What would you do? How would You handle a person like this?

Question

There is a person that I work with who is telling a new supervisor everything everyone on the floor has ever said about anyone, but she is leaving out the derogatory remarks she her self has made towards people, tonight she tried to put me in it, the supervisor called me over to verify what she was telling him, I told him that I didn’t know what she was talking about, she then replied “I knew she wouldn’t say anything”… then I went back to work….trying to hold in the anger I have for this woman..…now back in the day…..I would have handled this woman one way…….but I’m trying not to go there…..and I’m trying not to be that person…..but my thought s keep going back to thinking ……is it wrong for me to want to beat her *** ….……she then pages me saying that “HE” meaning the new supervisor……. didn’t care ..and she was just playing…but just to let you guys know …her big mouth has gotten a few people in trouble …

Answer 1

Do I understand correctly she's doing this not just to you but to many people at your workplace? Get together and then see the supervisor, or at least talk about it among eachother before you send one of y'all to go see him. If it's just you against her, he may believe her, but if everyone's saying the same thing then your supervisor will know you're telling the truth about the situation.

Answer 2

All you guys at work should buy those real small tape recorders and keep them in your pockets so everytime she badmouths anyone you can have it on tape and if you have camera phones take pictures everytime she does something she should not do, like take her picture when she leaves for lunch and a picture of a clock showing the time when she left and then do the same when she comes back. She probably takes more time than allowed or longer breaks, etc, and have this as evidence. When she gets really obnoxious you can all gang up with these evidences and you can all show higher management what is really going on. But if she is doing the guy at higher management then you guys are Scr______d. If you are highly qualified and highly skilled then look for a new job that would probably pay better than what you are making now and who would probably treat you better. Also, give her the cold shoulder. Just speak to her when necessary only for work purposes and exclude her from any office get-togethers or parties so she'll know she's not appreciated. But it has to be all of you so you can "kill the dog, end the rabies." If she has nothing to feed on she can't continue using you guys so the supervisor won't believe her and notice it has been her inventions all the time.

Answer 3

I had that problem in fact it was so bad I quit. I now have my job back with a promotion. What eventually happened was this..All that stuff this girl was saying to the boss came back and bit her on her a__. After losing several good employees, the boss finally figured out that this girl was stirring up a bunch of problems.Everyone was complaining and denying. What I am trying to say is, if its as bad as you claim and she is running her mouth enough the boss will figure it out. Just try and stay out of her way and DO NOT be friendly with her and when others are complaining about her complain also.Someone here at work put a anonymous letter on the bosses desk..that helped a little. Finally with everyone hateing her and the boss changing the way he felt about her she quit..Quess what..I now have her job.YEAH!!

Answer 4

If I were your supervisor, I would do the same thing that my mom used to do when her kids tattled: completely ignore it. Just keep doing a good job and your boss will be happy. And refuse to listen to the gossip yourself. If you think that your supervisor is handling the situation inappropriately, look for another workplace.

Answer 5

It sounds like your co-worker has combined brown nosing and malice, and practices it like a maestro.

This is your job, and this woman's actions could be quite harmful -- unless you don't care about your position, the company where you're working, and the kinds of remarks that may be going on your permanent record.

Food for thought: If the situation is as nasty as you contend, I suggest you draft a letter as follows. Get as many of her other "victims" to sign on. Place the emphasis on workplace productivity and professionalism, not the personal....

"We, the undersigned staff members of the .......... department wish to take this opportunity to address an issue that is creating a negative work environment.

.... [Provide a BRIEF outline of the woman's activities, such as: Ms. SoAndSo has brought to your attention conversations, or parts thereof, that would reflect unprofessionally on the speaker, especially when taken out of context and when not woven out of whole cloth. In light of these reports, we were concerned enough to want to air our concerns with you and other members of management.]

Upon realizing the persistence of the problem, we have documented specific incidents, and can make them available to you should you so desire.

We hope that steps can be taken to address the issue, so that we can look forward to working together in a professional and productive manner."

Address the letter/memo to your boss, copying HR and Ms. SoAndSo.

If you can't get your colleagues to sign on, send off a letter on your own behalf. Your boss' personal observations will definitely impact his perception of your job performance, and will color his opinion of you. You don't want any nasty surprises come time for your annual review.

Finally, do not hold any conversations with this woman (or in her vicinity) that are not necessitated by work.

Answer 6

You handled it the right way. Just do your job and stay away from her and her gossip as much as you can. Make it clear to her thatyou don't want to be a part of idle gossip and you would appreciate it if she left you alone about all of this. It seems there is always one person who tries to cause trouble no matter where you work. Be bigger than her and handle it the mature way.

Answer 7

i would talk to the supervisor and dish on the person that is telling the new sup all the bs or i would go above there heads to the upper super.