i have a 15 month old son and he still wakes in the night....EVERY NIGHT! I always make sure he eats all his meals so its not hunger, he cries all the time when he wakes up, we live in a flat so id hate to have him screaming this way at silly hours!
2007-02-04 02:14:20 · 13 answers · asked by Jessica B 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
When your son wakes up crying do you go to him>if you do then say nothing to him and lie him back in his bed and leave the room...You may have to do this a few times before he realises that you are not going to stay with him and that this is not allowed.
It is normal for a toddler of this age to wake up.It could be that he is having a nightmare........Does he get supper when he goes to bed with a drink. I find that this helps......
You must never go into the room and sit with him and he must now figure it out that he wont get anything from you not even a smile and he should stop........What time do you put him to bed...The earliest should be about6.30-7.00pm.....Dont worry about him too much and if he screams then it tough on the neighbours....A child is allowed to cry.....Do not keep running to him a the first cry, because he will keep this up.....I am a mother of 8 and my youngest sleeps all night as she has learnt that i will not come if she cries...Took a while but she gets it now.....She is 13 months old....I have 2a 2yr old, 3yr old twins,4 yrs,8,12,16, so i think that you will find my advise helpfull......Keep going he will come round as long as you set the rules......Children are good at manipulation and you must be a parent not an equal.....He will not come to harm if he is crying.....
2007-02-04 02:24:52 · answer #1 · answered by GRANDMA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was over 2 years before he slept all the way through. When he did wake up I used to go to him , give him some juice (all in the dark) and then just told him it was still early and to get back to sleep. I also found that when we got him a fairly large teddy (he chose it) and he got scared - Teddy was always there for him to cuddle and look after - after all teddy was a baby.
He will get over this stage - but the more anxious you are the more he picks the vibes up and does it. if you move him to your room be prepared to have there for a very long time - that is not a solution. P.S - You are not expecting another child? This can sometimes trigger insecurity in the older child as well - Just tell him what a wonderful big brother he is going to be
2007-02-04 03:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to disagree, DO NOT bring his cot into your room, he has then won! And you will have a major battle getting him back into his own room.
It could be he is thirsty or may even just want a cuddle...
Try giving him some water when he does wake, not juice or milk as it is not a treat. . .
If that doesn't help and it is a cuddle, pick him up cuddle him and put him straight back down, don't wander round the house or room.
I know sometimes easier said than done. Best of Luck.
Most importantly don't let the neighbours make you feel pressured into keeping him quiet. Children and children and there is no perfect child or parent!
2007-02-04 02:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by lynn a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
adults even wake in the night, but most do not recall it.
It happens in different sleep phases and some people(babys included) are light sleepers and many sounds wake them
heck the diaper. see if fave lovey is there and not on the floor. give a cuddle and put back to bed. If possible do not remove child from the bed.
keep the lights dim.
Has your child been frightened of anything. Try a night light.
If not weaned off a bottle, offer plain water or some approved ulternative.
sometimes they just want to know mum and dad are still there.
2007-02-04 04:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by andreamarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boy was almost a year old before he stopped waking every night. I finally had to listen to everybody around me(grandparents, experienced moms, even dad!) and start letting him cry it out. After that, it was less than a week before he started sleeping through the night. When he started to cry, I would let him go for 5 min then go in, but not pick him up, just comfort him, and let him know I was there. Then do it every 5 min til he goes back to sleep. No talking, no picking up...just like rubbing arm gently, or something like that. No stimulation. And it about killed me to listen to him cry. At first, his dad had to physically hold me to keep me from going, I had such a hard time with the "but he needs me thing". But honestly in less tahn a week he was sleeping thru the night, and THAT was wonderful, because I was exhausted. I think it's called the Lapp method, or something. Google it, see waht you come up with. What does the pediatrician say? Talk to him.
2007-02-04 02:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by ladyscootr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My eldest daughter woke up 3 times a night until she was 3. She cried because she needed her mummy. Apparently she wasn't comfortable on her own, that is what she told her cousin anyway. I think they just need to learn that they are OK on their own. I'm sorry to say I took the easy way out, she just used to get into bed with us, towards the end I was pregnant again and it got distinctly uncomfortable with 3.5 of us sharing so being with mummy lost it's appeal a bit as mummy came with a kicking lump.
I can imagine it's very frustrating and tiring for you now, but however it might feel at the moment, he'll grow out of it. Remember this too will pass.
2007-02-04 02:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's just a security thing. my 2 1/2 year old does this, just to come in my bed. you need to be consistate. try not to say much and just settle him back down- i know this is easier said then done, as i have 2 other children who need to up for school i find this method hard but if your prepared for a few nights hard work this does work each time he cries you first leave for 5 mins, then 10 etc.- teamed with no chat, firmness. first time crying happens say nite-nite lie down go to sleep and next time say go to sleep and after a couple of nights the message gets through
2007-02-04 02:23:17 · answer #7 · answered by me plus 4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son used to do that too. You have to really tough and just put him back to bed without making eye contact and without saying anything and walk out and you just have to be consistant with him so that in the end he'll know that waking and crying won't get him anywhere. Is he going to bed awake or are you putting him to bed asleep? I put my son to bed awake and within a week he was going to sleep by himself and if he woke he was able to just go back to sleep as he knew how to
2007-02-04 05:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to have to tell you this,but it could go on for a while,when my brother was a baby he'd wake up at night right up until he was at least 3.
2007-02-04 03:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by Lor24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's looking for comfort and cuddles. Try bringing his cot into your room for a few weeks to see if that helps. It's the security of knowing you are within arm's reach that he wants. And there's nothing wrong with that!
2007-02-04 02:21:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋