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I have been depressed & unable to control my emotions for the past 7 months, due to a bad breakup. I have been in therapy and also have been seeing a psychatrist. He has put me on several anti-depressants, but my body cant handle them, I get sick or feel worst then before.I dont know what to do anymore. I feel a lot of resentment towards him, I get sad and cry alot, then that fuels alot of anger, in which I dont know how to control. I feel helpless and have very low self esteem. There have been times where I feel I just dont want to be anymore. I dont know how to deal with these emotions, they can be very overwhelming. I have tried to be around positive people, I try to go out. But when I have a moment alone to think, it all comes rushing back. I figured time would help, but it hasn't.I feel alone, betrayed, devalued, and really sad about how it all happened, it was not my choice. What should I do?Can someone who can relate please tell me? Never had depression until this happened.

It was the way he did it and what i helped him through, so much, even suicide feelings when he was depressed about a messed yp situation. Then he reacted dlike he never knew me. Told me our relationship never consisted of much, which in fact it did. I never saw thisside to him. We are 29 yrs old. We were together for 2yrs. He talked marriage, kids, moving in together, love all that. Then he acted like I was an aquaintance. Who does this. He made me feel like I was the crazy one. I cant believe he would say these things. Was it to make himself feel better that what he did was right. To justify what he did was right??

Answer 1

You are the only one who can make you realize that you are worth so much more than the value another person places on you. Don't let another person have that kind of power over you. Things will get better and if you have to take it 5 minutes at a time to start with do it like that...you can get through the next five minutes, then you can get through the next hour, then before long work up to getting through days at a time. Spend time with close friends and family and small kids if possible. When things seem so big looking at the world from a different perspective can really make a difference. I know it is really hard to imagine but someday when the time is right for you and you are in a good place in your life (maybe you have a baby that adores you just because) then you will look back and think there were so many more important bigger things in life to consider. Sometimes problems or feelings seem insurmountable until we are past them and then we look back thinking "well that was alot easier than it I thought" and we come out stronger in the end. Goodluck.

Answer 2

I went through 2 bad divorces that sent me into a tailspin. I drank myself silly every day and didn't care if I lived or died. I was younger then, in my 20's. I know look at things a lot differently. I have learned to live each day as it comes and put the past in the past. Listen, there is nothing you can do to change what has happened, but you do have a choice in how you live today and in the future. Today is a new day in your life, a clean slate to start anew.This is your life and he is still controlling you and your life because you are allowing him to.You have to decide to not let him take one more minute of your life away from you. You have to go on and live your own life and enjoy being young and single. I learned that heartache isn't a once in a lifetime thing. People will always let you down or dissapoint you throughout your life. People will come and go and each person was in your life for a reason. Some come and go and some will stay but they all had a purpose to fulfill in your life by teaching you something. You have wasted enough of your days crying over him. Stand up and be your own person now. Life is so short....don't waste your time on people who don't treat you right. Learn from this and take those lessons forward with you. Remember that you teach people how to treat you so accept nothing less than respect from anyone. Your Dr may need to try different antidepressants and doses until you find what works best for you. If I had continued drinking, I would now be an alcoholic, lonely and my life would be ruined. Instead, I took my life back and am now happily married to the greatest woman and we are very happy. I never would have met the right one if I had let the other one ruin me for good. Your life is just getting started. Live it for yourself! You deserve it.

Answer 3

i'm sorry. doesn't sound like this person is even worth the emotions you're giving him. you deserve someone much better than this and once you realize YOUR worth, you can begin to heal. don't isolate yourself, try hanging out with friends for at least an hour or two, go to the bookstore and hang out there, read magazines and books. do some volunteer work if possible, it will help you get your mind off your problems for a little while.

you're on the young side, so your life is not over, you have so much more to look forward to, just don't give up because of this one individual.

learn more about who you are and what you will accept and that will help you make better decisions when choosing a partner.

Answer 4

try going to a peaceful place, like a school. Go to a place where no one knows who you are. You can start of fresh. People won't say like oh this person did this and that, or This person is so this and that. You don't have to put up with all that. Try starting your life all over again. Go to a place where you can get your emotions in control. CONTROL is the word.

Answer 5

Are you still living in the same place that you two shared? and the bed is it the same? these if the same will bring you right back to the old times of when you were together get new bedding or move something change things around make things different and make sure you dont have "his" picture around it will trigger you back in an instant