Just about 8months back i met a girl in my office , i worked there for 15days and i left organisation,but we were great frens over there . After that i kept in touch with her through phone and sms and we also met once .We generally keep in touch on phone or Sms...................i have expressed my love twice to her through SMS and she says we are good frens........ i am right now out of job and she is doing decent job and she is having one sister besides.............yesterday i sent her message in which i clearly told she is selfish,mean and.......blah,blah................she still says we are gud frens and i told i am clear that i want her as my love........well i am really tired .............when she will ring tommorrow how should i talk her to clearly propose her and if she still comes out with something we are great frens .............saying her good bye for ever in good manner so that i dont waste my time.........6 months is more than enough i think to wait
2007-02-04 02:30:47 · 15 answers · asked by psychotic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The friend thing is the kiss of death on a girlfriend relationship. You will never get any, time to move on. You need someone who will return your affection and this gal won't. Tell her you already have plenty of friends and you want a girlfriend so, BY BY.
2007-02-04 02:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My man, let it go.
There was something my dad told me at least twice a week:
"You can't make someone love you. You can love someone more than they love you."
This is very easy to resolve. Look, she said that you 2 are good/great friends. She doesn't want to go any further than that. There is a delicate fabric there, and she doesn't want it to rip. With you pursuing her in the fashion that you are, you'll wind up losing her as a friend. With you also reacting negatively towards her (yesterday i sent her message in which i clearly told she is selfish,mean and.......blah,blah.............. still says we are gud frens and i told i am clear that i want her as my love), YOU DON'T WIN WOMEN OVER DOING THESE THINGS. This is not the manner a good man acts in. If a women says, "Not interested," "We are just friends," take it at face value. It's not going any further than that, no matter how hard you try. Also, you might want to keep your distance from her, because she may be very much afraid of you, and may take measures to insure her safety.
Don't pursue her. If it's in the Plan, she'll come around. But for now, look for another person and Please, don't do anything negative around or to her.
2007-02-04 10:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by Andrew B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly, she doesn't see you as the love in her life. You can continue to be a good friend or leave her company altogether. But don't be abusive. She has every right to choose the man in her life. You can't force her to accept you. There is no doubt about the sincerity of your love for her. But it is equally doubtless that she isn't interested. She has been decent enough not to rebuff your love rudely. On the contrary, she has been extremely polite in conveying her mind to you in a manner which should even be understandable to a person of average intelligence. You should respect her decision and not pester her with more advances or abuses. Don't target your frustrations on her. If she doesn't change her mind miraculously overnight, don't expect her next phone message to be any different from the earlier ones. It is time for you to quit sportingly without wasting more time.
2007-02-04 10:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get stable fist. Find a job, see how it goes. No time is long enough when two people's life is involved so cool it. Normally I say forget it but the situation is different in your case be practical, she is not ready, both need to mature a little bit.
2007-02-04 13:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but she already told you how she feels, she just want to be friends and has told you time and time on. Find someone that wants to have a relationship. stop wasting your time with her and just be glad that you are friends still.
2007-02-04 10:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by misty blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say "Well good friend, have a good life and I hope we speak to each other from time to time!" Don't contact her again first, let her make the next ove.
2007-02-04 10:37:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ready to accept her as a friend. Be friendly. If fortunatly she falls on love with you, one fine day she will express her love to you. So wait. Be friendly. Don't loose a good friend.
2007-02-04 11:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by Chellibalu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously she really thinks of you as just a friend, you should just accept that and keep that friendship.. maybe in the future things will change.. try to concentrate on yourself by finding a job first, good luck
2007-02-04 10:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by gone 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn to spell before you propose getting married to anyone.
It sounds like she isn't into you in any shape other then a friend.
2007-02-04 10:36:49 · answer #9 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be happy that she still considers, such an unstable person like u as her friend.......so dont be pushing ur luck too hard ......
be her friend or say good bye.....that is the best thing i think, u can do for friendships sake.
2007-02-05 16:26:12 · answer #10 · answered by smile2u2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋