she is going away to college in the Fall.
2007-02-04 00:24:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is hard to say to someone that you don't want to be with them, but she has to do it. What other choice does she have?
It is kinder to tell someone to their face - or at least let them know in a letter or email or phone call, than just waiting unti they find out for themselves.
She can say it nicely, but she does have to say it. Teach her the way to do it, and you will be teaching her a valuable lesson.
She could say "I am flattered that you want to go out with me, and I think you are a great person, but I do not want to go out with you. "
She will need practice for when she goes out into the world, as she will have other boys and men interested and she needs to protect herself.
Teach her to consider other people's feelings, but to put her own feelings first.
Good luck!
2007-02-04 00:31:06 · answer #1 · answered by Suzita 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her to let him down nicely. After all there have been many unrequited crushes, and the most important thing for your daughter is that she doesn't get distracted from the main target- which is college and work.
Tell her to try and avoid him for a bit, and above all don't let her get into serious discussion with him, since she will just end up feeling bad for not feeling the same way when she shouldn't feel bad. Get her to keep her eye on the ball, and realise that soon minor distractions like that will be gone.
2007-02-04 00:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by Alexandria 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can she just tell him that she's flattered he feels that way, but she doesn't feel that way about him? That would probably be the nicest way, he'll know she's not interested, and he's not strung along hoping maybe something will happen until she leaves for college, and she doesn't have to hurt him by treating him like garbage or whatever to get rid of him.....
2007-02-04 00:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by yogastar02 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for her to do is tell him straight up, ofcourse in a decent way...how she feels. She should just tell him she is flattered but she doesnt have the same feelings back. Just make sure she doesnt do it in front of her class or with all her girlfriends watching.... she shouldnt make it a public announcement.
2007-02-04 00:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should be honest and upfront and say I'm really flattered that you like me as much as you do but I don't have the same feelings towards you as you have for me. I think you're a really nice person but a relationship just wouldn't work for me now.
2007-02-04 00:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by Rocky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and kind...there is no reason to destroy him, and he will be said no to more than once in his life, just like she will.
Face to face is best (and fairest), but if she's a coward like me....
I do my best on paper, and would write him a letter, giving him the option of reacting without me watching him.
2007-02-04 00:30:56 · answer #6 · answered by sacanda_trina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't have to do any thing, unless the boy talks to her. If that is the case, she has to be honest and tell him how she feels. Good luck.
2007-02-04 00:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by elgil 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a Heart. You have a Heart that only beats for one Person. and that Guy, ain't him. You have Values, that say you're not gonna hurt, mislead, or ruin a Friendship. You have Love for everyone. But want respect for your Love, in return. Winner!
2007-02-04 00:29:37 · answer #8 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell here to talk to the boy. The more she is not honest to him the harder it'll be to tell him and the more he'll get hurt.
2007-02-04 00:30:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her deal with this.
You sound like a helicopter mom. (One who hovers constantly)
Unless he's stalking her or you foresee a dangerous problem, let her try to make up her own mind on how to deal with this.
You've got to let her figure things out on her own sometimes and this doesn't seem especially important enough for your input as her mom.
Why don't you just sit back and wait to see what she decides? You might be very proud of her!
2007-02-04 00:30:50 · answer #10 · answered by Avsky 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋