i found a load of porn on my boyfriends computer, porn i can live with but some of the stuff was disgusting like urine, fists and all sorts of nasty things girls what is your views and is this sort of porn normal
2007-02-03 23:31:03 · 37 answers · asked by crazychick19831983 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it is what he wants to try but when you work in an old people home you realise how smelly urine is dam right dirty
2007-02-03 23:44:38 · update #1
Dont get mad at him dear... Its normal to watch porn but make him not to view such dirty porn..
2007-02-04 00:06:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol totally normal. embarrassing, but normal.
Guys are more visually stimulated than women. That's the reason why we need porn when masturbating. Don't take it too personally.
Unless: Masturbating is an obsession, he denies you, and chooses porn over you.
I don't see anything wrong here though. I understand why you would be upset, but you have to understand that guys usually "need" visual stimulation when masturbating.
Also, urine and fist porn is quite popular. Haven't you ever heard of golden shower? While you may think it's disgusting, he does not. Just as long as he's not going over-the-top, don't worry about it. Just don't take it personally.
Someone here posted: "Looks like you're not good enough for him."
Not True.
Oh and also: "Urine is dam right dirty."
I think you'd be surprised to find out that Urine is actually 100% sterile the very second it comes out of our bodies.
You shouldn't try anything you don't want to. Talk to him about it. Good Luck with Everything. :)
2007-02-03 23:46:21 · answer #2 · answered by Bobby_Bomberman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The porn people watch does not necessarily mean it is what they are into......or want to try....So dont worry about it too much.......if it makes you uncomfortable then talk to him about it, you definately have that right.....I would mention it to him and express how it does bother you but would not totally hang the guy for it....
Porn is fantasy......Generally when a guy (or girl) is looking at out of the norm porn it is because regular porn no longer does it for him.....and in order to get the same feeling from the porn he has to step it up....This is a red flag, as beleive it or not there is worse porn out there then the sibject matter he is looking at, but it means he is probably hooked on the porn....To find what you did means he IS more then a casual surfer of porn....mention it and express your disgust, but let him know you love him still, but this type of behavior has to stop.....Then unfortunately you will have to snoop a little bit to make sure he is stopping this addiction.....Not sure where you found the porn on his comp before but you can check his cookies folder in windows and see every place he has been on the net....
2007-02-03 23:41:47 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny T 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
From a man's point of view, ask your boyfriend first - it could be that he's never experienced this kind of stuff before and is just curious. Maybe his buds have sent it to him, maybe he looked by accident, maybe someone else used his computer - there are so many different reasons.
OR
Maybe he likes what he saw and then u will need to make that choice!
Good luck!
2007-02-03 23:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by Stav 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men normally are glued on porn.. but those kind of porn.. he might need professional help.. however.. in my opinion, it's "forgivable".. unless if he makes those porn come true without you knowing it.. but then again.. you can both sit down and talk about it.. but dont be very much confrontational.. you know how men hate that.. be supportive because he might need you emotionally to support him now.. especially if he'll be needing help.. be honest to him that it bothers you and then you could see for yourself whether he needs professional help or not.. if he cooperates then good but if he doesn't.. then you'll have to be very patient.. sometimes it just takes time, patience, and a lot of courage to understand the other person.. you love him right?
2007-02-03 23:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by terra 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's normal just be grateful he is doing this on his own and not asking you to take part, unless you want to that is he must be saving the good (stiff??) stuff for you but still getting what he wants from the Internet that must be better than going behind your back with a someone else.
2007-02-07 23:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by Pink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably one of those fantasies that people have that he wants kept private and probably never try out.
Talk to him about it but he might get a bit embarressed about it. All men have weird fantasies (you know the whole twin thing etc) so I wouldnt worry too much about it - especially seeing as he hasnt asked you to do anything like this!
Its fine as long as there is nothing illegal (i.e. underage kids or someone being forced against their will) so try to forget about it.
2007-02-03 23:48:20 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be curious is to be human. Please do not jump to conclusions. It is possible that he too found it offensive. And if he didn't he was just looking, doesn't mean he wants it in his life. Fantasy is normal and human. To answer your question professionally, yes it is normal, if everyone in the pictures was over 18.
2007-02-03 23:42:34 · answer #8 · answered by E-Razz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a lot of men look at porn, its perfectly normal, and it has no reflection of how your relationship is for him, we all fantasise, its when the fantasies become reality it can cause probs if the other party finds it obscene
2007-02-04 01:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by chakra girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no, it not normal and if its to weird for you just explain to him how you feek about what you saw. Tell him that you don't mind regular porn it's the wierd ****, you don't like.
2007-02-03 23:51:35 · answer #10 · answered by pvy_crazy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋