I have a great relationship w/ a good man for over a year. We have never "played games" & I made it clear from the start that I don't do that & that I find it a waste of time (i.e. if you want to call someone, just call them, don't wait 3 days).
For whatever reason, he has been ignoring me since last night. I did't do anything to upset him. I spent the night at my place for the first time in months. He ignored me all night. He ignored a text & gave me attitude when I called at 10am just to say good morning.
He has been going through some things (i.e. lost his job, stress of school for masters degree), & through it all he has been grumpy (which I understand) but has NEVER ignored me.
I do feel that these life changes are causing him to rethink our relationship & that he is on the verge of making a decision.
That said, I'm afraid to put my foot down about his "game playing" because I honestly feel that it will either annoy him or be enough to cause him to decide to break
2007-02-04 03:26:25 · 10 answers · asked by :-) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
up with me, but at the same time I don't want to be in a relationship where I have to walk on egg shells, and if he is to break up with me over that, then I don't want to be with him in the first place.
Should I call him out on ignoring me? I have already asked him if he was okay, but as I said, I got nothing but attitude.
2007-02-04 03:27:40 · update #1
Not confronting someone about something in a relationship is bad news in my opinion but some people are in these relationships for years and everything is "fine".
Being in a relationship is a right that has to be earned everyday. It doesn't have to be anything special sometimes just being there for someone is enough. Maybe you should decide if he has done enough to warrant being in a relationship with you lately.
2007-02-04 03:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by Ben R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a day or two. He is obviously having a bad day. You don't know yet whether it's due to stress in his own life or whether he's thinking of breaking up with you. But it's only been a few hours. It's much too soon for putting your foot down about anything. Maybe this evening you need to ask him, kindly, how his day has been.
I don't know if I understand "ignored me all night." If you were sleeping at your own place, did you want to be awakened by non-ignoring phone calls? Maybe you both need a little space, a tryout of not living so much in each other's pockets.
2007-02-04 11:40:08 · answer #2 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just go to his place and talk with him about your relationship with him. Tell him you want to know where you stand. And all the stress and studying for his Master's is no reason for attitude he is geting you. He seems like he needs to grow up and realize that life doesn't revolve around him. So once you have talked with him try to make the right decision, also if he doesn't wnat to talk well teh best thing for you is kick him to the curb and move on.
2007-02-04 11:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you know if you don't play games the relationship gets boring and gets less interesting and desirable and its all stress with this whole thing YOU sound like a very strong woman this guy of yours just wants to have fun and i kinda think that you being too serious about this whole no games thing is actually adding to the problem plus it sounds as if you guys hang out too much together if you really love him you have git to learn to play games or just find someone whos into that same rule as you are and plus you should give him some space to breathe alone and think all this stress out
2007-02-04 11:34:29 · answer #4 · answered by Tash 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been through a lot of what you say he is going thru. I think he feels like a failure and is going thru a depression. The best you can do is let him know you are there for him and believe in him. It will be a tough time but you have to fight for him at this point. If nothing else, he will open up and reveal his feelings to you. Be ready for the worst but you have to find out for the good of your relationship and your peace of mind. Good luck.
2007-02-04 11:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by cinsingl83 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could just be going thru a really rough time in his life like you said, and eventually he'll snap outta it. Just give him some time to mellow out and wait for him to contact you! Sometimes it's not about games, but about space. The other side of the coin, unfortunately, is that he is cheating on you. Sounds harsh, but look for signs. Don't be surprised.
2007-02-04 11:31:45 · answer #6 · answered by aslgirl143 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait it out until he has better good luck. Maybe , possibly he could be cheating and doesn't want you to know. He might decide to leave you, but he might decide to leave her. Don't nag. Just tell him your going out with some friends one night and see what he does. Go out, but stand outside the house. If he comes outside, ask him why. That's an easy way to tell if hes cheating. Ask him if hes interested in having sex. If he gives attitude, somethings definatly wrong. Men don't just turn down sex.
2007-02-04 11:34:04 · answer #7 · answered by socailbutterfly2006 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is going to make a decision. You or his future. And i think that you being around him is disrupting his decision. I say let him be for a little bit. Then approach him, in person. Be very "to your point" and very stern.
2007-02-04 11:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by :D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would hate to be in a relationship with you
2007-02-04 11:31:15 · answer #9 · answered by mycatsdead 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Go blow your self.
2007-02-04 11:30:17 · answer #10 · answered by crazyblondmonkey4eva 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋