ok, here goes....i am 35 and have been seeing this guy thats 36, for almost 2 yrs. and things were so great at 1st...arent they always.....anyhow, from the beginning he had a problem keeping track of time, he would always be with his pals and inevitably someting would come up and we would end up with very little time together, i work 13 days straight and then get a day off, recently we picked out a gorgeous ring, and have talked about him spending time with his friends so much, but after a week or "being good" he starts to slip up again, i told him i am tired of only having him around as a pillow in bed, he comes over at 10 pm and we leave for work at 7am, am i being jealous or unreasonable or is this relationship just not right? i want a guy who likes to be with me, and can bring me around his friends, i love sports, am pretty smart and too old for this.....WHAT WOULD YOU DO??? seriously...i care for him but his late night habits are getting old and he wont change, is it time to quit
2007-02-04 03:27:20 · 4 answers · asked by Sandie L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off, you are not being jealous or unreasonable, this is a common and normal way to react when a significant other is not spending enough time, or is paying too much attention to others. Obviously he has the potential to change, if he actually changed for a week. But then he slipped, and thats not good either. You really need to talk to him, and express that this is bothering you to an extent that you are even thinking about breaking it off if he does not get his act together. Time spent together is a must and we do cherish it, that is what a relationship is about. Communication is also necessary, and if he is only coming around late night when it's time to go to bed, then comminication is also cut off. Sacrifices need to be made in order to make a relationship work. And if he cannot sacrifice time with his friends, this is going to continue to upset you more and more if you put up with it. Don't let your guard down. Do what you feel is right. Maybe take some time apart if he is not willing to give his friends up (he does not necessarily need to give them up all together, just enough that you are satisfied.) But if he cannot do that, as much as it may hurt, and as much as you do care about him, put yourself first. Care about yourself and your feelings, it's not worth being with him, if this is hurting you. Space may work, he may then realize that he is missing out on a great woman.
2007-02-04 03:39:35 · answer #1 · answered by Loves It<3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ur relationship seems to have been going smoothly- except that eensy weensy problem!
Tell him exactly wat u think...
Tell him that u R not willing 2 give up ur relationship, but tht he is really bothering u.
I hope the best things will turn out!
2007-02-04 03:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him you want a reall comiment. u dont have time for games anymore. if u really love me its time to settle down. if not you have to move on.
2007-02-04 03:39:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously cheating on you
2007-02-04 03:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by Curious 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋