She's absolutely crazy she's had three people in my family thrown in jail. She hits my brother. I've been to court so many times. Where I live the police department won't do anything. I need help!
2007-02-03 23:07:02 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
stay away from her
2007-02-03 23:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Often the police will not get involved with domestic issues unless there is an immediate physical risk to a family member.
It sounds like you have a medical problem with your sister in law and which could be caused by one of any number of problems-alcohol,drug induced,Bi Polar.
You and your brother need to talk over a strategy and get to the root cause which may mean getting her seen by a competent mental health practitioner.
If she's hitting your brother that's assault in any language and this woman has got to be told that she's lost the run of herself and that such behavior will no longer be tolerated by anyone in the family any longer.
My one reservation is how come three of your family members got thrown into jail for what (I take from your insinuation) was for no valid reason?
2007-02-03 23:18:32 · answer #2 · answered by bearbrain 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my brothers wife is crazy as well, she has be taken away so many times the kids done want to b around her , only around their dad, an most times it comes down to her not getting her own way, she always goes 2 the mental place lol, its gone to far, and we hve all had words with her. but it only makes it worse for my brother when we say something, and at least twice a month they split up then days later they r back tohether again. its stupid. im sure she has voices in her head.and the poor kids hve to change schools all the time because of it. but the thing is, my brother loves her. but he also says that he stays cause of the kids. its crazy really. she has even hit him a few times. but their is not alot u can do until your brother learns first to just stay away. as soon as he gets away from her, then you can help more and yes the police dont do much at all. because they r married i think its because they dont care unless someone is hurt real bad. then they decide opps, we better do our job now. i think alot of women out their who r like this, r like this cause they no they can get away with it. you hve to show her your not scared
2007-02-03 23:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by louise 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as your brother chooses to stay in this relationship, the only thing you can do is stay away from her. I realize this is difficult for you. Personally, I could never understand why anyone who was being abused would continue to live in that environment. My uncle is in the same kind of relationship, everyone in my family has tried to help him leave her (he has left countless times), but he always go back. He has ended up in the hospital with serious complications. My family believes that if he doesn't get away from her, she will eventually kill him. There is nothing you can do if he won't leave. The best thing for you to do for yourself is to avoid her. Best of Luck.
2007-02-04 00:35:53 · answer #4 · answered by QT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whew! People like that are like cancer--they can take over peoples' lives! Your brother is crazy to stay with her--hope they don't have any kids! BUT, to save your own family, I think it would be worth it for you to pick up and relocate from that disaster area!! You know your own kids are somewhat affected by all of that chaos! I don't think you CAN change the situation--mental health help is scarce and governments have to protect the mentally ill, too. I think that you should seriously consider improving the quality of life for your own immediate family and yourself!!! ladybugew is right!
2007-02-04 03:50:57 · answer #5 · answered by Martell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since she is your brothers wife the problem is MORE HIS than yours. But if you see her getting abusive towards your brother or anyone else for that matter YOU call the police. BUT it will be up to the person who is being abused to pursue the matter. I myself would avoid her and NOT allow her to my house. And yes, I have a very similar situation and I have told this person, (my Niece) NEVER to come to my home or I would have her arrested. I do NOT talk to her and never will again. So these issues can be addressed. But you will have to make some hard decisions. good Luck.
2007-02-03 23:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why does your brother stay with her? If she is hitting him the police needs to be involved. Does your brother ever press charges against her? If he doesnt the police cant do anything. If that isnt the case the police dept isnt doing their job. Have you ever been able to talk to your brother alone? I would try to find away to do that without her knowing. Ask him why he stays in that abusive relationship. Chances are she threatens him and he is afraid to leave. But if your family stands behind him then he has a better chance to leave. If your brother chooses to stay with her I would break off contact with them. You dont need that stress in your life. I would let your brother know you are there for him and tell him you would do anything to help him. But also tell him until he makes a stand and leaves her it is in your best interest to stay away. He may choose to live that way but you dont have to. No one should have to live that way, and his wife needs mental help. Maybe you also need to talk to other family members on their thoughts. If you all stand behind him and he knows he has choices maybe he will leave her. I bet she threatens your brother and that is why he stays. But if he has options he needs to take them. Life is to short to be miserable with someone, hopefully your brother will see that. But I would suggest trying to talk to him and find out why he stays. And if he continues to stay tell him you love him but you are not going to live that way anymore. Break off contact with them and enjoy your life. be happy!
Good Luck!
2007-02-03 23:53:07 · answer #7 · answered by helen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they were put in jail then Im sure there was a reason. but if she is hitting on her husband then maybe some prozac is in order.
2007-02-03 23:13:36 · answer #8 · answered by JAMI E 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stay away and be glad you're not the one married to her.
2007-02-03 23:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is your brothers problem....he chooses to be with her.....distance yourself from the situation.
2007-02-03 23:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by zaeli22 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take her to a good psychologist.
2007-02-04 00:14:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋