ok, say you have a daughter, and she's going to be telling you she's engaged, and getting married in a few years. pretend you're my parents: slightly, erm.. conservative to put it politely.
your daughter (me) and her fiance make dinner this saturday or sunday (the weekend before valentine's day, and yes it's intentional to be that day) they serve dinner and dinner is eaten in relative silence (my family is odd i know...my parents like to listen to the news) after dinner, is some dessert, and then the daughter and fiance say something along the lines of "You know we have been together for a long time, and we've gone through a lot together. we're engaged and we plan on getting married in June 2009." to make it clear, you already knew they were engaged, but had previously ignored it.
i just want to know what people think of this idea. and if you have any suggestions on how to make this better or something like that feel free to tell me!! especially what i should cook... Thanks!!!
2007-02-04 02:56:33 · 8 answers · asked by Duelen 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
would a heart shaped redvelvet cake work for dessert, and then some heart shaped burgers or something? i just found recipes for both of these and i though it might be cute...or is it tacky and corny? my parents don't really have a favorite food that i know of.............and chocalte cake is liked by everyone!!
2007-02-04 04:48:53 · update #1
If they already knew you were engaged and chose to ignore it, I wouldn't go through all that to tell them again.
I would stand next to your fiancee and say something like - "As you know Blank and I are engaged. We wanted you to know that we have decided to have a long engagement and we plan on getting married in June 2009."
As for the food, cook them something they like to eat, but that you cook really well. Serve their favorite dessert.
Good luck!
Update: The heart shaped cake sounds very appropriate, especially since Valentine's day is around the corner. Heart shaped burgers... that's a bit corny. Just my opinion.
2007-02-04 04:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its a good way to announce your engagement. :) The parents should be one of the first if not the first to know so your plan of telling them is good and the approach is good to. Im not sure how old you are but if you are of age, I think they will be ok with it. Just know that from Feb 2007 to June 2009 is a long engagement and if they have a particular aversion to the idea of you getting married or they dont like your fiance, its best to wait for a bit before telling them, thats more than 2 yrs before the wedding anyway. Cook your parent's favorite food, order a special engagement cake or dessert, cook or buy everything that will make your parents be in a good mood. Goodluck!
2007-02-04 03:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by pinayinpenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just sit them down with something nice and light, like a tray of cookies and say, "As you know, ____ and I are engaged to be married in 2009. We are asking for your blessing in this marriage." If they do not give their blessing, the do not want you to marr him. Simply say that you are sorry tha tyou feel that way but you are going to continue with your plans to be married.
Also, your parents might be upset that your guy never asked for their permission to propose to you. It isn't too late for him to ask for your hand in marriage.
2007-02-04 05:13:54 · answer #3 · answered by stampadhesive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would cook something that you think your parents would eat, like their favourite type of food...
Maybe talk to your mum seperate beforehand, if you are her get on well so that one of them knows and if your dad dosent take it well your mum wont be shocked and will be able to stand up for you
2007-02-04 03:06:12 · answer #4 · answered by mary L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most Parents eyes the man is suppose to ask your father for your hand in marriage and if that has not happened yet you may be able to get away with it that way. But it would be just fine for me Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-04 03:05:28 · answer #5 · answered by spunkie_6969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously can't act the way your parents would.
But after all, it's not their business. Tell them and you'll see how they react. If they don't approve your choice, there's nothing more you can do.
2007-02-04 03:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by moulin.rouge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its gotta be better than the way i told my mum she saw the ring on my finger and said whats that and i said what do you think so yeah your way sounds good
2007-02-04 11:37:48 · answer #7 · answered by sexymumma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what your definition of CONSERVATIVE is, but if they are as CONSERVATIVE as my parents.... I would wait until its closer to your desired wedding date....
2007-02-04 13:23:55 · answer #8 · answered by Yessi H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋