ok i got this lunch detention once and my mom took every thing out of my room i mean all i had were old old old cloths and a bed and thats it.. and then my brother got suspended and she took him out for lunch and went shopping... and we could do the same thing and i would get in trouble and not my brother,, so is that favortism cuz there is only like 1 year and 1/2 between us.....
2007-02-04 02:02:27 · 5 answers · asked by cowgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
All too familiar scene! I think moms tend to favor boys over girls. As MaHaa says, it's easier to be tougher on girls, making them help with the housework, etc., and let the boys skip out!! I think that that's true especially if the mother missed out on her father's love or had no father-figure. She grows up craving a man's love and esp her own son's love! There is the old cultural system of "men don't do housework" etc and since they used to be the only breadwinners, the women catered to them. Also mothers can see boys are the ones who will take care of them the rest of their lives. Your mother isn't mature enough to "be fair". I know that you will mature through this, see her weaknesses as something that no doubt came out of her childhood, and go on to be the fair, loving mother for all of your own children, girls and boys!! Also will mete out the household choirs EVENLY! So many mothers also excuse the boys as they are into sports and may be a big winner some day (in the mother's mind). Where is your dad in all of this? Probably distant if present.
2007-02-04 03:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by Martell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such a tough situation and I am so sorry that you are going through this but as a Mommy myself I have to say that we tend to look at our little girls as smaller versions of ourselves. We see all the mistakes we once made and sometime over react to situations hoping that you make different choices than we did. Is it fair? NO! But truly our intentions are well meaning. Sit down and try to talk to her, woman to woman! Be an adult about it and explain to her how it is that you are feeling. In today's world boys are supposed to fight and defend honor and girls are to be protected...I don't agree with the sentiments but I do understand an overprotecting mother. And trust me, I think she is probably trying (much to hard albeit) just to be a protective mom. I think that talking to her like the adult that you obviously are might shed some light on this situation for both you and your mum....and you might be pleasantly surprised with the outcome. I wish you lots of luck and will have a good thought for you today.
2007-02-04 02:11:21 · answer #2 · answered by MaHaa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while you're being jealous then quit. Your sister is youthful than you and you're 29 and already married...you have been there and carried out that. you are the extra progressed effective sister. Now, in the adventure that your mom pronounced she is keen to furnish you the money...then take it and flow on. Its no longer usually happening people hand you cash. you should use each and all of the money you've gotten on decorations and nutrition and apply it to your little one. Have a chum throw you a diaper and wipes bathe or something. each and every little thing will paintings out i comprehend it would desire to be difficult astounding now, yet tell your mom back the way you experience. Be blessed,
2016-12-17 09:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by clumm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, thats harsh, sit down with your mom, and talk to her about it, tell her that you don't think shes giving you both the same rights. Good Luck!
2007-02-04 02:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by Bob the Cat.™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-04 02:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋