I have a dilemma that I find difficult to deal with. My brother's wife launched an all out attack of me in February 2006, completely out of the blue, no warning...nothing. I was stunned.
I decided the best route to take was to let it go and not fuel the situation. I did ask her in the beginning what had happened for her to feel so angry at me, only to be screamed at and accused of things that are simply not true. It almost borders on comical the things she is accusing me of...My brother is baffled too.
I cannot continue to allow this verbal abuse and attack of my characater...it is becoming slanderous at this point. I need to find the best way to tell her to back off now...I must let her know that she has crossed the line, and I will not tolerate any more of her verbal abuse, and bring an end to this nonsense once and for all.
Any suggestions on what would be the best way to do this? It has become necessary that I insist she stop her ridiculous behavior.
2007-02-03 23:06:28 · 13 answers · asked by sugar4660 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you need to stand up for yourself and tell her off. Tell her that you won't tolerate her disrespect and lies any longer. ...You are part of this family, you deserve respect, but obviously she is unable to provide that.... Therefore, you will break off contact with her until she stops her irrational lies and verbal abuse.
Basically, you need to tell her you won't deal with it anymore and then need to live up to what you say.....dont talk to her, don't answer her phone calls, email, etc until some time has passed. Keeping contact with her will only fuel the situation. Maybe at some point in the future, she will come around and apologize for what she has done to your family.
I hope that helps a little
2007-02-03 23:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would probably find a way to talk to her even if it's through a 3rd party person or video tape her and show her how ridicules she is behaving and sounding. Maybe she needs some kind of mental help, maybe she's stressed and she's targeted you for some unknown reason. Ask your brother if she does this to anyone else, and hate to say but maybe your brother may be instigating the situation (even unknowingly). Anyway there are a lot of IF'S in this situation.
Just simply tell her that if she cannot sit down or even quietly talk it out and get to the bottom of this that you will have no choice but to sue her for slander (last resort) even if you just get a lawyer friend to send a bluff letter.
BUT, you can never please everyone all of the time and you never really know whats in someones else's head and I would not let this rule your life or have that much of an impact on it at least as little as possible, I have a crazy-sister and i've had to learn to live with it and keep it to a minimum. good luck
2007-02-04 00:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by cher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your brother seems to be baffled by this too, why not ask for his help? Is dear old sis so bad that even he can't shut her up? Blood is thicker than water - he should be willing to help put a stop to all this. Does she do this in front of other people? If so, write a letter. If not, have your brother, friend or another family member present, but you have to tell her to back off.
2007-02-03 23:26:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you should figure out why it is she feels it necessary to call you down as such and then you'll be able to tell her to back off because you'll know where she is coming from.
If it stems from a pure dislike of you, well, you should simply just turn your back on her and walk away. Speak to your brother surely he will know best which angle to take with the woman he has elected to share his life with.
2007-02-03 23:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by audaciousfelon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gather all of the family you can who will support you, including your brother and sis-in-law. Start off the conversation by saying that "we are all family here, so let's work as one." Then Explain that you have been harassed and it needs to stop, ask if anyone has any suggestions. Ask your family to help you.
2007-02-04 01:53:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got faith there's a clarification why you do no longer supply examples of those assaults. Doing so might disclose your intentional or unintended mischaracterization of the issue. Please tell me you're no longer basing this on what some one-off guy or woman stated someplace. Leaving me to wager at what your source is delivers very handy hide for what you prefer to have faith.
2016-10-01 10:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my rule of thumb for inlaws is to let my husband handle things pertaining to his family and i handle things pertaining to my family. she is your SIL, your brother is your first line of defense. It is up to him to stop the behavior. You only have a peripheral value in her life. Her husband is the only one who can curb this behavior and get to the bottom of the problem. So she has a problem with you...big deal. Move on, avoid her at family gatherings and don't invite her into your life. What are you going to gain by getting into a pissing match that has gone on for a year now?
2007-02-04 01:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by Sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it doesn't sound like it came out of the blue, it sounds like you did something to anger her, and frankly from the defensive tone in your post, I think you know what it is.
I suggest you avoid her. If what she is angry about isn't true, then that's all you have to say. You don't need to defend yourself, as you say, you didn't do anything. Just ignore her.
2007-02-04 00:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you said it well here. Tell her that you cannot and will not tolerate the verbal abuse anymore. Tell her that you are all family and it's time to bury the hatchet and act like grown women.
2007-02-04 04:09:33 · answer #9 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her like it is, Tell her she seems to have issues that are not understood by anyone and that her behavior is abusive & uncalled for.
Tell her to either talk about it & resolve it like an adult or to just shut up.
If she continues then get a protective order against her.
2007-02-03 23:20:59 · answer #10 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋