We finished 8mths ago bt he still comes back to mine once a wee 4 u no wot. i no hes just using me, hes bin out with loadsa girls since we split. iv got kiddys with him so im a single parent which means i sit on my own every night. i love it when he comes but when hes nt here i cant stop thinking about him. my friends tell me to move on but im weak and cant tell him to stop coming. this is really doing my head in, what should i do?
2007-02-04 01:37:07 · 27 answers · asked by kelly anhel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a single parent too, so i know exactly how you feel, Its not easy getting out when you have kids to think about, but you have to stop letting your ex coming round and using you. If they are his kids you have to set some ground rules about him seeing them have set days and times when he can have them and then make plans to go out with friends, join a gym or just go for a walk. What bloke is going to say no to you handing him sex on a plate?
make it perfectly clear you aren't going to let this happen again, you need to do this for your own sake as you say this is doing your head in. Do you still want to be in the same situation in another 8 months?
It will be hard to make the break, but you have to be strong listen to your friends talk to them tell them you are feeling lonely and you need their help to move on.
Good Luck x
2007-02-04 01:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stick 2 your guns either he comes back permanent or stays away permanent don't let him use u
As the saying goes you cant teach an old canine new tricks
What ever he was like b4 is going 2 b same again if that's OK then have back if not then keep away. You have 2 do whats best for baby as well as yourself
Ur lonely fair enough get baby sitter and go out or can meet people on line even chatting helps loneliness
2007-02-04 01:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by stuntman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You split up for a reason. Don't take the guy back in, because odds are that you'll end up just getting hurt. I really don't think it's a very good idea to have him continue to come over for 'u no wot', especially if you know that he's just using you. I really think you should just break off all relations with this guy. Don't ever get into a situation where you could get really hurt just because of lonliness.
2007-02-04 01:50:12 · answer #3 · answered by Raki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing for sure, he is using you. You know this. You know he's no good for you. Lonely is no excuse to be used and trampled on. It makes you look weak in his eyes and he will continue to use you if you continue to allow it. You can have a happy fullfilling life as a single parent. I am a single parent too and am in a wonder relationship for a year now. The problem is you are lonely and feeling insecure. This is not going to fare well with other men you meet. For now, I would suggest, trying to let go of him, move on and enjoy your family. When the time is right, you will find someone who treats you way better.
2007-02-04 01:43:16 · answer #4 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE'S USING YOU. Look at the situation here - he gets EVERYTHING that he wants. You and the kids whenever he likes and other women when he wants that. You will NEVER move on or be able to have feelings for other men while you continue with this- and wouldn't that suit the ex just fine???
It will be really hard but consider keeping thing platonic for the sake of your children. Once he is at a safe distance you will see things more clearly and you will get your self respect back.
Good luck.
2007-02-04 02:08:35 · answer #5 · answered by Basket-santa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of your kids, First Off, you say this guy is the father BIG DEAL! any man can father a child but it takes a real man to be a daddy, so if this guy comes around when he needs a little what, what , should show you his mind set and tell you the answer to your own question, its time to go shopping..for kids sake..
2007-02-04 02:01:46 · answer #6 · answered by Benny R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, you need to stop sleping with him. Put your foot down or you will never be able to move on. Also with him sleeping with other girls as well there are diseases out there. Let him know that you dont want it anymore that it is not right but he can come and see the kids. Leave it at that.
2007-02-04 01:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a reason why he is your ex. remember it. if he is being like this now, how long do you think it is going to last? it's not good for your kids to deal with that instability all the time. and i know what you mean about being a single parent, i am always alone as well and i know it sucks. but i wouldn't ever use that as an excuse to let myself be treated like sh*t. i would rather be alone than lonely.
2007-02-04 01:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, u should not take ur ex back just because ur lonely. U had a reason in the first place not to be with him so why go backwards.Listen to your friends and move fpward.
2007-02-04 01:46:08 · answer #9 · answered by Cherelle M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no You will never find someone worthy of you if you continue to let this prat use you. You will feel so much better when you make the decision to bin him. How can you expect anyone to treat you with respect when you don't respect yourself?
You really are worth much more than this.
2007-02-04 01:43:02 · answer #10 · answered by unicorn867 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋