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Question

This is not the kind of question that someone can read and say "right, here's what you gotta do", but I think your answers might help me, so plz lemme know if you'd be in my position, what would you do?

I like this guy who's my housemate, but I'm not sure if I love him [i nvr been in any kind of relationship before (neither serious nor fun)].
Its not even his appearance that I am attracted to, its his way of thinking, his thoughts and the way he looks at the world and literally anything in this world. I adore talking talking to him. And, whenever, I am in the hosue kitchen, he makes a point to just hang around and start a talk (tho I, start by generally asking how his day was, which I ask everyone else too) and then we end up talking for like hours together.

He speaks to almost everybody, the same way, as he does to me, the only difference, a bit longer (we sometimes spend about 7 hours in the lounge talking about random stuffs) and he's told me a few things about his family that he wudn't tell others (maybe thats becuz I told him about mine?).
I dont want him distanced to me by telling him I like him (if he only likes me as a friend and nothing else).

He previously had a girfriend who he broke up with and I dont want to push him into liking me, becuz if he does not, he just does not..its that simple.

Also, he's from Norway and I am from Thailand and we're both presently in the United Kingdom, pursuing our education and after our education wud be back in our respective countries.

I dont see a point to the "like me, like me not" game. Also, I dont think I will be staying in the same house as I am at present becuz I want to do a placement and chances are, the placement is not gonna be in this city. I dont want to lose him, but at the same time I dont want to alienate him either.

I know for sure that I'll not find a person like him. Should I just forget about these things and carry on?...As I mentioned before, he's nice to everybody, so I'm dont wanna be getting the wrong ideas that he likes me.

If you care to give your opinion or suggestion that might help me, I'd be more than happy to read them.
Even if you dont, I still appreciate that you actually did care to read the question.


--Stay blessed,

Answer 1

i would ask him what he thinks and be honest and straight forward. you obviously talk well together and he likes you so a direct conversation isnt going to change anything.
we can hypothesize and analyze for hours but the best thing is to just be up front with the person. if he distances then he wasnt meant to be in your life. a true friend will stand by you even after you get serious and ask difficult questions.

Answer 2

If you don't want to make things weird between the two of you, just keep hanging out like you have been and see if anything happens.. chances are, if you like him and he likes you, it'll start to show and you guys will show the feelings more (it might start like just sitting close together on the couch or something, closer than you would with a different friend).

But, at the very least, before you leave for a different placement or whatever, get some contact info from him, so you can stay in touch.. just be like "I've really enjoyed our little chats and talking to you, and I'd like to keep that up while I'm away" or something like that...

Answer 3

Sounds like you two have a lot in common and would make a good couple. It is more likely, however, that you will be going separate ways soon regardless.
I guess it depends on how you feel about relationships, if you want to get intimate or not. Just hold your feelings in check a little so you don't get too hurt when you leave. The experience can be a very wonderful and gratifying thing for you both, and give you some lasting memories. Sometimes it is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.

Answer 4

Its possible this guy likes you more than just a friend. But if you're not going to be around to pursue a relationship then I wouldn't try to take this relationship any farther than just friends. It seems you two get along very well. Its sad to know that you won't be together with him very long. Perhaps you can still keep in contact with each other over the phone or through e-mail. Good luck to you, hope things work out well.

Answer 5

I think it's worth it to take the risk and tell him you like him - what's the worst that could happen? Yeah, so it's not exactly practical with the whole going back to seperate countries thing, but you can figure that out if and when you come to it. Once you move, it could be harder to bring it up, but at the same time LIVING with someone who you just started seeing would be weird too.. sorry if I'm not being much help, but I say go for it! :) Good luck. If it doesn't work out, you can just enjoy the great friend.

Answer 6

Lovely Miss Britt. We don;t have your answers. We can't know what's going on. But I can tell you where you can find it. It's in Your Heart. It's in his. It's in how they beat. And if they beat as one. It's in your Eyes, and how you feel when you're around him. It's in his Blood Pressure. When he's in the room, with you. It's not for us to say. Listen to Your Heart. Then brag about what it has to say. `Cause it won't lie. It wants to to be happy. And that's where you need to be. Good Luck. God Bless.

Answer 7

Just keep talking to him all you can. There is nothing better in the world than that kind of relation. Try not to loose contact but there is no need to push it.

Answer 8

when the moment takes you, just blurt out, "Hey, let's have casual, no-strings-attached sex right now!"

but that's not hot; hot is just pulling your pants down and turning around and bending over

Answer 9

You like him-a lot-for him! Wow! This is worth the risk-so tell him.

Answer 10

you need to make your own decision