I am single. I have been for a bit and am the only one of my friends who is. There isn't anyone I'm even interested in, but I do wish I could be in a relationship. Since that isn't likely to happen anytime soon, how do I accept the fact that I'm going to be single for awhile?
I live in a small retirement community, meeting single guys my age (late 20s) isn't easy. All of my friends have family lives and aren't interested in going out or things like that. Besides that I have a small daughter so it's not like I can get out much anyway. So dating isn't really an option. So what do you do if you have to accept the fact that you are going to be single for the forseeable future? How do you get around valentine's day parties and other events where everyone brings a date? How do I stay the happy comfortable person my friends know while listening to them talk about how great their relationships are when I'm single?
2007-02-04 03:11:31 · 8 answers · asked by libra1079 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is the best time for you to be completely selfish!! Now what I mean by this is you have no other obligations except to your self. Sure it gets lonely and boring at times, but that's o.k. really!! Do for your self right now. I don't know if you're in school, but if not; take some classes, or do something as simple as spending the weekend on a mini vaction or just watch whatever you want on the t.v. Being single can be great, don't worry when the time is right I promise the one that's for you will come around.
2007-02-04 03:20:29 · answer #1 · answered by stacia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Remember you now have no limits. You can chat with people and your not cheating on your boyfriend! Whenever you feel like you are desperate for a man, endorse yourself in ice cream or if your on a diet play with your little girl! If your daughter is around 5-10 then get involved in her life. You don't have to live in that community, you could move. You may not be single the rest of your life, so get out there! Start chatting with people online, and meet other singles near you! It works. but make sure you can really trust this person. You never know on the Internet!
2007-02-04 03:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by socailbutterfly2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that you are who you are without someone else in your life and that no relationship is better than being in a bad relationship. Don't let being single define you.
We must look at life in terms where we must first decide what we want, THEN seek it. Take this time to look at yourself realistically and decide what type of guy you want (generally and specifically) and what things will tell you that any particular guy fits your mold. You see, too many don't think about this too much and end up settling, which is like walking onto a used car lot with no idea what you want and buying whatever he sends your way. You're going to end up with a lemon.
People watch. OK, think up 3 general things you want and 3 specific things you want. Then think, "how does a guy go about demonstrating that he's these 6 things". Now, don't think the guy is a lab rat for you to test. See if he's the right guy, not a guy who has picked up on your tests and savvy enough to respond correctly. Guys are both smarter and more stupid than you think.
If you want compassion, see how he responds when you pass a car accident on the road.
If you want clarity and decisiveness, look at his life, his job, and his previous relationships. Is he adrift and responsive, or is he proactive?
Personally, I advise you to look for a guy who has an forgiving and accepting spirit. See if he blames everything bad in life on somebody else.
Identify what you want.
Decide how to find what it is you want.
Go and get what you want
2007-02-04 03:34:03 · answer #3 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Single isn't that bad. i'm single myself and its great b/c i can focus on my career as a chef and i can get my life in order. Now you have think of your little girl who needs you more than ever and having a guy can only distract you from your girl. I know that valentines is around the corner but just think you can celebrate that day with your daughter. You just have to understand that right now isn't your time to have a man. Give it some time and a man will be happy to be with you and your little girl.
2007-02-04 03:22:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex broke up with me on January 1st 2000 so I've been single for 7 years two months and 4 days, how time flies... I've never really accepted being single, I just am.
2007-02-04 03:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by Ben R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them! You can be single and happy! Just remember when you were 11, and you didn't have a boyfriend, how did you live like that? How did have fun? You can have fun with your friends and you boys.
2007-02-04 03:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to look at all the benefits of singlehood. What's a V-Day party compared to your ability to do whatever you please, without answering to anyone? There was an article in Psychology Today that taught me this. E-mail me and I'll send it right over.
2007-02-04 03:16:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay positive try to do more things with your daughter, you never know you could meet a single parent dad
2007-02-04 03:17:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋