Ok well my bf told me the other day that he really loves me etc..He wont stop telling me how beautiful I am etc...but thenn he said out of the blue "I want sooo badly to have a child with you",I dont want to loose you" etc..I know its black mail but I really want you to stay with me!
Guys is this normal hes 18 im 16 thanks!!!
2007-02-04 01:23:47 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hes only saying that bc he thinks is what you want to hear. He probably thought that you were getting ready to leave him, and thats the only way to get you to stay.
I seriously hope that you are a responsible woman and are in charge of your own birthcontrol.
Look around your school, around your neighborhood. How many single young moms are there. Ask them how difficult life is.
If you want to enjoy your childhood and not have any regrets later in life. Please dont have children til after college.
I know most ppl say they dont regret having kids early.Its not the kids that you will regret. Its not getting to have YOU time before kids take over.
My mom had me when she was 20, i know not 16 but still. She had 2 more over the next 4 years. Due to her having to work 24/7 to support all 3 of us alone, she didnt finish college and get her degree til she was 38. And here she is 46 and going through this whole im 20 again out partying and being carefree, like she should have been doing then.
Guys want kids, they say they will take care of you. but when the reality of the fact there is a kid coming out of you come around, they flip out and disappear. Its not always bc they are a bad guy. Its bc it freaks them out completely. Some come back, but dont have your life surrounding on the fact that some guy will take care of you. Have your own means of support, your own car, your own house that no one can take away before bringing a child into this world.
You will feel so much better, and life will be so much easier.
2007-02-04 01:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by ~Browneyes~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, hard to think he's lieing. He really wants you and more then likely he cares for you alot to want a kid because he knows if you both have a kid then more then likely you wont ever really leave each other even if you do break up. In my opinon I think he's telling the truth because I wont ever tell a girl that much even if I was lieing because it will be hard to say it when I dont mean it. I think he's trying to win your heart and I think he really plans on being with you and staying with you. The age difference isnt bad. Just make sure having a child doesnt interfere with your goals and dreams and future plans. Other than that I think he means everything he is saying.
2007-02-04 01:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard at 16 to listen and to hear good advise and usually ends in you having to get burned and you making more than a few mistakes to really understand what kinda good advice or even bad advise to follow, but no matter what age you are it still comes back to - can you live and sleep with the the path you finally choose, life will be full of choices that you have to make a move one way or the other, some are not life changing but others are and without your due diligence, meaning you dont weigh your options and really consider what the consequences are then you will pay and most of the time pay dearly for your going down the wrong road, i would say by you asking this question that you have a gut feeling (never stop listening to your gut that real feeling you have in your stomach, it will steer you the right way a major part of the time) that this guy is full of shitt and somebody you dont want to be around the rest of your days on this earth, i am sure there are plenty of women on this internet that can tell you from their experience that this guy is not a good match for you or anybody with a half cock eyed statement like that, ask them about clingy, not good, but back to serious, you have many days ahead that will bring you true joy, dont limit yourself by short circuiting your choices by getting roped into a baby at your age, nothing wrong with sex, but understand that there is a place and time for sex and other things that will make you smile and when you do truely find that someone that will love and admire you for you and not because they dont want to lose you then you will have chosen the correct path and think to yourself thank god for choices..... so i say to you enjoy your growing up, the road ahead gets bumpy from time to time, but you will make it and in a few years you will be able to pass on what you have learned from your good choices and bad ones, so keep an open mind when people offer advice, most of the time it comes from people that really care about you and not wanting to get in your pants, see how that works, lol. from your loved ones hear what they are saying and listen, confusing i know, but you will be miles ahead, rather it be in love or about a job or even about what college to go to, i have a feeling that you will be alright, as for this 18 year old boy, man not the right term here, this is not "normal" in the sense that he probably wont be the last guy you hear that from, just a good warning sign to not get involved with him and i would tell you to leave this bad news guy for some other girl to worry able, not a good choice, but i think you already know that to be the truth.... go enjoy the rest of your life, it gets better, really.....
HAND have a nice day!!!
2007-02-04 02:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by texasbar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Clown is an out-n-out Liar! Guys want Sex at that age. it's against the Law. And he's playing on your affection. Give yourself until you're over 21. Then listen to do what your Heart says. When it's time to give Birth to a Child.It will be for thereasons of Love. Not Lust! Or not having to be alone!
2007-02-04 01:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away as fast as you can. He is very insecure , trust me on this one, I used to be like that and had to deal with it still after 20 years and 2 divorces. You have your whole life ahead of you and a bright future depending on the choices that you make. You think it through and don`t let him manipulate you or pressure you into anything. I have a daughter your age and we have a very good relationship and I know the pressures that you might be feeling as we talk about things. One thing that I have learnt is for the fortunate girls who have dads who have great relationships with their daughters that their daughters usually pick wonderful partners in life because they usually have a good self esteem from their relationship with their fathers . I know that your boyfriend is a human being too but he needs help with his insecurities and confidence . You think it through sweetheart and don`t make any hasty decisions......take care.
2007-02-04 01:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. or should i say HELL NO!!! you both are to young to decide life long problems. believe me there will be many more men in your life in the future. you don't need to decide right now on such a serious matter. HAVING AND RAISING CHILDREN TAKE MORE THAN SOMEONE TELLING THAT HE OR SEE LOVES YOU. IT TAKES MONEY,TIME,AND MOST OF ALL YOUR LOVE FOR THAT CHILD. IF YOU ARE NOT ABLE IN ALL WAYS TO BRING SUCH A GIFT AS A CHILD INTO THIS WORLD AND GIVE THE CHILD ALL THAT IT NEEDS TO SURVIVE IN THIS LIFE (THEN DON'T DO IT) . ASK YOUR MOTHER SHE WILL TELL YOU ABOUT HOW HARD IT IS RAISING YOU. i hope this answer helps you seeeeee the light. take care!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-04 01:39:20 · answer #6 · answered by susta1951 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not normal. Most guys dont want a kid at the age of 18. He is probably just staying that.
2007-02-04 01:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by Steveo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a normal, hormonal, desire to want to reproduce.
But the way he's putting things, well, that's not culturally normal. We're humans, not animals.
Think about what you want. It's not normal in our society to have children at that age, and you should really wait until you're married.
If there's no ring on your finger, just say no.
2007-02-04 01:45:07 · answer #8 · answered by dude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a case of insecurity.
he probably thinks when you turn 18, you might go off to college, and forget him, and he's scared.
getting you pregnant Will cause you to have a permanent bond.
i know love feels grand, but you need to think about your future.
he may decide in a few years that someone else makes him feel this way.
i hope for your sake that you think this over. logically, not emotionally.
You are too young to have to deal with all that right now.
Please just :think!!!
2007-02-04 01:39:16 · answer #9 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell no its not normal! He is a guy who will be a phsyco stalker if you try to break up with him later in the relationship. You are to young to have a baby and he should not even be asking you. I would get rid of him quick before something happens.
2007-02-04 01:31:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋