I'm 18 years old with a high maturity level, I've been seeing a man who is 30. We have a lot in common and we can talk for hours if we get the chance. I'm out of high school and I work a lot so we don't even see each other that often. My parents think that it's odd that a 30 year old is interested in their 18 year old daughter. Is it really too much of a difference? (12 years)
2007-02-03 22:58:01 · 14 answers · asked by Bizzaregrl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
READ TIME IS GOD BY COLLS THERE IS A LOT IN COMMON BETWEEN 12 YEARS GAP FOLKS AND THEY R BOTH MENTALLY AND SEXUALLY COMPATIBLE ANY SEX YES I HAVE STUDIED IN GREAT DETAILS. ALSO I KNOW PEOPLE MORE THAN 14 YRS DIFF HAPPILY MARRIED. ITS 4 U TO DECIDE AND CONVINCE YOUR FOLKS. GOOD LUCK
2007-02-03 23:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by KOHLI V 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You maybe mature but what about him. Don't take that the wrong way but how did you meet? Was he hanging around the high school you went to? Has he had any relationships with people his own age? If so when? Why did he break them off? Or did his significant other break up with him.
In other words, yes your parents are right. It is very very odd that a thirty year old man even found himself in a situation where he could become romantically involved (rememer odd doesn't mean impossible).
I also want to say that my cousin dated and married a man who was ten years her elder. They were verry very happy. But the constant differences in years did take its toll and the two of them did get a divorce about four years of marriage.
Think of it this way, when you were going into first grade, he was graduating high school and starting his college career (if he went to college). What do you really have in common? He remembers the rubics cube, records, tape cassettes, and pac man. You have been raised in a generation of MP3 and cell phones.
Maybe you like the way he makes you feel. You probably have feelings of safety and securitye. I am sure that having an eighteen year old girl interested in him, makes him feel young and desirable. What man wouldn't like that.
A relationship with him isn't impossible just implausable. Just take some time and re-evaluate your situation. Good Luck!
2007-02-03 23:18:03 · answer #2 · answered by ekosmo72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though I'm only 13 I can answer this question: 12 YEARS IS NOT REALLY TOO MUCH OF A DIFFERENCE. Why do people confuse about this a lot? Because they confuse numbers and maturity. Maturity is the real factor of relationship. And since you say you have a high maturity level, I think you can go on with the guy. (NOTE: I know about this because I like a guy who's about twice my age. Yeah, I am mature.)
2007-02-03 23:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by Aica D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me i've been there
it's not that he is too old for you or that the age difference is too great, it is that you are 18 and although he makes it seem that you have worlds in common, it is just that he is more experienced and can tell you anything you want to hear to get you
take another look at him when your say 23 and he is 35 if he is still in your circles, you will either have more incommom with him and it could be a workable relationship or you will see the creep that your parents see
just a few years from now you will realize all of the times that your parents said do this, don't do that, that they were right, they are not trying to be asses, they really do love you and want to protect you. a man who is 30, although dreams of nailing teenagers all of the time, should be working and starting a family if not married and have one already. he is either a creep or too immature for his age--either way it is your choice, but from my experience, just take things slow and trust your gut.
2007-02-03 23:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by kewlchica 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In most cases I would say age doesn't matter but at 18 you have so much life to experience still.
You really need people your own age right now or you will miss out on being young.
In your mid 20's you'll have more experience & know if an older man is for you or not.
Right now just be young & enjoy people of your age & who likes the things you like.
2007-02-03 23:10:45 · answer #5 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honest ...ages is just a number, if you an this man get a long good, find,,, for i seen a lot of older mem with younger women , an got a great married,,,, an too rember this,older men ,got a better start on life than some younger men,,, they done been around an are ready to settle down,
2007-02-04 01:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave a limit of at least 4 years between the ages
2007-02-03 23:03:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i always think that love is blind not even age can make it see but i think 30 is a bit too old i mean maybe it's not love maybe he's too desperate that he's looking for girlz that age(NO OFFENCE) i'm not trying to bring you down but you oughta give it another thought
2007-02-03 23:03:01 · answer #8 · answered by anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are a quite a little bit to young to be going with30 yearold even if you say you are classified as highly matured it neve will work out for you in the long run
2007-02-03 23:21:08 · answer #9 · answered by harold g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've met alot of teenagers who claim to have "high" maturity levels, but I find it extremely rare to be true.
2007-02-03 23:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by Tuco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋