My wife is Catholic and I am a life long Lutheran and when I go to church she does not want me to give anything over a certain amount...(very little) I follow her advice as I don't need the aggravation but I feel like I am cheating God any ideas?
2007-02-04 00:13:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
Is your wife in charge of paying the bills in your household? It may well be she has a more realistic picture of your finances than you do and has found that she needs to give you a limit so you don't cheat your family in your enthusiasm.
If not, talk to her about your feeling of cheating God and try to find out why she feels you shouldn't give over a certain amount; it may be something you can negotiate and find an amount you can agree on. If you can't, or if you already know and feel it's unreasonable, ask her to talk to a counselor with you, a non-denominational one if necessary. I know many Lutheran churches do a lot of good works with their tithes, so maybe just showing her all the things that your church is doing with the money will help.
2007-02-04 00:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by Robin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are a few ways to settle this. If she goes to her Catholic church, surely she tithes as well. If she works, she can tithe her 10% of income, and you can tithe your 10% at your own church. If she doesn't go to her Catholic church and only goes to yours, she needs to realise she must let you tithe 10%. It is in the bible, so look it up and show her. Or you can tithe 5% at each church if there is only one income.
2007-02-04 00:23:01 · answer #2 · answered by Fruit Cake Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Us Catholics were not taught to tithe.
But when not sit down and talk to your wife and
maybe find a happy medium. My hubby's parents
gave very little to their Church and my parents
gave so much more. So, when we married we
sat down and talked and then gave what we
thought was best. Pray always works for us too.
2007-02-04 00:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my oppinion, any contribution is a good contribution. As my wife says, its the thought that counts.
Your wife is right, In your honest oppinion, what is better, One of many churches present in your country, or the welfare of a child in a poorer country? You don't have to go to church to worship your god, but you do have to provide food and good conditions for a child to live.
Im sure your judgment will be ethical with or without my comment.
2007-02-04 00:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by Dr A. Vencicio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a middle ground, a charity where you can give an amount that eases your conscience and does not upset her. Serving God with our contributions can take many forms, and your gift to God can be made through many different groups.
You can also donate your time to the church in addition to a cash gift - I know one church where the pastor asked for 10% contributions in time rather than cash and it re-vitalized the church.
2007-02-04 00:24:09 · answer #5 · answered by Uncle John 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tithe what you are supposed to give. She is NOT GOD, and you are serving HIM. She is the one who has to live with herself on the inside if you know what I maen. Money is MORE important to her then serving God it seems. God is MUCH greater then she IS. Do what is right, and God will handle the rest. Sounds to me she is hard to live with anyhow being overbearing and all if she is like you said she is. Serve God, not your wife, (SPIRITUALLY) By the way, you ARE cheating God if you continue to do this.
2007-02-04 00:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋