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i am 18, i don't have many friends and no girlfriend, i want to be friendly guy who have no worries in his life just fun!! i want to travel to anywhere in the world but i am in college so i can't go anywhere.no money, no friends i feel like there is nothing in my life. i want to change that but i don't where to begin. help me in details!! plz

2007-02-04 00:50:39 · 17 answers · asked by shone 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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at 18 you've got years and years ahead of you I wouldn't get depressed at this stage (leave that for the old guys). you're being held back by college and no job, so you have to soldier on, finish your college you need that, then get a job.

Then:
join some clubs get some nice clothes, go do latin american dancing!

seriously you'll never look back if you go to a latin american dancing beginner class, the ratio of girls to boys is extremely good.

but don't go to pickup girls, go for the fun of it you'll meet great people and if you happen to meet a nice girl then whoopy for you.

2007-02-04 00:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by Dr Stoopid 2 · 0 1

Begin now.Right this second. The past is the past and the future is the future and when it comes it will by the now too. So try not to worry just be aware of yourself and your thoughts in the now.

It is inevitable that you will have worries sometimes in your life your human! And the more you don't accept them and let them stop you from having fun the more you feed them. You have however already said you just want your life to be fun which assumes to be you can't accept what it is now and have a lot to change about it first untill you can have fun, well that will just make it harder so try to have fun with everything you have right now anyway, although you don't have a girlfriend and can't go to anyplace in the world right now ( like most! ) it doesn't mean you can't have fun. And the more you can have fun with what youve got the more it will be easier to see things in a happier way and change things with less stress.
It also sounds to be like you are being a bit harsh on yourself! Why aren't you a friendly guy now? I'm sure you are, just because you don't have alot of friends right now, doesn't mean you can't be friendly, and don't have all the positives that you see in other people, you do, you are just telling yourself because you worry and don't have what they have your not and can't be untill you change and get a whole lot of things that you don't have already, which i bet just makes you feel worse.

As for actually changing the things that you do want to change, start starting up conversations with people as often as you can, as many times you get the chance ( in appropiate situations however) this may seem really difficult at first because you may be concerntrating on what the other person is thinking about you rather than what they are actually saying at first and can't think of things to say or talk about but it will get easier if you catch out that you are not a mind reader and never know what somebody is thinking about you and look around to where you are what your surroundings are what you are doings, there normally something you can observe and share with other people, if they don't seem interested thats their loss, you can only be true to yourself and enjoy it in life so theres not point trying to change that to suit other people! Join a club!! A sports club, a crafts club, a drama club, any club you like, they are not that expensive, say an sports/exercise club once or twice a week is worth the price for getting you out and talkin to people, but if you are really skint then see what on campus clubs there are, there will be people in them and there are probably there for the same reasons you are to make friends and have fun! Also they will be on your same campus. As for money, defintly work out a scheme of how much you spend weekly, how much you get monthly and divide it into weekly basis and work out what exactly you need e.g food, how you can get it cheaper and save money , what you can go without and what is a good idea to save money for and what is a good idea to spend it on e.g clubs, a clothing item treat once a month or something, or an outing for a beach day or nightclub once a month instead. Can you get a job? How do you divide your time? How much time do you waste and why? What is you get from the time that seems to go nowhere and could you get in a more constructive way e.g if you waste two hours relaxing doing nothing much but watching t.v and letting your thoughts run around worrying, set 20 minutes aside just to focous on your breathing and let your head think what it wants to think with out engaging in it ( basically meditating - it has a lot of benifits!) Or if you have no time could you work out ways to get more time, and if you want to get a job even if its just a once a week small shift, every little helps remember!!
I hope some of what i have said makes sense and you feel better about things soon!! And you say youcan't go anywhere, you can always go for walks can't you? clear your head, get exercise, enjoy your company and maybe bump into people or discover new places? ( but be carefull! )
If want to ask anything else you can use my yahoo mail!

2007-02-04 01:22:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Ok here's the thing, when your in college and then graduate that's why they say " the end of a 4 year depression"..lol . Just wait until after college, education is the most important thing in your life right now and you should focus on that.Everything will work its self out!

2007-02-04 01:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1 0

Since I have lived for several years in different countries(RUSSIA,SPAIN,GREECE,USA,BULGARIA AND CURRENTLY CANADA) I can honestly tell you the world is so beautiful that you couldn't possibly imagine!!! Since I am originally from Europe,Bulgaria I can very honestly tell you that life around the world is so awesome and right now I am only trying to finish learning how to retire on the web EARLY!!! Cause once i learn how to do that I am gone and going back to EUROPE my homeland!!! YOu have to understand that life in North America is very depressing that even when you walk outside for fresh air you don't see a soul on the street(THAT INCLUDES EVEN IN THE SUMMER) In Europe everyone is treated like you are family! Families that live in a building would know each other from the first floor to the last, who would help each other out all year long !!! I for example live in Canada in a semidetached home for the last 5 years and our next door neighbor never once said hello or at Least Merry Christmas!!! That includes it when we lived in U.S.A. in an apartment building!!! Everyone looks at you like an ALIEN from another Planet!!! You can get charged with Sexual Harassment just by looking at a girl that you might have a crush on!!! In my culture Europe It's The Girls who Ask the Guys OUT (I AM SO NOT KIDDING)!!! And all of the girls are so beautiful you'll be SIMPLY AMAZED!!! The reason why people in Europe are so much better looking is because people of different countries get engaged!!! My mother is from Russia my Dad is from Bulgaria, My uncle is from Spain,my Aunt is from Italy, My Cousins are from Germany my Grandparents are from GREECE!!! (ALL THIS PEOPLE ARE NOTHING BUT REAL BLOOD RELATED) This is my real Family!!!

You want to change your life you better start LEARNING THE WORLD WIDE WEB(INFORMATION TECHNOLOGY),The Internet!!! Why you ask??? Well because of the internet the world is changing tremendously !!! What you see in science fictional movies isn't a fiction anymore it's becoming reality!!! Because of Information Technology the information travels faster then speed of light as long as you know where that information is!!! Because of the Internet big Companies,Corporations are learning very fast what the HUMAN RACE is INTERESTED IN !!! The Internet is so popular that it feels like it's been around for millions of years even though it's been around for no more then a DECADE!!! Every time there's something new only the rich people can afford to go through it first!!! Like no more then 3-4 months ago someone paid NASA millions of dollars to go with them to the moon!!! Why do I have the feeling that no more then 20 years from NOW you can go to your travel agent and ask for a flight ticket to the moon for about maximum of $10,000!!!

10 years ago computers didn't exist sure they did but not at the level that they are today!!! For example the Latest Windows Vista can be controlled just by talking to it! When I say Start it goes to start,when i say Internet it goes to Internet Explorer,when i say Answers.yahoo.com ENTER it goes there! When i say scroll down it scrolls down on the website!!! How do you think i answered your question simply by talking in the box!!! And surprisingly it didn't have any difficulties understanding the sentences i was announcing !!!

I have started to learn how to be my own boss 3 years ago by building websites and using GOOGLE ADSENSE to make great revenue! And so far i make no less then 3 grand a month!!! And I know that very little time is left for me in school and i am gone back to sweet home Europe!!!

I seriously hope you learned something here!!!

2007-02-04 01:40:34 · answer #4 · answered by dabedatiludlisi 3 · 0 1

try to check out some clubs or even study groups that interest you. try saving money for a new wardrobe and when you go take someone with you that will be honest. some things may be a little hard at first, but just push past it and eventually things will fall into place. good luck!!

2007-02-04 00:58:19 · answer #5 · answered by irish eyes 5 · 1 0

Work on your image. But first you need a job. You say your in college so get a part time one maybe. This can help towards building up your wardrobe on some funky kick *** clothes. Just be cool woth yourself and believe in what you want. Friends are easy to make. Just take things one step at a time. Good luck man;)

2007-02-04 00:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by chris c 3 · 0 2

My best advice is to wake up every day and do the thing you fear first thing. If you keep doing that, soon you will be a well put together guy. And at age 18, believe me- you ARE fresh and new, you haven't even begun life.

2007-02-04 00:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

it is harder to pinpoint the suited date of theory than that's to pinpoint a guy or woman's suited date of start. i could think of it is why. And scientifically, existence does initiate on the 2d of theory, nevertheless *extensive unsleeping* existence starts later. It has not something to do with faith or lack thereof.

2016-09-28 09:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

well you could start by getting a good job (that you migth enjoy), gather a bit of money and travel to another place where you could also get a job, gather enough money to take you someplace else.. i knew someone who has done that and it was great.. after a year of roaming few countries, he went back home and straight back into college

2007-02-04 00:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by gone 7 · 0 1

Well let us begin by getting you a job,

after getting a job you can get socialize with co-workers, which then will lead you to going out and since you ave money you can have a drink and eventually end up meeting someone nice..

from here its all down hill...

2007-02-04 01:06:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

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