2007-02-04 00:33:05 · 19 answers · asked by september_serenade 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Why would one be concerned with what the Bible says about marrage when one gets is married under a licence form the state
2007-02-04 00:36:30 · answer #1 · answered by Ibredd 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So many people quote Scripture: "What God has joined together, let no man put asunder." The focus is always on the latter half of the statement, almost always ignoring the implications of the first portion. The question is, did God join the two in marriage? If one party promised to love, honor, cherish, for better or worse, forsaking all others, yet was not truthful on any point of the vows, did God really join the two? Abuse and adultery are not something God honors nor does He sentence the well meaning and obedient to them in a covenant that was false to begin with.
2007-02-06 03:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by Jim D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if there are any direct scriptural references to your question, but a relationship is something that each couple has to either maintain or evalute the damage.
I've always told people that a long term relationship depends upon a good sense of compromise and forgiveness. Couples that break up usually don't have that going for them.
And of course, it's entirely possible that one person could be doing all the "right" things and the other just being totally cruel and selfish. You cannot force someone to attend counseling, much less force them to accept the suggestions offered.
Sometimes, sad as it is, couples just weren't meant to live together. If there is physical and psychological abuse - especially if there are children - remaining together isn't necessarily the best option.
Sometimes separation is the lesser of two evils.
2007-02-04 01:30:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
adultery is the only Biblical grounds for divorce- you apparently know that- but the Bible also promises that if we will submit to His will and obey His Word(Bible) that He will use what satan intends for bad in our lives for His good and glory... that means that He will use it to do something wonderful in your life so that other people will see the situation and know that it was by the power of God that it was "helped/resolved/whatever" ... that's sounds flaky i guess... but i have seen it in my life. going through some really horrible things that i never thought would turn out ok... God used it to teach me things, give me grounds for compassion for others, show me just how really awesome He is! there is no easy answer for a terrible marriage... and it's one of the worst things to endure, but if you trust Him, then really trust Him .... take time to read the Bible everyday (there is a great 1yr Bible out now!) and spend time in prayer everyday and ask Him what to do.... you'll be amazed! change comes slowly and it may not come the way you want it.... but God always has a plan! i wish i knew where it was but in the Bible it does says that His plans are for our best! if life were easy- we would never learn anything:) i hope you find peace-
2007-02-04 00:48:02 · answer #4 · answered by homeschool mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not see what the reference to adultery has to do with surviving a bad marriage.
a bad marriage is not an excuse to commit adultery
adultery may be the reason for the bad marriage
surviving any bad experience is good if you do it in a godly way.
2007-02-04 00:52:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF your spouce has committed adultery, you may divorce and remarry. Make sure that your new spouce before you remarry was not an adulterus in her lifetime or they will make you one as well.
Matthew 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
If you can work it out before you divorce and forgive them. God is good with that more so than with divorce.
You cannot remarry an ex spouce either...
Deuteronomy 24:4 Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee for an inheritance.
2007-02-04 00:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean by "a bad marriage"?
there is a difference between not getting along and arguing every issue that comes up (one can be shown the path to resolve)- and abuse (mental and physical) and adultery.
no where in the Bible does it say that one has to stay in an abusive marriage.
2007-02-04 00:54:07 · answer #7 · answered by polgara922 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says you're supposed to work at things and make things work.
A spouse is a partner. You don't pick a bad partner to go into business with. You pick someone who'll carry an equal load.
2007-02-04 00:39:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's expected. Working out problems in a marriage is a lot more difficult than taking the easy way out and getting a divorce.
2007-02-04 00:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your only out is infidelity-but, if your wife is loyal and you divorce- you become an adulterer- so.. the Bible tell us to treat the other person as we wish to be treated- and it really works- not overnight mind you, but given time the other person will start to treat you the way you have been treating them- give it a try- or be stubborn and live miserably! women are supposed to be submissive to their husbands(not door mats) but this is not taught to us as we grow up- we are taught to be everything but good wife's- give her a break and just love her to the Lord- she will come around if you do not give up-- and the marriage can be a great one- I know!!!!
2007-02-04 00:48:31 · answer #10 · answered by drox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋