he was never a real potential boyfriend - there are things i don't like about the way he acts often, how he swears, and a lot of his opinions and attitudes about things.
nonetheless, i was attracted to him and so we got together. i know he really likes me, and the more time we spend togtether (4 months now) the more i like about him. and i'm getting attatched, but the things i don't like about him won't go away...
also, i'm worried if i break up with him i'll be lonely, or that i'll change my mind and want him back.
but maybe i should free myself to meet someone who is more right for me...
to stay or go?
2007-02-04 02:28:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound pretty selfish. Maybe you need someone who is selfish also. Then you can see what it is like to kiss someones rear and have them be mean to you in return.
2007-02-04 02:34:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was never a real potential boyfriend? Sounds like you didn't give him a fair shake to begin with. In relationships, you have to take the good with the bad. For instance, my husband thinks his gas is hilarious, but I find it repulsive. I can ignore his noisy rearend, because I love him so much, and he has so many other wonderful things about him. You knew from the start that this guy wasn't going to be anything special to you. You owe him at least the respect of being honest with him. Let him move on with his life. And you move on with yours.
2007-02-04 10:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very touchy subject to deal with. I'd sit down and have a chat with him and let him know how you feel about his behavior. He can change one thing and that is the (swearing), anybody can stop doing that. As far as opinions well he has his right to his own opinion no matter what. Attitudes can also be changed if a person really desires to change.
2007-02-04 10:32:52 · answer #3 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a relationship is gonna go in dumps if attraction is the only thing that holds it together.you mite be having great chemistry with him but conversations ,views and opinions are extremely vital in a relation.if that doesn't exist,then there is just no point. coz all the initial fizz and excitement will die down. if you are afraid of being alone,then what you could do is keep your options open and only when you have found the guy you're more compatible as well as attracted to,then let this guy go.talking from a girls point of view,let him go only after you have back up. -good luck-take it easy-
2007-02-04 10:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is as good as it gets. When you get engaged, there are a bunch of pressures added to your relationship. When you get married, there's a whole new set of stressors. And don't even get me started about how much stress comes when you have kids.
In other words, while relationships deepen and grow over time, you're probably as happy as you are ever going to be with this guy right now. You have to ask yourself if settling for this level of happiness, or less, is what you want for your life.
If the answer is no, then cut your losses and have the guts to say, "We both can do better." Let him find someone who loves him as much as he deserves to be loved, and hopefully you'll find someone else, too, that you can really get excited about.
2007-02-04 10:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question here is do you want to to give your time to someone you do not see a future with. Personally I do not like to do that. I have plenty of friends who like having a boyfriend so stay with people despite the future outcome. The other issue here is that you are not being honest with him. Habits such as swearing are changeable. If you were to tell him that it offends you would he try to stop? The best piece of advise I can give is what my Mother once said to me. "The key to love is to find someone who loves you more than you love them." Keep this in mind and be true to yourself and the one you are with and you will never go wrong.
2007-02-04 10:35:04 · answer #6 · answered by hougie21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my motherlanguage we have a saying which directly translated means "a shuffle is a shuffle".
confused?
It means, that you should take everything for what it is and not for what you would want it to be. You know this guy is not mr. right but you have a great time. Fine. If you want to get married and have kids you should start spending your time with guys with more potential. If not, just enjoy the ride, and remember not to try to make him into a bobcat :-)
2007-02-04 10:36:09 · answer #7 · answered by ikpfradk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yo did say 2 important words...Attracted and Attached....
This is no love, and you know it.
You may have low self steam and because of those you feel the need of this person.
The answer is simple...CHOOSE!!!
You born with the power full tool of choosing what you want and don`t in life. JUST CHOOSE, and don`t worry about the results!!!
2007-02-04 10:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by maguila17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay. The problem with your boyfriend aren't horrible, and you can change them. You can tell him not to swear and change his views about things. Also you said you like him more the more you spend time with him.
2007-02-04 10:33:48 · answer #9 · answered by Steve-O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI, perhaps u should tell him what u think? saying that u want to be with him and see how he responds, if he likes u enough he will try and change the things u don't like, but if he cannot / will not change then perhaps it would be time to move on?
2007-02-04 10:34:26 · answer #10 · answered by chis c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋