I came to know this guy for a year and it's only recently that we're on quite close terms. I mentioned about him briefly to my friends (who sadly, happened to be gossipers) and they started spreading rumors about me and him to his girlfriend. I heard that they just broke up a week ago, however the girlfriend now is pushing all the blame to me. I admit that I got a small crush on him, but this isn't a valid excuse to blame me. She is also hurting me indirectly by gossiping with my friends saying mean things about me.I feel I shouldn't medle too much in other people's affair, but it seems like I can't. It feels like I'm invoved. Please help!
2007-02-04 00:42:02 · 9 answers · asked by skybellaz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you did have something to do with it. But it was his decision.
He is obviously doing the young man thing where he will date whomever he wants and is not looking for monogamy. Beware. Have your crush and date him now that he's single.
But know that he'll probably let you go when the new cutie that has a crush on him comes along.
You are replaceable to this guy.
2007-02-04 00:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by Avsky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have two things to say to you. First, if these people were truely your friends, they would not only, not gossip about you to others, but definately would understand your intentions were not of that nature. They also would not go directly to his gf and start talking about this to her. They are obviously closer to her than you, or are just troublemakers. Dump them and get better friends. Second, Drop the whole thing. Tell the guy your not going to be blamed so he'll understand why, and have nothing to do with any of them. If you feel that, now that they broke up you can see him now, that is a huge mistake. That would be called a "self fulfilled prophesy" meaning you made the lie true by making it happen anyway. Your young, you've got your whole life ahead of you, you don't need this kind of crap so early in life. It just sounds like you are in with a bunch of troublemakers, and I would just drop them and look for better friends.....otherwise this will happen EVERY TIME you talk to a guy and talk to your "friends" about it.
Either that or tackle her just above the knees and just below the hips. ;D
2007-02-04 03:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"My behavior did not cause their breakup. All the different gossip going around, however, is really hurting my feelings. I thought I knew who my friends were." And turn around and walk away.
You may be lonely for awhile for friends, but some will apologize. A new source of gossip will replace you-him-her. Yes, she's hurting you indirectly, but indirect warfare takes alot of time and mental energy so don't participate. What you can do directly is protect yourself. Build a wall of Feeling Good About Myself - Treat yourself to enjoyable activities - get out of the neighborhood for a day or weekend and remind yourself of the bigger world. Etc.
You're right, don't meddle - it'll only backfire on you. Stand apart from the fray. Prepare a comment like the one at the beginning here.
2007-02-04 01:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by Casperia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must have been some flaw in their relationship to begin with. I don't think its all your fault unless you acted on your feelings towards him. Its not your fault this girl chose to believe your friends. I guess there's nothing you can really do. Its not a valid excuse to blame you. In the future never talk to these friends about some thing that you know they can't keep a secret about.
2007-02-04 00:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very famous situation that you are in and it can only be handled with Kid Gloves.......Do you know Bob Marley the words to one of his song goes like this.....who is your worst ennemey.....do you know the answer .....No ....so let me tell you .....Your worst Ennemey is your BEST Friend because only they know your iside secrets and only they can reveal them....I would be very carefull in the future about what you say and to who you say it to...Maybe you have learned from this lesson I only hope not to painfully for your sake...
2007-02-04 01:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by Mike S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just leave it alone b/c after some time your friends, if you call them that, will come around and tell that chick to get lost.
2007-02-04 00:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by superman01706 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cool,keep cool,let her grumble.u just keep quiet.later she w'd also quiet down.then u can point out her fault n solve the problem.
2007-02-04 00:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it alone until the situation comes to you
2007-02-04 00:47:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her, she's pissed because she got dumped.
2007-02-04 00:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋