Im in college and have a boyfriend. The problem is I don't know how really feel about him. At times I actually think I love him but there are those other times when I ask myself why i'm with him. Its weird because he's the youngest guy I've ever been with and I think he's a little immature but I normally overlook that. I know he loves me but he just does not mean 'that' much to me. My friends say I should give it time but now I'm at my wits end. I don't want to hurt him but he just isn't my ideal guy. Should I go along with it till I get redemption or should I break up with him? (I really didn't want to break his heart :( )
2007-02-04 00:55:03 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont hav a problem with him as a person...i mean he is the perfect well, not perfect but a very good boyfriend to me...i just dont know what it is...
2007-02-06 10:34:35 · update #1
Ask yourself this. Is this a guy that I can stay with for the rest of my life?
Sounds like you have doubts and you need to work them out with him. If you want to try and work it out I suggest talk to him openly. Saying that seems like lately their are problems with us and we need to discuss it before it escatles and cant be fixed. Both of you talk it out and take it from there.
If you feel like though there isnt any hope of a future best bet is to break it off. Just do it nicely and that you still would like to be friends (that is if you want to)
Good luck.
2007-02-04 01:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if you go along with it and never get redemption? If you are having such a difficult time now, what will it be like for the long run? If he does not mean "that" much to you, and you are at your wits end.... If you decide to continue with him, do you see your feelings changing about him in the future? If they dont, are you prepared to continue living with these feelings? You need to do what is best for you, not what your friends say. I know they are just trying to help, but they are not walking in your shoes.
2007-02-04 09:15:38 · answer #2 · answered by protective66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm gonna tell u right now! i've been there and done that- it's obvious if u go back and read ur question u'll answer it urself-but as 4 a lil help u r not ready for a full commitment as far as being with him as a couple just u and him. don't give it time cause it's written right in front of u-get out of it now the longer u string him along the harder it will be 4 him, just tell him that u aint ready 4 nething serious yet but u do care 4 him and let nature take it's course!! good luck!!
2007-02-04 09:08:09 · answer #3 · answered by jods1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think there can be "big" or "small" love. In your case it seems to be the "small" one... My advice would be: if you love him, go on with this relationship. Time will put everything into places. Maybe there's something that's disturbing you in him but you aren't able to see it yet. You know, you can sense it subconsciously but not see directly. I believe that your doubts aren't without reasons. Also possible that you've grown up and he hasn't (you say he's a bit immature), so your interests, points of view have simply divided. Then you'll see the way out without using Yahoo!Answers:)
2007-02-04 09:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by Aatami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd break up with him. If you aren't sure of how you stand about him, talk to him about it, explain your reasons, and end the relationship. If you're finding flaws that bother you, he isn't the person for you.
2007-02-04 09:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by M L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋