I'm living in misery. I know what to do but can't do it. Broke up with my boyfriend days ago because I found him wooing another girl behind my back. We've been together for 4 years plus. We were engaged but things didn't go well. We used to quarrel quite a lot as we're very different in lifestyles and personalities. But we did love each other. It ain't easy to let go such a long relationship. At least it's hard for me. He did look for me after that but I ignored him completely as I can't trust him anymore. It ain't the 1st time. I'm still very hurt over it. It's just too scary, I thought I know him but I don't. I don't know how to face such a person anymore, talking to him seems meaningless as I can't be sure if words are real. He used to be a perfect boyfriend in the past, it lasted for 2 years plus then we had more arguments and things happened. though so we still insisted to be together but I guess maybe he got tired. I'm very disappointed with him.
2007-02-04 00:21:51 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he has been wooing another, and it has happened before, and your different in personalities and belief's, u can still love but the trust is gone. there really is no more need to even talk to this person again, as painful as it is. no matter how long a relationship has lasted, things can still happen. no u really didn't know him like u thought, doesn't mean u are a fool, just meant u loved him alot more than he did u. it does take time to get over the hurt, it is a process, doesn't happen overnight, and the more we loved them the worse it is to get past. u need to keep your distance from this man, stop all conversation with him, and get some therapy, u just didn't get to know him that well before making a commitment. yes hurt can make us loose our courage, and make us question life in general, but these things do happen, it's what u do about it now that will determine your destiny. if there is no trust left than it is doomed and hard to get back, but if he is wooing someone else, that is where his heart is at and it isn't with u anymore. just know its not all your fault, u just failed to get to know him.
2007-02-04 00:34:01 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah she is trying to trap this guy....If there really is a baby I would demand a DNA test before I even looked at the child. Call me cold or whatever, but I have been a single mom, gone through the courts and all, and I have seen more women lie to men about being pregnant and the baby being theres and the men wanting to step up and never question it. Screw it, I say, get a test, no for sure, and let it be a lessoned learned. The very soonest you can find out with a blood a test is 5-7 days after conception. With a HPT or urine test, there are some that show up 5 days before her missed period. There was no way she knew 3 days after sex, none. Unless of course the baby isn't his. Oh her name is Terry or Kim is it?
2016-05-24 02:38:14 · answer #2 · answered by Rhonda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am truly sorry that you had such a piece of slime for a boyfriend. Four years is a long time. Now it is time to pick yourself up, be positive and look forward to the new beginning. You deserved so much better than what happened to you. I would be disappointed too. Forget him. If he did this to you, rest assured he will do it to the next girl. Enjoy some of that "me" time. Get out and have fun, or just relax and reinvent yourself. Demand respect next time. Let no man under mind you. You will be just fine. Good luck in the future and remember to be strong.
2007-02-04 00:32:35 · answer #3 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's been hard for you. If he tried to get with another girl behind your back, try and forget him 'cos hes just a rat to do something like that, and will probably do it again once he's done it once. Try not to get in contact with him (will be difficult, I know), but just try and move on with your life and forget him as best you can. He betrayed your trust and you can honestly do a lot better for yourself than someone who cheated on you after being together for such a long time. Best of luck.
2007-02-04 03:46:42 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun you sound gutted! And i don't blame you one little bit. What a thing to do to someone. The truth hurts and I'm going to tell you the truth.. He doesn't love you. If he loved you darling then he would not have hurt you the way he has. You need to move on for your own sake. I know its easier said than done but after a while you'll be feeling so much better and so proud of yourself. The key is to be strong. Think positive. Have a girlie night out. Always make sure you have your friends around you. Just say to yourself "I DONT NEED HIM IN MY LIFE. I CAN DO SO SO SO MUCH BETTER. HE HURT ME ONCE ALREADY AND I AINT GOING TO LET THAT HAPPEN AGAIN"
Be strong and live life to the fullest.
2007-02-04 00:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by Laura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey i know how you feel i have just ended an 11 year relationship....we had our differences, i am now taking each day as it comes and not dwelling on past stuff....i find it easier to just block it all out because i hate being miserable, i do have alot of friends who have been very supportive and helpful, so you need to get with people you love an try not to dwell too much, the pain will go eventually...
2007-02-04 00:27:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make yourself busy, doing something, anything, to keep your mind off things. Change is always scary. If you've been with him for four years, you've formed a LOT of habits around him, so a LOT of things will have to change.
Concentrate on yourself, and the way that YOU like to do things...eat different food than you ate before, go different places, start making different memories....the same thing that you'd have to do if he died.
There HAS been a death of sorts...the death of your relationship...and you will have to grieve accordingly, so plan on it!
2007-02-04 00:27:21 · answer #7 · answered by sacanda_trina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on u don't need a jerk and a cheater in ur life.. no matter what u will never be able to trust him again .. so what is the point hanging out with him
2007-02-04 00:41:29 · answer #8 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it as if it's the best thing that could of happened.
Find a man who treats you nice & can be a friend to you as well as a lover.
You deserve a man who can be trusted and one who knows how to make you feel special.
2007-02-04 00:26:16 · answer #9 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are living in misery because you want to. Otherwise, you'll be planing the rest of your life right now. You can't live happily ever after with the wrong guy.
2007-02-04 00:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by elgil 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋