiliation than he already suffers, by putting him in diapers????
Granted, this may be frustrating to you, but just for a minute, consider how it must feel to your son. You will be doing much more harm to him by taking the word of one Dr., who doesn't know anything about your son outside of what he has been told, and placing him in diapers. Have you considered the possibility that your son has been sexually molested?
Age 13 is not a stable age to begin with, and it is not uncommon of kids of this age to commit suicide.
You may be sick of wet clothes and sheets, but you have a child that you are responsible for. At this point, it should be him you think of first, not yourself.
I do not mean this in an uncaring way, I am just trying to point out what may not be obvious to you.
I hope you both find the answer to this, and wish you luck.

Answer 7

My son is 11 and wets the bed. I believe that he has inherited this from me because i stopped at a late age. Yet way before 13. I also get frustrated with my washing machine being constantly used for this reason. As far as the day wettings, I have no experience this really, but there is obviously a problem. being sleep is one thing but doing this when he is alert is reason to think that there is something that needs to be deeply discussed. There are diapers for bigger kids, they are called goodnites by huggies. I know that my son is at the point where he is just being lazy and his habits contribute to his bed wetting and he needs to train himself to wake up. I feel so deeply for you because i feel that just because of the day time thing you will have such a hard battle in front of you. Really take time to talk to him and MAKE him tell you what the problem is. Ask him why he does it. And do not except "I don't know". This will be hard fro him becuz kids try to use that way out and having to answer is uncomfortable. Simply having to answer and ur commitment to getting one may open up alot of things that were unseen or simply ignored situations. This is ur son, and let that alone be ur inspiration to hang in there no matter how tough, to getting this nipped in the bud. Getting through these kinds of things is what makes us better people and parents. There will be resistance, pulling against the resistance gives us strength.

Answer 8

If your child has a bed-wetting problem and you take him to the doctor for a medical evaluation, what sort of questions and tests should you expect? With bed-wetting, it usually is fairly easy to rule out medical causes. The doctor can then take the role of coach to help your child take control of his bladder, and in the process strengthen his sense of self-control and mastery in general. Terminology The medical term for bed-wetting is enuresis. Most children with bed-wetting problems have simply never learned to stay dry at night. Assuming that your child is dry during the day and has not lost the control that he once had, then most doctors would consider this to be primary nocturnal enuresis--that is, common garden-variety bed-wetting. If the child has been dry every night for several months but then starts wetting the bed again, the problem more likely to have been caused by another illness. Doctors call this secondary enuresis. Sometimes the line between secondary enuresis and primary enuresis is a bit blurry. As children are learning to control their bladders, they can be dry for a few weeks, then start wetting again. This happens so commonly that most doctors won't diagnose secondary enuresis until after the dry period lasts several months. Sometimes there is an obvious cause for this back-slipping, such as the birth of a younger brother or sister or a stressful event in the family. Sometimes it just happens. Physical exam and tests Most children who have primary nocturnal enuresis are completely healthy--there is nothing wrong with them other than the fact that they have yet to gain control of their bladders at night. In rare cases, there is an underlying medical, developmental, or emotional problem. Your child's doctor can check for these problems without doing any fancy testing; a physical examination and urine test is usually sufficient. If your child wets during the day or has to urinate very frequently during the day in order to stay dry, the likelihood of there being an underlying medical problem is higher, and so there may be more medical evaluation done. Constipation One other important medical condition needs mentioning here: constipation. Children with constipation often have bed-wetting problems, too. Fix the constipation and the bed-wetting often gets better. If you don't fix the constipation, all of the other treatments for bed-wetting are likely to fail. The main signs of constipation are stomachaches, hard bowel movements that might be painful to pass, several days between bowel movements, or frequent leakage of stool with staining of the underpants. The "coach" approach When I see a school-age child with a bed-wetting problem, I try to direct most of my questions and advice to the child and purposely not to his parent. Some parents may feel that this is rude of me, but there is a good reason for it. I know that for the bed-wetting treatment to work, the child will have to invest a fair amount of effort into taking control of the problem. Often, just the opposite has been the case. The parent, upset about having to change sheets all the time, has made the problem her own. She (or the dad) is the one who really cares about the bed-wetting. The child is able to pretend that it's no big deal to him. If the parent really demands my attention during the visit, I might ask pointedly, "Whose problem is this?" Generally, this is enough to get us back on track, and it usually gets a smile from the child, who knows very well what has been going on! I like to take the role of coach. A coach works with the athlete (child) to get the best performance. But it is the athlete who ultimately remains in charge. This is a pointedly nonmedical way of approaching the problem, but it is often the most effective. It is wonderful when a child can proudly report that he has solved his own bed-wetting problem.

Answer 9

I don't think he is doing it on purpose. There is a part of our brain that tells us to wake up when we have to go to the bathroom and I am sure he does not like to be wet and all. It may be an emotional problem I would get a second opinion on it. I don't think it is something he can control. Good Luck

Answer 10

Apparently your kids wants you attention for some reason and knows this is something he can hook into you. If there is no biological problems, I suggest you need to take him to a psychologist. In the meanwhile, get him some adult diapers. They would hold more urine than a regular diaper.

Answer 11

AWWWWW poor kid
if they did a bunch of tests probably not all the results are back and if you know forsure he is acting out...take him to a physcologist to find out why he feels the need to act out or what his problem is..
I feel bad for him and the work it makes for you too but 13 is a fragile age and he needs to get some help to sort this out