Hi.
I am a nanny for the most wonderful family.
However, I am interessted in moving back to my hometown to be closer to MY family and continue my education. I am very upset and nervous about giving my notice.
I have been with them for three years and love them all very much. i am planning on giving them 2 months notice. I am worried about a few things:
1.Letting them down
2.Awkwardness between us
3.well being of the girls(age 4 and 7)
4.when is the best time to tell them? Is this enough time for them to find a replacement?do I tell them with the children around?
I would appreciate any sort of information/encouragement.
Peace and Love,
Bella
2007-02-04 00:42:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is always hard to quit a job that you love so much. In fact, start out that way when you talk with the parents as soon as possible. The longer you wait...the harder it will get. Just ask both of them that you need to talk with them. Let them decide who will tell the children. However, simply tell them exactly what you wrote above...honesty is always the best policy. They will know and appreciate that you enjoyed working with them. You are giving them 2 months notice...plenty of time and very thoughtful. By the way, I love your name!
2007-02-04 01:23:21 · answer #1 · answered by daff73 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 2 months notice is far more than enough time to find anothere nanny. But leaving is going to be hard but your education means more to you to make a better life for yourself and they should be happy for you. SO just have a nice long talk with them then with the children and it will hurt some but everyone will get over it and also ask if you can still communicate with them when your gone so you can keep up with them as friends. They should be happy and thankfull for all the time you have spend taking care of them and their children. SO don't worry and move on, it will take a while to become accustom to been so far from them, But just rmember all the fomd memories you had there. SO go and have a wondrful life .
2007-02-04 00:50:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't a lifelong arrangement and your reasons for quitting are good ones. I think its generous of you to give a long notice, but I think you should let them determine that. Two months is too long. I would simply tell the parents without the children, and leave it up to them to tell them. Yes it will be awkward, but life is awkward. Tell them you will stay until they have a new nanny and then do what you can to help smooth the way. You can provide valuable information on the children to the new nanny, so be open to meeting with her and sharing that information.
There is nothing wrong with you wanting to move on with your life, and while its an inconvenience for them, your employers should not be totally surprised.
2007-02-04 00:48:57 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always speak the truth in everything that you do...I would first tell the parents who will then break it gently to the children, you should tell them that you are going back to be near to your Family as you miss them as well ,as for the well being of the the kids as soon as you arrive at your destination you should send them a little gift...write your address clearly so that they can reply in return...2 months should be a good time you dont want to stretch it out to much do you.Dont feel to upset with yourself or sad its better to make the break now than in 5 years when it would be even more difficult, sit down and pray about it i'm sure the Lord will show you the right thing to do and comfort you also,God Bless you for staying so l;ong with the kids the first few years for any family are always the hardest i'm sure that the parents appreciated your help in the early years of the childrens lives....ok...
2007-02-04 01:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by Mike S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be worried just take the parents or just the mom(their easier to talk too) and tell them that you would like to spend some time with your own family. I'm sure they love you too and they should appreciate it. 3 years is along time. I had a nanny of my own and she told my mom that she wants to be back with her family. She didn't say it in front of the kids though she thought it would break their hearts. 2 months is definitely enough time for them to find a new nanny. Keep in touch with them and make sure you visit them every so often. Good Luck!!!!!
2007-02-04 00:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by The gymnast 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two months' notice sounds like enough. I would sit the parents down without the children around and just be honest with them. They'll see that your intentions are good and that you're not leaving for a bad reason and, if they are reasonable and understanding people, they should not take it out on you. Things should not be awkward.
Since they found a nanny like you who developed such a bond with their kids, they'll know what they're looking for when they interview new ones. Also, maybe they're just good at telling who will be good for their kids (again, since they found you and you had such a bond).
It's nice that you're concerned. Just be honest and tell them how you feel and everything should go okay.
2007-02-04 00:50:29 · answer #6 · answered by Tina K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everything you just said sounds perfect.... If they are as good of peoiple as you think they are then they will be supportive of your decision and wish the best for you. You sound like a really sweet person and they are lucky to have had your services, taking care of their most prized possession for so long.....Im sure they will not like losing you but you need to concern yourself with you and your life now so rather then internalizing this problem of how to tell them and what will they do when you do you need to just change your focus on how can you prepare the girls for your departure and how you can better yourself. Its only natural for you to feel some ambivalnce in leaving a job you have loved for so long but do not let worry over theirt reaction to the news in any way diminish your future plans or gials......You were there for them and now they will have to bend for you and you should not feel bad about it....Good help is hard to find and they are the lucky ones to have had you!
2007-02-04 00:49:41 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your reasone for leaving them are very justified. Sit them down (alone) and just tell them. Tell them your concerns for the children and you feel the need to be closer to your family and you want to continue your education. Help them find another nanny to replace you. Give them enough time to find your replacement and possibly help train the new person. They want what is best for you. They will understand.
2007-02-04 01:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would say something when the kids are NOT around. Let the parents explain it to them. They may get emotional and that will only make it harder on you. The family cannot fault you for your decision to be closer to yur family and better yourself. Maybe YOU can help try to find a suitable replacement for them.
I would give them as much time as possible as this is a most responsible position to fill and you want the best person available and give them time to check references and backround.
2007-02-04 00:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this family is as wonderful as you say they are, they will have no problem understanding and should realize that jobs come and go and you have to do what's best for you. If they cannot do that and want to make things more diffuclt than they have to be, pack up and leave earlier than expected. Tell them without the kids around and give as much notice as you want.
2007-02-04 00:48:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋